Hello. I’m Freddy 21. I find myself hard to sleep. It’s almost 6 am. Suddenly I think bout my mom. I had a terrible past before I moved out from home.
Mom & dad divorced since I was 5. After divorced I must live with both of them because I’m the only child of them. I went to dad’s house after school. In the evening mom picked me up & sleep with her.
Mom is not alcoholic or gambler or else. She was a career woman, expertise in technology. But she has something else, she liked to hurt me.
Ex: Punched my head with keys when I was 5 till its bleeding. Teacher got me medicine. Hit me with belt till my back bleeding, knock my head to wall till my nose bleeding, hit me with hanger, woods till it’s broken, shower me with hot water, did something rough with scissors which-you-don’t-wanna-know. Said rude things like, she is my mom & she is the only one who has right to kill me. She did those horrible things 6 days a week.
She said I must not tell to my dad, or she’ll do worst.
2007-09-16 11:16:02 · 11 answers · asked by Freddy Jr 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I always cover my wounds back from school. If my dad found, I’ll lie. One time, it didn’t work, the scars was too huge to cover. Dad & mom had a huge quarrel. And I was a dead meat after that. She did worst than what my dad found in my body. I still remember my next door auntie. She was very kind to me. She often gave me medicine & said nice thing to me. But she couldn’t get involved. These all happened when since I was 6 to 15.
When I was 16 I stayed with dad, but I keep all just in my heart. When I was 19 I moved out. I have been separate with my mom for almost 6 years. But after she lost her job few times, she tried to find me. Now she found me.
She said that she only has me her son in this world. No one can support her anymore –my dad no longer supports her financially. I believe now I’m capable to support her. She is homeless. She is staying with her sister now. She said if I refuse to support her, what will happen when she gets older? She said she needs me.
2007-09-16 11:16:38 · update #1
She wants to stay with me. I’ve talk to my dad, my dad said stay away from her. I’ve talk to my girlfriend; she said my mom is crazy. I’ve talk to my aunts; they said my mom is freak. I know my mom wasn’t a good mom, but I’m worrying bout her future. What will happen when she gets older? Should I support her? I do have lil doubt consider what she did to me. Any solutions?
Thank you. Sorry for the length.
2007-09-16 11:17:34 · update #2
I believe she won’t do that anymore to me, because I’m an adult now. She said nothing about past, so do I. It’s just I’m worrying bout her future. That’s it. Support her or not? I’m so confused. If yes, is she worth it? If no, how bout if she gets older? No son, no husband, no home, no money? Oh my god…
My girlfriend said, better she go to hell. My closest person is only my girlfriend & family. I can’t tell this to friend or others. I find no satisfied answer from them. Hope you guys can help me. Thank you once again.
2007-09-16 11:33:21 · update #3
Freddy; If YOU choose to support your mother financially, that is YOUR decision. What she did to you was more than abuse, it was torture. You owe her nothing. Yes she is your mother. She gave you life. That is all. She made it where you lived a life of terror and taught you not to trust her. You can help her out financially, as I said, but it would be twisted to take her into your home. The woman can go into assisted living. She does not deserve a relationship with you. Period. She should be imprisoned for what she did to you, and would have been if I would have been your auntie! IF she were that lucky. I work for the protection of children, and can tell you that what you lived through is amazing. I commend your spirit and your love for this woman even after all of this. You are much more forgiving than I would be! You owe it to yourself to have the best life that you can have. That means not with your mother in the picture. I admire the heart that you have and the desire to do the right thing! Go well young man and be happy for you will bring much knowledge to those who also suffer abuse! Take care of You and let her sleep in the bed she made. Hugs and heartfelt well wishes! Nana
2007-09-16 11:31:12 · answer #1 · answered by nanawnuts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Support her if your heart wants to. But if you do, since she lives at her sister's house, then don' ask her questions about the past, if your heart desires just give her money or something. She'll probably find some traces of your fear, but stand calm, right now you're able to stop things. From her intentions you'll see and decide what to do, after all, I know that despite how horrible our parents were to us, (like I still have fears), we can't stop this feeling of being appreciated once. So see the situation. That's all I can advise you to dom because I'm still having mind problems when it regards to ths situations...
2007-09-16 11:38:31 · answer #2 · answered by Silvara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one should be treated like that especially by one of their parents. Talk to someone you trust and talk to them about this, someone besides your aunt needs to take action into this. Get some help. Don't worry about your mom, I know she is your mom but you shouldn't worry what happens to her and you don't have to support her. She needs to get some help too, that is probably the only thing that you can do for her. Get her some help and thats about it.
2007-09-16 11:24:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I'm sorry to hear about what your mom did to you and the challenges you have had in the past.
Well, the situation that would be best for everyone might be to move your mom into an elderly home.
Good luck!
2007-09-16 11:43:42 · answer #4 · answered by miss brightside 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It think of the two one among them choose greater interest, animal abuse, and baby abuse. in my opinion they are the two as undesirable a one yet another. No living creature ought to pass contained in direction of the abuse some pass by way of.
2016-11-14 15:16:51 · answer #5 · answered by trippi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After reading your own story do you really want to let her back in your life? She needs help. Something you can't do. She made her life the way it is. She needs to deal with it.
I still don't understand if your teacher noticed some of the abuse why she/he didn't get help for you. Why didn't dad do something?
2007-09-16 11:31:42 · answer #6 · answered by Ann K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this sounds harsh but tell her she should have thought about her own future when she was abusing you. show no mercey untill she begs and pleads on her knees and then consider letting her stay in the worst room in your house, only once in a while, with no blankets, and she has to cook and clean for you. ☺
2007-09-16 11:24:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like the Karma Police have caught up with your mother.
As harsh as it sounds, I think you need to stay away from her. I can't see anything good about you supporting her or letting her move in with you.
2007-09-16 11:23:09 · answer #8 · answered by ZCT 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I felt so bad reading your story of abuse. I can't imagine how anyone could treat a child as badly as you were. Don't you ask yourself, why didn't someone step in and take you away from her ? You need to get on with your life and let her live hers. Please don't allow anyone bully you into taking her in. Can you imagine how disruptive she would be to a young family?
2007-09-16 11:30:37 · answer #9 · answered by jcf6865 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello freddy, please don't take this woman in, you r a good person, who has got on with life, seeing her again will open up old wounds, she is your mother, maybe u feel you need her to need you now, but she wasn't there when u needed her. she's olny bothering you because she has no one else, and she deserves this, you have a new life now, don't let her in it. move away if u have to
2007-09-17 08:46:22 · answer #10 · answered by Katherine D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋