Is this normal?

Question

i have always been a bit of an outcast but my parents split up about 6 months ago this wasn't a surprise but my mum moved out and i was left the only girl in the house with my dad and brothers and i have lost interest in socializing with my female friends and have become even more outcast and engrossed in gaming and computers. is this normal teenage behavior (i'm 13) or could it be as a result of my parents splitting up?

I have lost all contact with my mother

Answer 1

growing up i was only girl with 3 younger brothers, and a neighborhood full of boys, i didn't do any girliy things until i was married. i have never had my nails done, ever, and always wore my hair in a pony tail. and play sports with the guys outside, and i have never gotten along with girls, even a boot camp, and on my ship, i get along with the guys better then girls, and because you can do that girls see you as a threat to them, cause they have a hard time hanging out with them, when you have done it for so long that it is nothing to ya. so it is not a bad thing, it is make you braver to live in this world controlled by men

Answer 2

part of it is because you are now living with all males but i doubt it makes you an outcast. during my high school years i was the such a pretty girl! some people would call me valley girl. a few months agoafter graduation i have moved out of state with my boyfriend who goes to michigan tech where there is small population of girls. i started playing computer games and the wii. talked to more guys that ever before. so i changed but im still the girly girl inside so i think is normal. you are just starting being a teenager you will change a lot in the next couple of years. i'm 17 and i keep changing.

Answer 3

I think there are a number of things at work all at once.
Yes, you may have withdrawn some because of the divorce... it takes time to process through a change like that.
The other thing is that it is common for people in your age group to withdraw a bit because of all the hormonal surges making it tough to get a good night's sleep.
I would suggest not wallowing in it too long, though. Try to get out and get some exercise to elevate the endorphins (the good hormones in the brain)... even a 30 minute walk after dinner is great.
The other thing... don't let the guys offload all the "mommy responsibilities" onto you. Everyone must clean up after themselves. They will try to do this.

Answer 4

Yes, are you enjoying your life? That is what should concern you. If you are not happy thats when you should think about changing. You can not force your slef to talk when you are not interested. People change and some can be b/cus your parents split. That is a huge change in your life. You will be going through a lot of adjusting.

Answer 5

As long as you are aware of what is going on with yourself u will be one step ahead of the game.No pun intended.You sound very smart and I am sure u will do just fine. Being around alot of guys will also help u to understand them better.Just don't take any crap from them.In a few years alot will change for u so don't worry so much.Good luck

Answer 6

i think you are feeling your parents breakup. you are going into your shell and not letting or wanting people in. not a good thing to do. try to get out more with your friends, you don't have to talk about family, but just be open and friendly so you can start feeling your comfort zone coming back again. if you are still in contact with your mom, talk to her about what's going on with you and what you are feeling since the breakup. be honest with her if there is anger or resentment over the way things turned out. that in itself will make you feel better. good luck and be happy.