I talk very loud and I always have done, I cant help it but people make such a big deal about it. I cant help having a voice which has a louder volume than other peoples and how I cant turn it down like I would a remote to the tv. How can I stop this?
2007-09-16 06:56:10 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Work on lowering your voice when you talk. Be conscious of it all times. Soon, you will get really use to it and will stop having the problem. It will take a while though, but you can do it.
Good luck!
2007-09-16 06:59:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm the opposite, so I have to concentrate on speaking louder, but not too loud. You've received some good advice on here. Like visiting an ENT(ear, nose and throat) Doctor and getting your hearing tested. Also you need to learn to focus and concentrate on lowering your voice. Ask some of your friends help in doing this. Stand in front of a mirror and practice that way. I know that sounds strange, but amazingly it does work. It could be a matter of how you are breathing when you speak. I read about this a long time ago and also watched a man speaking about it on TV. Learning various posture and breathing techniques could help. Google the subject on how to lower your voice. You may find quite a few things that will help you. Believe me you will find a way to change this if you really want to. Never give up!
2007-09-16 12:42:39 · answer #2 · answered by angelcat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all never say I can't! Other thing is you know how to whisper? Don't you? Or if you don't want someone to know what you are talking about?
You need to know when your in a group setting it gets loud, but not that loud. I don't want to be rude? It might be an attention thing? Or it could have something to do with your hearing? I would go see your ENT(ear and nose,throat, specialist). It more seems like your aware of it and it frustrates you because you don't want to be an outcast or be frowned upon, until you see a specialist I would just think b4 you speak and take your time. Good Luck and I hope that you will find your way.
2007-09-16 08:55:19 · answer #3 · answered by orangie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, I can so relate. I have always had a voice that comes across as loud. And no, I don't have a hearing problem, I can hear almost anything, anywhere (so stop talking about me, lol!)...
Seriously, it has to do sometimes with the PITCH of your voice, and where you speak FROM. Some people speak from very deep in their diaphragm. Think of singers and stage artists (of which I happen to be one)-- they have to speak from a bit lower than their voicebox to be heard in the back rows, and clearly, too.
You MAY have issues with your hearing, but you can't help that you naturally speak with a loud-and-clear voice.
What you can do, which I did (and in radio it was particularly important not to blast the microphones, too!) is learn to speak from the "other" part of your body-- speak more from the voicebox, the esophagus, instead of from down deep. Turn your phone down when you're speaking, and you must be conscious of it, think of yourself as needing to whisper and you'll probably be closer to what they think of as "normal". Don't sweat it, just be aware of it and keep it in mind.
As an aside, also be aware that some people think anything above a churchmouse whisper is "too loud," so you're not likely as bad as some may lead you to believe. But you need to be aware of the impact that your voice has around those people and to be kind, compensate anyway.
2007-09-20 01:20:19 · answer #4 · answered by LJG 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, you can. It would take practice. You need to think about how you are turning people off by how loud you are. You may want to work with someone in doing this. If you saw and heard yourself and if you could see how other people were reacting to you, it would help to give you an incentive to change.
2007-09-16 11:36:23 · answer #5 · answered by Simmi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can help it are you deaf, dumb, and blind??? Then you have all of your faculties in order to make a decision. You get something out of being loud. Lets say attention... You like the attention that you get from your friends about you being so loud. Believe me it is not flattering, you look ignorant in public and people will never take you seriously. You just do not want to change it, or tone it down... It works for you and your selfish indulgence.
2007-09-16 07:36:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm the exact opposite. I have a really quiet voice and everyone always complains that I need to talk louder. I know how hard it is to try and change your voice...I've tried and it just feels so weird. The only advice I can suggest is to consciously lower your voice.
2007-09-16 07:00:55 · answer #7 · answered by ~*Bella*~ 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Practice, practice, practice speaking in a lower voice. Have someone close to you signal you when you are getting too loud. There's a difference with projection and loudness. Being overly loud is rude.
2007-09-16 07:00:19 · answer #8 · answered by Suzy 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-26 13:53:36 · answer #9 · answered by guisinger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will just have to practice. Be very dilligent about speaking softer than you are used to. It will be uncomfortable for a while, but in time it will become second nature. Good luck!
2007-09-16 11:36:11 · answer #10 · answered by C C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋