I can't believe this ****. I found out that my girfriend was having sex with various men for money. She has two kids and would do anything for them (obviously). Her excuse was/is that she needed the money and felt like she didn't have any other choice. This has been going on for at least a year, up until I found out.
She says that she loves me with all of her heart and can't picture being without me...but why go have sex for money? Why lie and deceive me for a whole year? I don't get it. Am I missing something here? Sex was never an issue with us. I am extremely good in bed, not to brag, but I can go for hours. So why would she jeopardize everything we had just for money so that her kids could have nice things like all of the other kids?
She revealed to me that she was raped as a child and has made it very apparent, her hatred towards womanizing men. Part of her man-hater comments are just jokes, but the other part I think is serious. Is this not physical/emotional cheating? Is
2007-09-16 09:02:19 · 32 answers · asked by dabeatwrecka 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
...she did have a job when she started, but when she saw how much money she was making she quit her real job for 2 months before we moved to a new city. She disguised it as "dance lessons", and although she was a dance instructor, the easy money was a great lure. She claimed she couldn't get a job because she had to take 1 kid to school at 7:30 am, come back to the house to get the 2nd kid to drop off at 9:30am, only to go back out and pick up the 2nd kid at 1:30pm, bring him home, then go back out and pick up the 1st kid at 3:00pm, her excuse is that this schedule left no room to get a full time job. BS huh?
2007-09-16 11:33:40 · update #1
...also, I wasn't having sex with her knowing this was happening..hells NO! She is going to school now and yes, she is living off of the system and in the process of getting a job. She has no car now, so I am sure she has put that sex4$ in the past.
2007-09-16 11:35:41 · update #2
Your girlfriend is a prostitute. Either you can live with this knowledge or you can't.
You can allow things to carry on as they are, financially support her so that she does not need to whore herself, or you can dump her and move on.
Personally, I don't think that prostitution is being unfaithful. If she is charging, it is not like she is doing it for fun. But few men are willing to put up with this kind of thing. So I guess you have some choices to make.
2007-09-16 09:07:18 · answer #1 · answered by ZCT 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girlfriend Cheating Sex
2016-11-08 01:50:47 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U must be really shocked that this has been going on for at least a year !! i hope u didnt catch any diseases from that other men she slept with and then with u
It's a lame excuse when a woman says that this is the only way to raise money by selling her body
If she means alot to u (i guess she does since u asked ur question here) try to talk her into getting a job .. sure the job might not get her as much money as what she used to do but at least it will buy her dignity and ur trust
GooD LucK ^__^
2007-09-16 09:11:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
um.... well i don't think its cheating b/c that's a profession.... she says she needed the money and clearly she hid it b/c she knew that you wouldn't take it very well. and if you care about her you wouldn't call her any names..... of course its not good or moral or anything but if she felt like she had to than as her bf you have to at least try to understand, its just a job, but w/ u its love.. hopefully you can see the difference. i go to church and i knoq there were probably other ways for her to make money but everyone is being very very harsh. its easy to stand on a pedastool and condemn her but she couldnt think of anything else, she felt like she had no choice. reality doesn't matter in in her thinking. give it a second shot, id hate to think you'd leave a girl b/c she made a mistake. everyone screws up, she needs help and guidance and love. ask her to stop, talk w/ her, arrange other avenues of money but dont leave her, if she has problems now, what do you think will happen after you leave her??? at least try first.....
2007-09-16 09:11:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh wow. Does your gf go to work at all??! I understand that she is having difficulties with money but selling her body to men isn't right. She should take pride in her body and I bet you feel like crap having sex with her while she has sex with other guys. You should help her out with money issues if your able to because I'm sure you don't want to see her go through that. Maybe she thinks she has no other way of making quick money or something but there IS. It is practically cheating because she is sleeping with other guys.. doesn't matter the reason because there are other options. Hopefully everything works out for you guys.
2007-09-16 09:11:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it IS cheating, but I think you should stay with her. She's clearly a VERY emotionally troubled woman, and needs to get some therapy/councelling as soon as possible. I've heard countless stories similar to this on chat shows and they always say that getting help is the best policy. Her actions now obviously have something to do with her past and she NEEDS to get out of this vicious cycle. In the mean time, you need to be there for her as much as possible; I believe she DOES love you, she just needs a way to provide for her children and sees this as the easiest option. Therapy and councelling will show her that there ARE other options, and will also help her deal with her past. Best of luck!
2007-09-16 09:10:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm.. If she doesn`t have money at all .. it`s kinda ok , but also.. she should told you that from the beginnin` , ask her for details . If she has money and a job .. that`s just an excuse... I say you should give her another chance. :| That`s not from being raped when she was a child. Good luck men !
2007-09-16 09:15:39 · answer #7 · answered by swash_trak 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it has nothign to do with cheating. It's business. If her money problems are that bad and she has kids to feed, a woman will do just about anything.
Has nothing to do with you, how good your sex life is or anything like that. I know that's hard to swallow (no pun intended) or to accept, but that's the clue to understanding what's going on.
2007-09-16 09:59:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your girlfriend is having sex with other men for money you had be very careful that you dont catch a diease.
why would you want to be with someone that sells her body for money , she is everyone else girlfriend including you.
Let me tell you something being rape did not make her turn out the person that she is.
best of luck
2007-09-16 09:11:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummmm Yeah. (duh) any sex with anyone else but you would constiute cheating. Tell her to get a job or go after some child support.. I wait tables and support myself and 2 kids, and DONT get child support. It can be done. I would never consider sex for money, maybe a 2nd job though. Do your self a favor and get tested for diseases. And drop the girl. Good luck
2007-09-16 09:10:45 · answer #10 · answered by aya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋