daughter is being bulied at school?

Question

My daughter who is 6 years old is being bullied at school, I have been up to the school but she has a new teacher,and it has started again, one girl in particular is telling eveyone else not to be my daughters friend and to make things worse the girl lives not too far away from us, and it has started in our street aswell (talking to the parents is not an option - yet) I am going up to see her teacher tomorrow, but any advice wil be greatfully recieved thanx

Answer 1

the only way to fix a bully is going straight to the core, go talk to her parents, if their good parents they will fix the whole situation, when you talk to them be sure not to leave anything out and if the problem persist then talk to the principal or to the parents again, now if it goes to the extreme you can contact the police even though their young b/c its still harrasment which is illegal and get a restraining order against the girl

Answer 2

I am a kindergarten teacher and do not allow this. Yes, schools will stop this- because there are anti-bullying policies in every school that I know of.

What to do? Talk to the teacher tomorrow. If it persists, talk to the Principal.

What do I do in my classroom? I talk to the bullier and stop it there. If I see it again, I talk to both the bullier and the child who is bullied. I involve the 2 children together in running errands, working with me in centers, etc. and this usually stops it once they bullier can see that the other child is nice.

You cannot talk to the child in school about this, but you can outside of school.

My son has autism and had been bullied over the summer by the kids across the street. We built our home and moved in and at first things were ok. After he was hit, I went to the parents, it did no good. I talked to the kids and it worked for a bit- and then not. They aren't allowed to play here- ever. The oldest is dangerously angry and takes it out on anyone around him- throwing a child from a trampoline a few weeks ago. So, our son plays with the other kids across the street, but not them.

Good luck to you!

Answer 3

Well keep calm but absolutely *insist* that the school takes action and if necessary take it further if they don't.
As for the parents of the girl in question - they may not be aware of what she is doing but do only talk to them if you feel that will help (some parents these days just don't care).
When one of my boys was being bullied (by a *teacher*!) I went up to the school and sorted it out - calmly so that I could get to the bottom of the whole story (my son was not blameless I found so he didn't get off scot free when I got home I can tell you!).On the other hand when my third got involved with a gang of bullies at school I caned him (something the school could no longer do by then).It is up to the schools and parents (of both the bullies and the bullied) to work together to stamp this out for the sake of *all* of the children involved!
Good luck with this and do give us any feedback on what happens should you so wish.
Best wishes,
Joan.

Answer 4

I would ask to see the headteacher in a face to face meeting to show you want something done about this, some class teachers are better than others at taking action so if you speak to the head it should guarentee something gets done. Also tell them you want the class teacher/head teacher to directly speak to the bully, you might also want to be present. The girl will see that the teacher's attention is focused on her and deter her from her current behaviour. If you don't want to talk to her parents directly make sure you ask the teacher to call them or send them a letter explaining the situation, soon the girl will know she has the eyes of the teachers, her parents and you on her and it should put enough pressure on her to stop. Don't rely on the teacher to come up with what should be done as some schools aren't very hard on bullies, explain exactly what you want them to do to stop this/

Answer 5

Wonderful question.
My daugther was about that age when a boy at school decided to bully her. he came home one day with a bad scratch on her face. I asked her what had happened. She said a boy at school had done it. I let it pass. Children are children and that sometimes does happen.
The next day another, even worse, scratch appeared on the other side of my daughter's face. This time I did not let it go. I turned the car around and went straight back to the school's office and make the school staff understand that my kid is their responsibility while my daughter is in the school's building. I was civilised about it so I did not shout or intimidate any of the teachers. They told me that the particular boy had been hurting other kids too. I learned the next day that the boy has been expelled from the school.
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You need to speak with the HEAD teacher as well as with your daughter's teacher. Tell them also that you will speak with the Local Education Authority at the local council.
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Good luck

Answer 6

My eldest daughter was bullied by another girl so I had her invite her round for tea. All bullies are cowards and need the support of others, get them alone and they are invariably cowards. My daughter endured the evening which achieved what I'd hoped and the girl mostly left her alone. Something similar happened at secondary school - my daughter discovered that she'd been invited to a party where a group of girls were going to beat her up. We discussed it and I took her to the party, staying outside (for hours) in the car in case anything happened. Nothing did and at the end of the evening she let the girls know that she had known about their 'plan'. Bullies need to be challenged and bullying should be nipped in the bud as early as possible. Making 'friends' with the parents wouldn't hurt nor would being honest(but diplomatic) about their daughters 'strong character'. Good luck.

Answer 7

You could have your daughter start an anti-bullying group....with the teachers help....get the other kids invloved, they can make leaflets and posters...they can discuss the meaning of bullying....what it is and why people do it....it's important for the bully to be involved too...try to suggest it to the head teacher tommorrow....ask if your little girl could have a prominent role in the group....president or something....I also like the idea of getting the girl round for tea!

Answer 8

Talk to the parents. But remember don't argue with the parents because you'll end up not speaking and your children will be best of friends.

The school will only talk to the other child and I think this just empowers them when they know how much your daughters upset

Answer 9

Are u in the UK? all schools have an anti bullying policy. Demand to see it, insist the school abides by it, contact the local education authority if you are not happy with their response.
It is the SCHOOL's responsibility to protect your daughter's well being, not yours to confront the parents. This has been known in my experience to lead to serious problems resulting in asbos and restraining orders.
Keep a diary of incidents to use as evidence. And if all else fails threaten them with the local press. Schools hate that.

Answer 10

Please do something as i was bullied at school all the way through.When i grew up i thought i was useless ugly and that everyone hated me because of the things they said to me ,believe me you end up a wreck.I have worked hard to get my confidence back and i have but it gets me angry when i know someone else is going through the same thing.Please, kids are cruel if your little girl is a kindly nature they will pick on her so protect her,take her to another school that does not allow bullying.