He is 16 years older than me, plus we are at a very different stage of our life, like he is already very successful and at a very mature stage of his career, but I m just kind of beginning. So after first date, I turned him down but we stay friend. We will have lunch sometimes when we run into each other as we usually hit the gym at similar time weekend. After getting to know him more, I start feeling that he is actually a nice guy and I m thinking if I should give it a try. However, I m still hesitating about the age difference. Is 16 years too much? Any girls here ever experience that? I need advice, please help!
2007-09-16 04:43:00 · 15 answers · asked by bebe 1 in Food & Drink ➔ Non-Alcoholic Drinks
When two people are soulmates, age is no barrier. Many times over, very successful couples have had age differences of 40, 50, and even more years. Sure, the older one will usually die first, but the years you'll share together can be WONDROUS. And should not be an opportunity discarded.
2007-09-16 05:27:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hehee- I don't know what this has to do with drinks either (not *really*) but I just HAVE to respond.
My hubby is 30 years older than me. But it doesn't end there... When we met, I was working as a stripper. My then-husband had left me and our 4 children and it was the only thing I could find. To make matters even more interesting, I had no teeth because I was too poor to have my dental problems properly worked on and I was risking blood poisoning and yadda yadda... I was a high school drop out though I went back and got my GED. It was the VERY worst time in my entire life for many reasons- but mostly because my job conflicted with my personality almost 100%.
Then this guy showed up at the club- dropping off another dancer he knew. He was going through a really nasty divorce and his personality was a lot like mine so the bartender and dancer tried to get us together. I didn't date "clubbers" and thought I'd never see him again.
Long story short, I was driven to call him about a month later and after work he picked me up and drove me to his house and there we sat on his back porch, swinging and talking for hours. To my surprise he was a perfect gentleman. We were engaged two weeks later.... we had a strong spiritual connection that was undeniable.
To make our story even more interesting, he was extremely educated having both a PhD and an MD and he was a practicing Opthamologist.
We've been happily together since 1998 and married since 2001.
It hasn't always been easy. There have been some so-called generation gaps and we have some unusual arrangements (we live side by side in separate houses now-a-days because he can no longer handle the chaos of kids and pets lol). Thankfully he's a "simple, old time country boy" who could care less about societies standards or politics and I love him for who he is and what he's able to offer of himself (he's not a "father" to my children but he supports them). We're not perfect, but we make it work and we're happy :)
If you and your guy click, go for it. You may find something very precious.
(Sorry so long :))
2007-09-16 16:10:56 · answer #2 · answered by Xyleisha 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as you're both adults, it's totally fine. Obviously he's still into you if you meet up for lunch dates and hit the gym at the same time. My hubby's 10 years older than me. I was 31 and he was 41 when we got married. He thinks I seem way older than my age for maturity, but yet I make him feel like a teenager again.
It went through both our minds when we met. He thought maybe I was too young, I was thinking what if he's too old? But if you both get along well, laugh and love, age is nothing.
Go with your heart. However, if he's the type to put you down for your age, like "You weren't even BORN yet when I did ----!" then skedaddle out of there.
2007-09-16 05:25:59 · answer #3 · answered by chefgrille 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have two sisters who married older men (One 15 years older the other 10). They are VERY happy. The older men have qualities the younger guys do not have yet. If you feel comfortable with the age difference and he's a great guy, there is no reason why you shouldn't give him a chance. In a world of forgettable men and immaturity, an older guy is a nice change.
2007-09-16 04:53:34 · answer #4 · answered by Dakota 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ok let's suppose you are 21 he's 37 and that's not bad. You have 2 children and you are now 40 and he's 56 and your children are 13 and 15 and driving you nuts! He's 56 possibly retired and really doesn't consider it a problem. Now you are 48 and your youngest just graduated from college and he's 64 getting ready to retire if he already hasn't and you're still going strong. Now your 55 and you want to retire and he's 71 and his health is failing. You decide, it's your life.
FYI; I'm 65 and my husband is 59, we have three children, we are both working (choice) and have no problems (health or money). We are truly blessed!
2007-09-16 05:42:49 · answer #5 · answered by wineduchess 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your 14 and he's 30 yes.
If you 20 and he's 36 probably.
If your 30 and he's 46 maybe.
If your 40 and he's 56 no.
But then read all the comments above. If your under 18 then it kind creepy but it all depend as you get older.
2007-09-16 04:54:12 · answer #6 · answered by Village Player 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
my husband is 16 years older then me, he is 40 I am 24. We have a 7 month old baby girl together. He works I stay at home, I don't plan building any career. It just works perfectly the way it is. He makes me feel secure, I make him feel younger and full of energy. We complete each other.
2007-09-16 04:52:55 · answer #7 · answered by Confused 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
okay listen this is way past the 1700s where 40 year old guys were marrying 13 year old girls alright you need to find someone your own age older guys are okay but not 16 years like three or four years but my gosh that means if you were 20 he would be 36 that's too old okay if i had a kid that dated someone sixteen years older than them they would be out of the will.
2007-09-16 09:49:27 · answer #8 · answered by crystal h 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can't stop your heart from caring about someone. Age is just a number, whenever you get into a relationship with someone, its not because they are 5 years older than you, you get in a relationship, because you want to spend time with this person, you want to get to know this person. I dated a man that was 17 years older than me, Now it didn't work out (cause he was a total ***) but it made me grow as a person. If you want to date him, date him, don't stop yourself because hes older than you! Go with your heart, even if it doesn't work out, You gave it a chance, and you will learn from it! Good luck!
2007-09-16 04:53:31 · answer #9 · answered by Sam 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why not give it a try? There's such a thing as chronological age and maturity. Some people are very immature for their ages and other's not. Look at Demi Moore, she seems to be getting on fine with her partner!
2007-09-16 04:52:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋