I come from a large family and when we were young we were all close and now it seems like we are not a family as much. Many siblings live in different states, they call occasionally but dont write or e-mail very frequently and my question is what ever happened to family unity? It is almost like my brothers and sisters (most of them) are more like distant cousins than a true close knit family. Is there any way to bring the closeness back to our families again like when we were young? We do love eachother and maybe piss eachother off once in a while meaning get eachother mad, but I feel family is important and it is only a matter of time before our parents pass on. Friends come and friends go but your family is your family for life What is your take on this?
2007-09-16 04:34:37 · 5 answers · asked by encourager4God 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Maybe you can be the touchstone for all of them! You send the letters and emails out on a regular basis, regardless if you get them back right away. Include news about other family members (not gossip) and one small story about a memory you have, kind of a spark to get them thinking about what made you all so close at one time.
It is worth a try and you will know you did what you could to unite your family again. Just be patient!
2007-09-16 05:01:02 · answer #1 · answered by dizzkat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We have the same situation in our family and I have heard others complain about the same thing. I think it is the result of people working longer and longer hours and having very little free time anymore. Not only do family relationships suffer - but there is also little time to keep friendships going. My husband and I both work 50 + hours a week. By the time you get home, eat, do just enough to maintain the house decently - it's time for bed. Where is the time to visit with family or friends in a meaningful way? I don't know what the solution is. It just takes a lot of time and effort to keep your head above water in today's economy.
2007-09-16 11:45:27 · answer #2 · answered by arkiemom 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you're all sort fresh out of the gate, or starting families and making life happen, I wouldn't worry too much. I think it's natural and healthy to go off for a few decades and be independent. Family relationships sort of "breathe". People go out, do their own thing, then get nostalgic, come back in, rediscover each other, then go back out.... Usually, one or two members of the family naturally take the role of the reunion organiser. They keep people in touch, and make the organisational decisions for family get-togethers. This is totally normal. I think that's in YOUR future, reunion maker :-)!
2007-09-16 11:48:56 · answer #3 · answered by scout out 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree with you as that how it should be. Sometimes as we grow older things change. I would suggest a family barbacue and have everyone over sit around and talk about old times.
2007-09-16 11:41:28 · answer #4 · answered by Stephanie P 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to Form A Family RE-UNION. Everyone Looks forward to one of those whether they want to admit it or Not. I think they are wonderful. (smile)
2007-09-16 19:53:50 · answer #5 · answered by minnetta c 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋