I been without a car for two weeks now. My friends at work have been more then nice to offer me rides in and out of work. My friend won't take money from for gas, as she gets free gas through husbands work. What should I get someone who has been generous to pick me up in the morning and checks in on me to see if I have a ride home. What should I get? Whats to much or to cheap? She said I am doing you a favor and someday return the favor. I said I am good for it. But I really would like to get her a thank you gift without it offending her. As she was mad I was trying to give her money. What do I get for someone like this?
2007-09-16 04:25:44 · 81 answers · asked by queenofsiberia 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Well, she's already made it pretty clear she'd rather keep it "in the bank," so to speak, and collect when she needs a favor from you. But if you insist, something to pamper her would be nice. A spa visit? A massage gift certificate? Or even just a nice coffee/mug gift, but I'd just wait for her to need you.
Good luck!
2007-09-16 04:35:22 · answer #1 · answered by mamarat 6 · 14⤊ 0⤋
A nice bottle of wine with a good 30 or 40 dollar price tag would be a good bet. If they arent quite the wine type of people take her and her husband out to a nice dinner at an upscale where you pay, by giving your card to the waitress ahead of time. With the dinner you may expect to spend more than the wine but both say thank you at the right level. If this cant work out you could also ge tthem a gift card to an upscale resteraunt. With the wine, if you dont know much about wines you can talk to most nice liquor stores that have a good wine selection will have a knowledgable person to guide you to the right one.. if not you can ask on here and people will have a good idea for you!
2007-09-18 07:09:43 · answer #2 · answered by Lucas H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My suggestion.... If she has children conspire with her husband to watch the children for them for an evening or better yet a weekend (if you are able) so that they can have something nobody can really give them. Special quality time between a husband and wife. It is a gift that truly comes from the heart and would mean the world to such a beautiful person. Plus it is the type of gift that she will have no trouble accepting. That is just my opinion but I have done it for friends of mine who have always been there for me, and more importantly for my son. It is the type of gift that real, true friends appreciate.
Your friend is one of a kind and you are truly blessed to have her in your life. There are precious few folks in the world like your friend. She will get her just rewards in this life and the next. God bless her, and all those she cares for and the same for you. Best of luck to both of you and trust me if you do a little thing like that for her she will greatly appreciate it as you two have a very special friendship.
I just had another thought... if you are a good cook ... cook a nice meal for her and her husband and enlist his help to turn it into a very romantic evening just for the two of them, and you take the kids to a movie or something, return to put the kids to bed and clean the dishes. Now that, is a great gift.
2007-09-18 08:49:26 · answer #3 · answered by SGT V 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A favor is done from the heart and is one of kindness and generousity.
Your co-worker has made it clear that she doesn't expect or want anything in return except the promise that someday you will be there for her when she has a need for your kindness and generousity.
A favor should never be repaid as it is not expected. This woman has given something of herself that can not be repaid. Love, respect, and responsibility for another person, just because.
Don't take that so lightly. Honor her in other ways by doing something kind for another person out of the same love she showed you. This will go a looooong way and show that you too have a heart.
Maybe you could secretly find out when her birthday is and what she wants more than anything else and buy it. Then place it on her desk anonymously with a card that reads:
Thank you for being a friend.
2007-09-17 08:11:49 · answer #4 · answered by None of your F***ing business 5 · 8⤊ 0⤋
Get her a card, a serious one, but not sappy, with a Thank You theme.
Write her a handwritten note inside telling her that you were simply unable to figure out a tangible object to purchase as a gift that seemed to say anything even close to the gratitude you wanted to show, because everything you can buy at a store seems fickle and shallow in comparison to the favor she did for you--- "But you decided to try anyway"--
Then get her something with an engraving, or script of some sort, relevant to her interests. If she smokes, a zippo lighter is perfect, or an ash tray. If not, then a picture frame, or pewter Christmas ornament.
Have the engraving say something heartfelt, clever, and again, relevant to your relationship with her.
Example... a frame with a picture of you in it holding a sign that says "Thanks a ton. Need a hand? I owe you one." or something.
Or a steel hip flask with "(Her Name)'s Spare Good Karma" engraved in it.
Or a lighter that says something about her "light" or "hot" or "smokin'" or whatever......
Rule of Thumb: A Gift is always chereished forever when it is creative, non-cliche', and has a little peace of your own creativity to remind them of you built into it, without it saying "HEY LOOK ITS ME" every time they use it.......
You get the idea I hope. This shows the time and effort you put into the thought, and doesn't showcase the financial or utilitarian aspects of the gift.
~Good Luck
2007-09-18 10:53:05 · answer #5 · answered by Psychedelico 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't buy her a gift card because it still has an obvious monetary value attached to it. It is no different to giving her the money except you've kind of dictated where she has to spend it. You obviously truly appreciate this gesture so how about just writing all this in a card and leaving it on her desk. Words of appreciation can often mean more than a gift. It's easy to buy a gift but very often people don't tell you how cared for you've made them feel.
If you really feel you need to give her a gift then maybe bake her a cake - someting homemade will mean more.
2007-09-18 09:00:33 · answer #6 · answered by snaffle 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey There!
I understand how much a good friend can be offering rides and such. Find out What she likes.
Try to make the morning seem well!
A Thank you card can NEVER go wrong. And its Something she cant Resist on Accepting
I would recommend buying her a Dunkin Donuts Giftcard so you guys can stop by and grab some coffee. I also think that maybe an assortment of cookies would be a great idea!
2007-09-17 11:40:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If she doesn't want any money or anything like that , then my suggestion would be just to give her a thank you card...it is a gift from the heart and actually would mean more to her than material things.....It shows that you appreciate her and her wishes by not giving her money.......It would mean the world to me if that is what someone gave me for helping them out...
I am in the same situation right now, depending on people to pick me up and take me home from work.......it really sucks but when you have a good friend to help you out.......it makes it easier.......Good Luck and remember to respect her wishes!!!! :)
2007-09-18 08:03:14 · answer #8 · answered by shortstuff68 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should buy her some thing to eat or wait to see if something happen and then you probably can return the favor by picking her up from work or she might not have no money at the time and you might have it, that when you come in and give her some money.
2007-09-18 06:49:45 · answer #9 · answered by NeNe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be a good and true friend to her and try and make it your business to help her out in the future.
If you both work together and there is some kind of employee recognition program, maybe you can recommend her for a meaningful award for things that she may have done. If she's this nice towards you, she may be just as nice around others.
2007-09-18 10:32:30 · answer #10 · answered by TCM 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she got mad that you were trying to give her money and she insisted it was a favor and you will be available to someday return the favor, then leave it alone.
What would you want if you were in her shoes.
Maybe she enjoyed having your company for the ride home! Gosh I hate it when people waste money for flowers when it isn't appreciated or wanted.
Sorry to be negative but if I was in your co-worker's shoes I'd just want you to quit going on about it.
2007-09-18 10:04:50 · answer #11 · answered by Doodles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋