Alone at 36 while everyone is married with kids?!?! How did that happen? I put my career first and now I have a really good job and money to spend on what I want, but no one to spend it on. I spent this entire weekend alone. I can't wait to go back to work.
2007-09-16 09:23:25 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sorry to hear that. But I think you did the right thing putting yourself first. I put a relationship first and now I am suffering for it because I didnt finish school like I was planning and now that things are bad I think how I should have just finished what I had started instead of putting my education on hold and starting a relationship.
Sometimes, even though it doesnt feel like it, the best thing you can do is take care of yourself first.
You sound like a smart woman, just hold your head up, there must be someone looking for you, you just havent seen them yet.
Good Luck
2007-09-16 09:30:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you wanted to choose a career and put off marriage and kids. It's not too late. If you are thinking more about marriage and having kids, get out there and start dating. Being 36, unmarried, and no children is NOT a shame, the shame is if you want that, to not go for it. You made a career a priority, now go for a family. Some women do it the other way, family first, then career. Let some friends know that you are intersted in dating, and maybe they will know of some very nice gentlemen that are interested in dating. They are out there. I wish you the best, whatever you choose to do. :)
2007-09-16 16:33:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, & at the same time every woman who gave up their chances at a great career is screaming at their computer screens as they read your question that you should stop whinning, & count your lucky stars.
Life is full of compromise, & sacrifices. We all have to choose what it is we want the most because we can't do it all, & have it all. There just isn't enough time in one lifetime.
Instead of taking inventory of what you don't have, try adding up all of the things that you have. A great job, a career you really wanted, probably a good income, security etc.
Now if there's more you want out of life, then take a hard look at what you want, & decide what it is you are willing to sacrifice to get it.
Maybe it's that promotion you were working on, or that bonus that you can sacrifice to make the time necessary to meet a great guy that you can fit into your life.
In other words, take what great things you have now, & build on it from here.
2007-09-16 16:37:25 · answer #3 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pray for a husband, put in an order, God cares. Don't expect perfection however, God gives you what you want and need, and thus the same for the guy. Be sure your not to inflexible for a marriage, if its true for a woman like a guy whos been single till 36, you'll be tooo set in your ways, so be open.minded. It means your not broke in relationship wise. So work on being soft and sweet and open to new things. Don't talk work, be interested and focused on him. Also don't judge him if he makes less, as you mentioned you make enough money so maybe if hes home that would work for you, if he cooked, shopped and managed home base.
2007-09-16 16:36:13 · answer #4 · answered by kim 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would suggest picking up a weekend hobby that gets you out of the house so you can meet someone. Don't go out looking for someone, its always a disappointment that way. Just go out to do whatever hobby you think is interesting, that way your not at home alone all weekend thinking about how lonely you are. The person your looking for has no way to find you while your "at home alone all weekend"
2007-09-16 16:31:10 · answer #5 · answered by David Parker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly enough, that's how I'm planning to end my life, lol. My medical path is going to make me a single, rich doctor at age 36 or so.
Try and find time to go out to public place...or even better, meet someone you like at work.
Aside from being a bit more social, don't do any serious dating until you find a guy you genuinely like...dating isn't a game! It's a way to get to know potential husbands...^_~ Luck to you,
2007-09-16 16:29:44 · answer #6 · answered by Brommy A 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that what happens when you put your career before your life. But you can still get married and still have kids, so don't give up. and if you want to spend your money on someone just send it to me I take donations.
2007-09-16 16:28:44 · answer #7 · answered by Always ready for anything 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Probably because you wanted it that way. Go out to places, meet some people. I'm sure you'll find someone to share your evenings with, (or mornings, which ever the case may be). If nothing else, call me, I help you get rid of some of the money.
2007-09-16 16:30:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try be divorced at 41 with kids and no man in your life for 11 years. If it wasn't for my kids i would go crazy.
2007-09-16 16:29:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit wallowing in self pity and get out there. You're never going to meet people when you sit at home. Also, have you considered one of those meeting-people type websites? E-Harmony, stuf like that...they're not bad.
2007-09-16 16:28:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋