Thinks that we're having sex. We aren't. We've been together a year and 7 months and we're only 15, we aren't stupid enough to have sex at 15 but as many times as my bf tells him that he keeps thinking we're having sex. Yes we kiss & make out a lot but we truely do love each other, our relationship is based on trust and loyalty, we talk about everything, most importantly we dont want to have sex..We know we love each other so the way we see it we're in love, we'll be together a long time, there will be plenty of time for that kind of thing if we get married, but no one believes that we dont believe in sex before marriage. And yes, his parents had him very young and they aren't together anymore, thats another reason we want to wait, but his dad only focuses on the way he was when he was 15. Believe it or not some of us do want to wait! So can someone please tell me why parents always assume that kids are having sex? What's a way to convince him for good that we aren't?
2007-09-16 10:14:52 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
yes, i did already ask this question but i meant for it to be in this section instead of the one it was in last time! sorry, just an accident.
2007-09-16 10:20:15 · update #1
first off...i am proud of you for making a stand and not being like the "typical teenager"....its good to hear there are teenagers who are smart enough to wait...there really isn't anything you can do to prove your point......just the fact that you know you are doing anything stupid like that is all that matters.....you two are really mature for your ages...good job!!
2007-09-16 13:55:02 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe you. My problem as a parent is just how serious you two are. The two of you are only 15. You are both just kids. You should be on one of the school teams, or worrying about the school play. He should also. There are so many great things to do and enjoy in life while you're still young. Did I mention thinking about college and a career too. You still have places to go and people to meet, before you start to play house for a lifetime. You probanly give him the attention he never got at home. I've seen this happen so many times and I'm sure your parents have too. They want what is best for you. They don't want you tied down at such a young age. Enjoy your childhood to the fullest, there is plenty of time to be an adult( it is no fun most of the time either). Good Luck!
2007-09-16 10:32:37 · answer #2 · answered by postal p 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Parents, and people for that matter, are inclined to think "the worst" - it's called fear and worry and its part of what helps us survive as a species.
If I were you I would say, next time the subject comes up,: "Since you insist on believing we are having sex then why do you keep asking? - you are not going to get a different answer from me - I'm being as honest as I know how."
Then say "If you do think we are having sex then do you have any useful advice because someday, if we stay together, we might do it." You won't have anything to worry about if you know you've done your part by educating us."
Perhaps say " I don't mind discussing sex if you don't, but just being accused is getting old."
2007-09-16 10:26:41 · answer #3 · answered by srsly 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not all parents assume that their children are having sex. Your/his parents are possibly just concerned that you two are sexually active. They are thinking about what they were doing at your age. Do you talk to your parents about these things? It may help if you explain not only that you're not sexually active but why you have made the decision to wait. It may help if they know that you have put some real thought into this. Example when my niece told me what she had done, she told me that she really regretted what she had done, she did love the guy but now knows that she should have waited. She was scared to death that she could be pregnant, she wasn't but it sure scared her.
As for his dad's opinion I know when guys come to pick up our girls my husband is always thinking "I know what I was thinking about and doing at that age" and you and your bf may not be able to change his opinion. When it comes to our girls he doesn't trust any guy. Part of that is just wanting to protect our children. As for me I talk to my children frequently about all aspects of their lives especially their relationships.
I hope my answer has help. Good luck.
2007-09-16 10:55:23 · answer #4 · answered by sara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-26 14:08:40 · answer #5 · answered by troche 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents are human. They are basing their belies from their own experiences.
2007-09-16 10:23:23 · answer #6 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Both of you tell him straight up. And then don't make yourselves out to be liars.
2007-09-16 13:12:07 · answer #7 · answered by Becky J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Didn't you already ask this question??
2007-09-16 10:17:31 · answer #8 · answered by jls2007 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋