I'm an American on assignment in Japan for year. It's an intensive assignment and the only vacation I have for the whole year is at Thanksgiving, when I'm planning to meet my girlfriend in Hawaii. I was just about to ask my boss for an extra day off since it will be the only time in the whole year that my gf and I will be able to see each other (she can't take time off, either, except at Thanksgiving--long story). But one of my co-workers thought that the boss wouldn't go for the extra time off if it was "only" to see my gf. (In this job taking even one day off does put a big load on my co-workers--I have to arrange in advance for people to handle my specific duties, etc.). My co-worker said I should instead tell the boss that my family is having a long-planned reunion for my parents' 50th anniversary. I hate to mislead my boss, but I definitely want to see my true love. What do you all think? Which would hold more water with you if you were the boss--true love or a family reunion?
2007-09-16 02:49:46 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I sympathise with your dilemma, and understand your asking the question. But I would pose another question:
What if you tell the boss it's a family reunion, and then he discovers it was to meet your girlfriend? Would that put your job at risk? And even if it wouldn't, it certainly wouldn't enhance your standing in your boss' eyes, would it? Which could make it awkward for you continuing your work for him.
I'm asking, because before your helpful co-worker made the suggestion, I imagine you were intending to tell your boss the real reason for your request for the extra day off? So at least one other person - your co-worker - will know, if you give another reason, that you haven't been truthful with the boss.
If you know the co-worker really well and know that he/she is trustworthy, then there shouldn't be a problem. But if you don't know them at all, maybe you should consider the possibility that they might not have been entirely altruistic in making this suggestion. You say you're on an intensive assignment - are there others (perhaps a friend of the co-worker?) who'd like to be on the team?
You also need to be as certain as possible that your co-worker hasn't told anyone else about his suggestion, linking your name to the story. Because even if he/she is completely trustworthy, there may be others who aren't and who might find a way of letting the boss know that you lied about your reason for wanting that extra day.
I may be barking up entirely the wrong tree here, but I just think it's worth considering what are the chances of your boss discovering your deception, if you do decide on that, and what the likely repercussions might be for you if that were to happen.
Good luck, and I hope you are able to see your girlfriend.
wimsey
2007-09-16 03:30:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Considering the circumstances, I would have to go with family reunion. You would hate to have the boss turn you down and miss having the chance to see your gf on your one and only time to do so. Go with long-planned family reunion--it will seem like a more "important" event than "just" seeing your gf.
I don't blame you for not wanting to mislead the boss. I would feel the same way. But sometimes you have to look out for yourself and insure success!
Good luck in Japan. It all sounds so EXCITING!
2007-09-16 03:05:29 · answer #2 · answered by brojonesmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LONG-PLANNED family reunion for your parent's 50th? What are you going to tell your boss when he asks why you are just now asking for the time off--especially since he knows you have to arrange in advance for people to handle your specific duties? That story won't get you anywhere, my friend.
2007-09-22 15:32:39 · answer #3 · answered by Flywheel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, this is not any longer actual. Many families of many ethnic backgrounds often assemble. in fact, persons of Acadian historic past, which includes Cajuns, gathers each 5 years. At this international gathering of Acadians there are a number of family members reunions. The Leblanc family members had 6,000 on the final one. My ex-husband's family members had a reunion final year that had six hundred human beings in attendance. they are of Cajun descent. So, in short, no, families of many ethnic backgrounds assemble often. Cj
2016-10-09 06:51:22 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
family reunion and explain to your boss that you never get to see your family and that its really hard on them
2007-09-23 15:36:53 · answer #5 · answered by morg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honesty is the best policy. never make up something cause it will someday come out and he needs to beable to trust you and if this other had his way maybe he would mess you up and you dont' know for sure but he could by doing soemthing to you. no never lie its bad business.
2007-09-21 13:19:40 · answer #6 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cant say it better than 'wimsey'. But I will say lying is seldom a remedy to a situation. Tell the truth. (He might have Yahoo Answer too) lol....
2007-09-23 05:52:21 · answer #7 · answered by dwayne j 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely tell the truth. Lies always come back to bite you in the ***. Trust me.
2007-09-23 19:43:12 · answer #8 · answered by Twinkie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋