We have been dating 10 months 2day. We are lesbians and 16 years old. Our relationship was good in the beginning but about 3 months ago i started to question myself on if i was Bisexual. now the problem is, is that my girl had and has a whole bunch of medical problems ranging from physical diesase like cancer to emotion problems ranging throught abuse. She is my light and my world when im with her ,and when im without her i kinda of miss her. Lately we've been trying to push eachother away but at the same time we both love eachother. I dont wanna leave her but when im around her in school im all about attention and i act different which makes her confused. We've been sitting her trying to make it work for 3 months and all it does is gets worse. but me and my girl talked and spent time togather outside of school and we bonded like we did when i times are good. please any advice on how to get it back or relationship back to the way it was? or should we just call it quits? im really in lo
2007-09-16 04:37:32 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've tried and tried, but I'm sorry, all I can think of are stupid answers to your question..
2007-09-16 04:43:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, I'm sorry about your girlfriend. If you're really in love, don't call it quits. Take you relationship to the next level. Do something that will touch her, like a romantic dinner or something. I'm no lesbian, hell, I'm not even a girl. But the way to bond is to recall memories, or maybe go to a theme park and have fun. Make sure you're doing something happy whenever you two are together. Make your lives worthwhile, and try not to mention anything about her medical issues. Always be cheery when you're around her, and make her feel needed and important. I hope this helps, and I give my hopes to your relationship.
2007-09-16 11:44:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you guys have been arguing about it for a while and there's nothing good that resolves from those discourses I think it's the end of the road. There is a way for things to go back to the way they were, but the truth is that you've changed and she can't accept the new person you're becoming because she's in love with the old you. It's possible that it may be time for you two to move on.
2007-09-16 11:43:21 · answer #3 · answered by mymacbookisahorcrux ツ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
IF you really love her and vise versa don't call it quits. Try spending some alone time together to talk about things. You are only 16 so if you do call it quits there are alot more fish in the sea so to speak. But my advice is to really try to work out the differences and get some alone time as often as you can. Good luck to ya.
2007-09-16 12:57:09 · answer #4 · answered by ???? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi..
Why don't you and your girl, just take a break form each other for a while..so you both could think things out..
It's important that she take care of as much as she can about her medical problems..And if necessary, speak to a professional about her emotional problems. Now is the time to take care of herself, while she is still young.
You need time to think things out as well..And take time out to question your own sexuality!
Quality time by yourself, is important..It's helps you to sit and sort things out, things that you're not even sure of sometimes..
Take care, Hon..And the best to you..
2007-09-16 11:53:33 · answer #5 · answered by howdoilvthee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you are there because you like your GF.. not because of what i call "Hero Syndrome". That is where you feel like you have to "save them" or that you can make it all better by suffering yourself. You will NEVER get out of it what you put in.
Make sure your relationship is about love. If it is real love then it will endure.. if it is not then let it go and chalk it up as a learning experience.
2007-09-16 11:43:04 · answer #6 · answered by umannjo 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
talk to your girlfriend about these problems if you guys are really in love then she'll understand and give you some time get these problems sort out but at the same time do you think your really bisexual, take some time a part from your girlfriend and think it through
2007-09-16 11:45:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
if you care about her that much youll stick it out. i know houw tough that can be sometimes. but youll just have to spend more time together outside school. go on a date see a movie have dinner or something. if a relationship gets serious then just holding hands at school isnt enough anyore youll need romance. so get some money and take her out on a date it will spark something back up turst me
2007-09-16 11:42:21 · answer #8 · answered by AshleyNick H 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are certainly very confused and too young to form a serious bond, sometimes things are never the same as they were initially, the 'honeymoon' period passes, we re- assess the position and we want to move on, it is entirely up to you to decide.
2007-09-16 11:46:54 · answer #9 · answered by joe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's ok to feel bi, i doubt anyone is anything for sure, i think since she has cancer u should stay w/ her and help her b/c she needs sumone 2 b w/ her(even if it is out of pity), b/c she faces abuse as u said, but wen she gets better if u decide that u'r really ready 4 more than go for it, b/c u can't b w/ sumone 4ever out of pity, it'll ruin ur life. and if u really love her, then try w/e it takes
2007-09-16 11:44:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call it quits, pursue your other interest and you will grow apart naturally. You said you are attracted to boys now so maybe your body is trying to tell you something. Relationships end, so don't prolong the agony, it does no one any good.
2007-09-16 11:44:56 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋