My gf and I have been on a long distance relationship for about a year now, I was friends with her before and always had a bit of a crush on her. We started our relationship and it was brilliant, I get to see her about every month for a few days and the first time was excellent. She's leaving her family and friends and moving in with me very soon and now I'm getting worried about a few things and remembering some of the bad points of what happened previous. 1. She was thinking of her ex bf a few months ago then saw him and asked if I thought it was a sign. 2. She said she had to leave a club cuz she was getting randy with the guys in there 3. She tells me she had sex with one of my best friends just before we started going out 4. Talking on the phone she sometimes just stops listening and listens to a chat happening in another room 5. I'd sms her and she just won't reply for hours on end. I'm starting to get really worried about moving in with her. Am I just being pathetic?
2007-09-16 10:46:38 · 6 answers · asked by JamieJ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Long distance relationships can be tough, I am currently in one. If you are dedicated enough to have it last a year & if you love her enough & feel movin in is right, then go for it! But to help ease your mind, here are my thoughts on the issues:
1) all girls every once in awhile will think about ex's. it happens. some women read way to into signs, but as it was a few months ago & she didn't persue the "sign", you should feel somewhat better.
2) at least she did leave the club. all girls like to know they are "hot" & can get attention from other guys. she could have stayed, but she did leave.
3) when she had sex with the friend, it was before you started dating, you can't help that. is she having sex with your best friend while you're datin, then i'd be havin doubts.
4) some girls like gossip & to know whats goin on with other ppl she is around. maybe talk to her if it bugs you that much
5) maybe she is just busy?
its not pathetic to make sure everythin is ok when movin in w/ someone, it is a HUGE commitment. good luck & best wishes!
2007-09-16 10:58:44 · answer #1 · answered by wateronthered 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in all honesty, though i wouldn't know much seeing that i'm only 17, i think you're wasting your time. i've tried a long distance relationship. my ex was 5 hours away from me and the only time we saw each other was at conventions, which was once a year. it didn't work out.for the simple fact, which is just like your ex, i needed someone there at all times. that way if i'm crying and hurt he's there to comfort me. not hundreds of miles away. i was hurt when i broke up with him, but i just couldn't handle watching couples walking around holding hands and kissing, and my boyfriend was so far away, and i was always left wondering if i would ever see him. so i say just move on. the right will come. you'll see.
2016-05-21 03:02:07 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, your worries are totally legitimate. If you ask me, this girl is just trying to make you jealous. It sounds like she really likes you, but she wants you to get angry and talk about how she is "all yours." If you do that, though, it's just going to make things worse, so shrug things off like they don't bother you, and I think she might slack off a little.
2007-09-16 10:51:34 · answer #3 · answered by Kari Grace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't move with her.
She got boned by your best friend, she had to leave a club or she would have gotten boned there, and she "saw" her ex.
No man don't waste your time.
2007-09-16 10:50:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
in general it sounds like she isn't very mature and not ready for a serious relationship. I would be very careful with how you proceed with this relationship especially since she is to be moving in with you soon.
2007-09-16 10:58:01 · answer #5 · answered by lv_consultant 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Living-in jitters.
2007-09-16 10:50:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋