Feeling obsessed! Is this normal?

Question

Here's the deal: I have a HUGE crush on this guy at work. I've never had any trouble attracting men before; it's always come naturally. Usually I had problems with too MANY guys interested in me at once. Well, this guy is super nice, smart, I think he's hot (maybe not in the traditional sense, but to me he is), funny, you name it. I feel so out of my element! I can't stop thinking about him! Is this nuts? Or is this just major attraction? And... I just don't know what to do! My self-confidence is incredibly shaky right now; I don't want him to think I'm pathetic. :) I guess I'm so used to having the shoe on the other foot, and now that he's not going ga-ga over me (I'm hoping it's because it's a work situation), I feel so insecure.

Do you think it's possible that I've never been in love before? Is that why this feels so unfamiliar to me? Any words of encouragement/ practical advice appreciated!

Answer 1

Ooo you've always been in love, thats not the point. You've just never loved like this. Remember that, also just because you "feel" this way now doesn't make it anymore more or less special then before, this is all you, this is all the way YOU make yourself feel about HIM, so don't let yourself..... fool yourself. Lets just say thats why people marry abusive partners.....