My boyfriend just got back from being away for 5 months. I love him but not like I did. I have been through so much its all pushed me away. I dont want to hurt him anymore and its so hard to tell him that I cant be the same as I was when he left. help!
2007-09-16 03:40:33 · 19 answers · asked by ~Sweetcheeks~ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just say it like it is. Don't beat around the bush. Go somewhere that you and he won't get distracted and tell him that there's something really important that you have to tell him, and then just say it.
2007-09-16 03:47:05 · answer #1 · answered by sumpinblu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Listen, I have have changed. I'm not the same person I was 6 months ago. I don't want to be in this relationship anymore, I'm sorry. You are nice guy and it was fun for a while. But I am ready to move on."
If you think you are mature enough to get into a relationship, you need to be mature enough to get yourself out of it when it doesn't work out. Remember dating is like a lottery, theres a LOT more losing tickets than there are winners. You have to know when to throw out the tickets that aren't for you.
2007-09-16 10:52:28 · answer #2 · answered by Big Bull 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him. It'll tear you apart, and he's gonna go crazy. He treated you bad, and you're moving on. It's a simple concept that seems to get complicated really fast. Try to be selfish and thing about you're own feelings, no one else's. As hard as it is to know he's grieving, think about the crap you'd be dealing with if you were to just fold and go with it. His attitude hasn't changed and isn't going to. If anything, the training he's gone thru makes him even more cocky. You'll do better without him. So the best thing you can do is tell him and cut the strings.
2007-09-19 22:36:50 · answer #3 · answered by eunos_91 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you wish to remain friends, I suggest planning a fun day together of something he would like to do. Make sure to mention throughout the day how much fun you are having and how you would like to do this again. Then at the end of the night, break it to him.
If you do not wish to remain friends, call him or tell him face to face that you no longer love him. And then say, it's not you... it's me. He'll get the point and move on.
2007-09-16 10:48:31 · answer #4 · answered by bbgirl180 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best way is just to tell him the trueth no tricks no lies just the trueth becouse nothing can hurt more than a silence, if you will be just keeping being with him soon or later he will notice that something is wrong with you and it will be hurting him more becouse he wouldnt be able to understand whats going wrong with you so if you really dont want to hurt him find a good time and talk to him about your feelings...
2007-09-16 10:51:08 · answer #5 · answered by Svetlana D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
firsly it is best to be honest. being honest will take a lot of pressure off you.
i would just be straight with him and say " things are the same they were when you left, but i still really care about you and want us still to be friends.
if he cannot accept this give him time as rejection is a hard pill to swallow
next is he still your b/friend? you need to answer that
2007-09-16 10:49:32 · answer #6 · answered by aldal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with him. Tell him you have lost that loving feeling. Usually, absence makes the heart grow fonder, but in your case it did not.If it is something you might want to work on to try and regain, you can talk about your plans for that also. Tell him!
2007-09-16 10:48:04 · answer #7 · answered by Harley Lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is the best policy. You will respect yourself and he will respect you for being upfront and not leading him to believe thatr you love him. Also by telling him the truth you are allowing him to move forward and be happy with someone else.
2007-09-16 10:52:04 · answer #8 · answered by brecromos 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Open your mouth and tell him. Don't beat around the bush about it. Tell him why. Then leave it that. He knows, your job is done, nothing to hide, all out free and clear. Then move on with your life.
2007-09-16 10:48:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah thats gonna be tough on him, he was gone for a whople five months; he coulda been thinking about you the whole time, and now he is gonna come back to hear you dont love him? just dont be mean....
2007-09-16 10:46:50 · answer #10 · answered by wantsamusicmanblackstingray 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋