My Mom Is An Alcoholic?

Question

I'm so stressed out guys my mom has been drinking for a while but now she doesn't sleep so she's been drinking every moment of the day. she had really bad pains in her stomach throughout last night and earlier this morning she was puking for ages. i've tried everything to make her stop. i've thrown alchol away or hid it from her, i've tried to make her see it's unhealthy, i've tried to make her feel guilty but nothing is helping. she's the most stubborn woman ever and i've got no-one else to talk to about this. i'm seriosly scared she's killing herself, her best friend died of liver failure due to drinking in 2001 but still that didn't stop her. And whenever i try to help her she becomes really violent and i just can't take it. i'm a senior and i need to keep my grades up or i won't graduate, but i can't concentrate because i'm worried about what she's doing when i'm at school. what do you guys think i could do to make her stop. i don't know what i'd do if she died i don't have anyone.

Answer 1

Talk to Alateen or e-mail them.
I attached their web-site.

You may have heard of Alcoholics Anonomymous well this is a group for teen agers affected by someone else's drinking.

Answer 2

There is nothing I know of short of physical confinement that will stop her from drinking. You can't argue, reason or shame an active alcoholic into giving up the bottle for good. No one can. She's got to be willing to stop drinking and it sounds as if she is not there *yet*.

But you don't have to go through this all alone.
There are good organizations such as Alanon and Alateen that have helped thousands of people come to terms with having an alcoholic in the family. I would absolutely check them out. You'll hear people who have alcoholic parents, siblings or spouses sharing their experiences and you'll see that others have been through this too and have learned how to live happier, more peaceful lives.

I'm sure they have a website but I would bet they're in the phone book too (they may call themselves "Intergroup" or something similar when they answer the phone, but those are the people you want to talk to.)

Good luck, and pray for your mom if you believe in prayers.

Answer 3

dear tiana. i could very well understand the mental trauma and torture that u r going through. even my family members' eyes watered at your situation. the ways which u have tried are a lot more than enough. now the only way left is to make your mom realise the harm that she is causing to u and your future. you must tell her that you are unable to concentrate on your studies just b'coz of her . i am pretty sure it would influence her a lot as no mother can ever see her child sad because of her. but to you i would like to say that please try to comfort your mother whenever she is depressed and try not to diverge her mind towards alcohol. and be patient as any addicted person isn't going to leave drinking by just an attempt overnight. it would take some time to settle down the issue. hope u get good results at last. all the best and take care. may god bless you.

Answer 4

I am so sorry for what she is putting you through right now...but she doesn't mean it. She is an alcoholic, like you said, and she sounds like she isn't even enjoying it, but just an addiction she can't kick..Is there a family member, who could help? If not, you need to call mothers against drunk drivers, if your mom drinks and drives, madd....and tell them you need help. I bet you they would have all the answers..and call AA, alcoholics anonymous,..and tell them also that you need some help..the more people you call, the better,..and don't worry about if she 'gets' mad'..they all do, but when and if you can get her to stop, she will be eternally grateful..do it NOW

Answer 5

My dad was a serious alcoholic too. He drank huge bottles of hard vodka. He use to beat up my mom and throw her down the stairs. I would suggest finding some kid of healthy guide or doctor to examine her. My dad found out his liver was going to fail within the year if he didn't stop drinking. That one moment at the doctor's changed his life forever. Make her realize she is killing herself and puts others at harm too. Then try to find a rehab clinic. It will take her anywhere from a month to a year for her to stop drinking.

Answer 6

You cannot make her stop. But you can take care of yourself. I know that you are worried about her, but until she chooses to get help, there is nothing you can do to make her.

But you can take care of yourself. Talk to a counselor at school. Also, find an Alateen meeting. They will help guide you to a better life for yourself. They are peers that will help you start to heal from the damage that living with alcoholism causes in your life. If there isn't a meeting in your area, go on-line. There are groups on-line.

Love her, but don't help her drink. Take care of yourself. And remember that you are not alone! Really!!!

Answer 7

I'm an alcoholic.

You will NEVER be able to help your mom. You must get out of the situation. There MUST be someone that would take you. Tell your teacher and guidance counselor. Get help for YOU.

The ONLY way your mother will stop is when she sees the pain it causes others. The only way she'll "see" is when she understands that it is intolerable for you to be with her.

Go, girl.

God bless you. If you're near Allentown, PA, you can come stay with me.

Answer 8

Is there any other family that can help you with an intervention? (aunts, uncles, nieces or nephews)
You would sign her into a hospital to get help it sounds like she desperately needs. It's how we got my father to stop drinking.
Talk to a counselor, make sure you talk to someone. They will help explore avenues you haven't considered.
I will pray for you both.

Answer 9

hey

I think you should still keep an eye on her but still keep doing your work cos you can still pass your exams and keep an eye on your mum but my mate has a mum who smokes and she ain't listenin 2 my mate!!

so i hope that helps

Bex