Are today's children pampered and spoilt?

Question

It seems to me that society is being screwed up by parents who refuse to use the word "no" to their children. Most kids today seem to have more toys than they know what to do with, and don't know the value of anything.

A bit of smacking wouldn't do any harm, either.

Tara Elaine..good point, perhaps only as a last resort. The mere threat should be a deterrant.

Answer 1

parents are taking their childrens lives away. kids cant play outside. cant walk to school. go to the shops, play in the park. kids are wrapped in cotton wool.
given anything they want even though they dont really want it. they are turning their kids into fat lazy useless people.
in my road there are children who are driven to school. 500 metres away. they are collected from school and shut up in their room. they have tv computers game boy etc. they eat rubbish. they arent pampered and spoilt. they are ruined.

Answer 2

We're creating a whole generation of horrors if you ask me.

Children aren't told 'No' often enough, (or at all in some cases), have no guidelines or boundaries and an ever increasing number seem to think that if you don't have the latest designer clothes, a mobile by age 9 and a different games console for every day of the week you're under-privileged.

That said, in all honesty I don't think that it's the amount of 'stuff' you have as a child that is really the root cause of the increasing problems in our society.

I have no issue with children having lots of toys and with people who can afford to giving their children everything if that is their wish. I do, however, have a problem with what is effectively long term bribery replacing any form of 'real discipline' because parents don't want to incur the wrath of their offspring.

I genuinely just don't understand why parents increasingly think it's important for their children to 'like' them 100% of the time. I'm a parent and to my mind it's inevitable that at some point what my children want and what's good for them (be it long or short term) is going to differ.

At that point you need to have already established the rules in your household.

For example we don't allow "I won't" in our house.
I won't try that, I won't eat this, I won't wear proper shoes to school, I won't go to bed now, I won't do my homework & I won't tidy up are but a few of the phrases that you just don't hear within our walls.

What is wrong with these parents? It's not hard to achieve-you just set down firm boundaries when they're babies. Yes that's right, babies! It's no suprise you have a horror at 5 when you didn't apply boundaries or rules until they were 3 and the 'cute' factor had worn off now is it?

I'm sorry but it boils my blood to hear parents bleating about the fact that their darlings can't have chips and nuggets at school every day anymore and whining that it's all the teachers fault that Johnny has been expelled twice by the age of 6.

But I digress.

Let's put it this way, while I'm certainly not advocating beating children or locking them under the stairs it's absolutely time that the majority of parents stop cowering in the background, grow a spine and get a grip of their children.

Answer 3

Yep, i work in a private nursery and alot of the parents are well off. And you can see in the children that the parents dont disipline them in their behaviour. if you say no they scream shout, kick because they do not get thier own way. They dont know how to share and the parent even admit they do not know how to say no. A little bot of smacking from the parents, NOTHING major a tap aroung the back of the legs or on the hand never did me wrong

Answer 4

Yes, certainly in material things, and also parents want to be their child's "friend"... Most kids prefer their own friends, but really really need a parent who is prepared to make and keep boundaries...even when the kids push against them, as that is what makes them feel safe and loved, the way the rules stay the same, until a reasonable age is attained.
Give the kids your time, responsibilities right for their age, and rules to push against - you won't go far wrong!
PS Also make sure that you and your partner agree before speaking to the kids about anything that is wrong...
good luck!

Answer 5

I really think so but as a parent I also feel that I have given birth to a child just for the government to parent, so kids nowadays may be spoilt and have bad attitudes, and some parents may have become lazy but our rights have been almost completely removed, it seems there is always someone who is telling us how to raise our kids.

For me personally, I feel there are different and more positive ways of raising my child, without smacking and still being able to raise her with morals and manners.

Answer 6

I agree. Children have got it far too good.
There is no respect, no values and some need a good smack on the ****!!

For example:
Whilst on a day out last week, I went into the toilets where a young boy, aged about 4 was having a tantrum, shouting and kicking his mum.
All she kept saying was..'don't shout at mommy...sweetheart..don't get cross with mummy..'..I wanted to get hold of him and smack his bum..I'm sure he would have stopped being such a little shite there and then...

If that was my kid, they wouldn't have a chance to behave like that!!!!...and neither would i when I was a kid...I'd have been given a good hiding, and rightly so!!!!!

Answer 7

totally agree with you to many toys mums and dads not saying no was one of the biggest things me and ex wife argued about and also getting him designers clothes, now I have a house with very little toys and we got to the beach or some other activity and if you click on the photo link below you can see him having a terrible time without designers clothes or toys. Watching my sister with my nephew does my head in have learnt to bite my tongue, when he asks for mcdonalds he get it.
My son is not allowed to the fast food stores and everything has been explained to him about the health and enviroment side of it.
Nothing wrong with a bit of smacking, never did me any harm although never had to use it, if i threaten he listens.

Answer 8

all started? Pampering has continuously existed. modern young toddlers are lots greater socially state-of-the-paintings than the final technology of toddlers They be attentive to the thank you to control their mom and dad with habit that communicates to the mummy and dad that the mummy and dad are failing to offer the purposes that may additionally help the youngster to succeed. that's this style of hamster wheel. because of the fact many families are caught up interior the perception that their young toddlers choose specific advantages which would be contemplated because of the fact only like the fee of the kinfolk, they only haven't any theory what's definitely effective. Oh properly.

Answer 9

In some cases I think you are right, as for my case my son was given things that may be seen as spoiling him but I always spent time with him, taught him good manners, if he wanted something and we couldn't afford it it was explained to him why and he understood, sometimes he was told no but was always given a reason, I taught him to think about what he was spending his money on and taught him right from wrong.

He's at university now and doing well, he knows that everything wont be handed to him on a plate and works hard for what he wants out of life.

As for smacking other than the odd tap when he was to young to be able to reason with I didn't need to smack him, we talked it out calmly and that always worked.

But your right there are parents out there that seem to have lost the ability to say no and when they do and their child throws a temper they wonder why.

Answer 10

kids are way to spoiled. They seem to have lost their respect for adults and they expect everything to be given to them.. I'm not saying all kids are that way but more are spoiled than aren't.

I'm only 23 and I deffinately wasn't spoiled. I started working at 15 and from then on I had to pay for my own clothes for school, my food and everything else. (I'm suprised they didn't make me pay rent) Plus I had a full days work of chores on Saturdays and wasn't allowed sleepovers too often. I wouln't do that to my daughter b/c thats just ridiculous. But i think there has to be somewhere where you draw the line.

Answer 11

Well I'm not a parent yet (I'm only 15). But the kids i watch our HORRIBLY spoiled. One is 6- he still drinks out of a bottle his mom want take it away!!! The little girl is 2 she will throw fits if she doesn't get her way!! The parents let them eat whatever they want- one time i tried giving them fruit insted of candy/junk food they threw the fruit all over the floor. But not all kids are like this but some parents just don't care.