Why do children of single moms behave worse than children with a mom and a dad? I have noticed that children who have a single mom don't listen, act up and throw fits more than children who have a mom and a dad. It seems you can always tell a child who only as a mom because they behave so badly. Why is that?
2007-09-16 07:48:12 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
they lack the male influance
2007-09-16 07:51:16 · answer #1 · answered by Cody 3 · 3⤊ 5⤋
Simple - Their missing the balance of a two parent family. Now a day, divorce is so common it seems as if over half our population is single parent. Why is this happening? IMO it's the decline of true values, people use sex as entertainment with out being married, or people are getting married for the wrong reasons. I'd say 90% of divorces could have been avoided if people actually took a step back and asked themselves "is this really the right woman/man for me".
An example might be if a guy cheats on his wife, i bet you that there would have been some sort of hint that he was a possible cheating guy long before they got married. The problem is people think they can change someone, THEY CAN'T!!! People will only change if THEY want to, NOT because someone else wants them too.
Who suffers when parents make these poor decisions? The children, and that's what ticks me off.
Good Question
EDIT: LOL the first answer nails it! funny that he gets 4 thumbs down for calling it like it is. Or should I say pathetic.
2007-09-16 19:43:42 · answer #2 · answered by olschoolmom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a single mom, let me tell you why. (and it's not exclusive to children of single moms either...it's also children of single dad's, so let's not discriminate)
When you get home and are too exhausted to discipline, you let things go that usually the other parent could tackle. Tag-team parenting is a fantasy of all single parents.
When you have two households with different parenting styles, it's very confusing for the child to know which end is up. The child has to come home and remember what rules are at which house and what they can get away with at mommy's vs. daddy's.
One parent tends to undermine the other parent's authority in an effort to one up their ex or to try to be the Disney parent. Also, one parent may threaten the other parent with court time if they discipline their child in a certain way in an effort to make the other parent miserable.
Single moms tend to work more than one job to make ends meet. They have to rely on daycare and the daycare's parenting values to instill even more confusing values on the child. Imagine having 4 or 5 different people telling you different things? Could you figure out what to do next? Probably not.
2007-09-19 04:57:53 · answer #3 · answered by Amy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I have been there and hear what you are saying I did want to meet her per say but then they would come to my home and stay in the car and they were always different after a couple of times when he picked up the kids. Kids are very impressionable and anything I didn't do I surely did not want my children around that ,like swearing and drinking and all kinds of people running in and out of the home while my babies were there.Kids still need stability in their lives even when the parents are not together. As there became different women in his life I felt I needed to talk with him and we did I informed him if that is the kind of life you want to lead that's up to you but that is not good for our children and maybe when they are there it could be just you and them until you make a choice as to whom you wish to make a commitment and he finally found that special person and married her and I was tickled pink because my children now had stability in both of their homes.And there are men that equally feel they need to meet this guy that his ex now has and you are very right abuse is rampant now and maybe that is why so many parents feel the way they do your child is not safe in school Church,kids have wrote here asking for help because they have been abused by their step parent. So I guess i feel a parent should know everyone that is around their kids.
2016-05-21 01:42:37 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I am a single mom and I my children are better behaved than my friends kids. My one girlfriend is single, but living withsomeone. The kids dad is in their lives. These kids have sworn and the one is agressive. Another friend I have in still married to her husband, her kids whine and nag her and drive her nuts. Her oldest (who has a different father.. so his step dad is like his father).. is just very awful in behavior. I have another girlfried who has a child with her husband. This child acts so terribely that I will not let this child aroudn my children. My children are very respectful and well mannered and have never met their dad, and I also get no child support. He is gone. So I think your question is rather based on a biased view. Your question might be better if you ask 'why do some parents have better parenting skills than other's?'. Just a thought
2007-09-16 07:56:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
im a single mother and i also observe families with single parents and i have seen some stuff that i would never tolerate. my kids are well behaved (daddy or no daddy) im not putting up with the ****. now with that said, i have also seen two parent families and noticed the same stuff, so i really dont know what u are talking about. that is a horrible, shallow, and silly assumption (stereotype). maybe u should do more research (literally) before u start judging people. were u a product of a single parent home. if not, u have a behavior that i would not tolerate from my children. hope this helps. good day!
2007-09-16 07:55:54 · answer #6 · answered by Tiffany C 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I think you are generalizing. I have seen just as many ill behaved children who are a product of two parent homes as I have children of single mothers. Perhaps you are looking for ill behaved children of single mothers. We see only what we want to see.
2007-09-16 19:29:41 · answer #7 · answered by kendi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's quite a generalization.
My first four children I raised on my own after a divorce, they were extremely well-behaved, very in tune with me, and agreeable when they sensed I was stressed out.
They tried to pitch in at home with chores and everyone has always told me my children have excellent manners.
I am now remarried with my 5th child on the way and the boys still behave exactly the same.
I think it depends on the mom and how they are raised.
Children work with the tools you give them.
2007-09-16 08:15:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I COMPLETLEY disagree with that question, as a single mother myself, I have 2 of the best behaved kids even compared to my 2 parent family friends,
There is still a lot of love and attention in single parents homes and that is the key in any parenting situation
2007-09-16 09:21:31 · answer #9 · answered by Pamela G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have noticed this also. ex friends of mine have been single mothers and there kids are usually rotten. I have 3 kids and me and there father have been together since the first,i will say my 2 yr old gets tantrums every now and then *terrible twos* but he usually is pretty well behaved. My sister in law is a single mother and this girl is only 6 months and is SPOILED,she screams and kicks when she doesnt get held or when u dont pay attention to her etc. she is not a well behaved child at all. i guess you are right..i really dont know why though....=\
2007-09-16 08:50:42 · answer #10 · answered by cheerychumms 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Children who behave in a bad manner are only exibiting the lack of stability in life. Children without fathers are more prone to offset schedules because of your hectic daily routine in scrambling to be both mother and father. Kids dont know how to deal with the stress of the daily trials. They tend deal with it their way by trying to make themselves happy, which to us can be upsetting and frustrating. Try to Moderate their daily schedule and keep everything regular, as well as keeping them in line with very stern rules and punishments (not hitting your child).
2007-09-16 08:36:05 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋