What the hell is wrong with people who cry over their dead like tortured witches?

Question

when in reality they never gave a damn about the deceased while he/she was still alive.

Answer 1

Wow, this is one thing you CANNOT generalize so broadly on;
sometimes what you might think of as someone "not giving a damn" may just be that nothing else worked to stop the person from extreme drug use or worse, and the person you are accusing may have been using the last possible thing they could use to get the person to stop - its called "tough love", and sometimes it needs to be applied when nothing else works.

I know someone who was advised to not give their daughter any more money because all she did was sit on her butt and say she was "tired" so she wouldn't work, would just sleep most of the day, at age 22.
Then one day the daughter didn't wake up;
it turned out she was so tired because her heart was diseased beyond repair. The parents didn't know - they thought they were doing the right thing by being tough with her.
Now she's dead, and they have to live with that for the rest of their lives. It was tragic
at best.
And then you have what we knew of in the old days as "wailing women"; these were very old women (Italian in our neighborhood) who would go to any and all funerals in the neighborhood and they would
cry and wail at the deseased. In many parts of the World, these "wailers" would even be hired to "wail" at funerals.
When growing up, I would often hear my
mother tell my dad that if she died she didn't want crazy women from the neighborhood wailing and making a scene over her - she was Irish and those same Italian women made life a living hell in our
all-Italian neighborhood. She wrote in her will that she wants to be cremated instead.

The last funeral I went to was for a co-worker who lost two twin babies. At that viewing, people took photographs of the dead in the caskets, and I about puked.

People do different things that are weird, but mostly what you are referring to is a
person who simply didn't give a damn to
lift a hand of help to someone and then "acted" like they cared so very much just to look good to those who attended.
These people will get what's coming to them, trust me. What people need to realize is that God knows the heart, and there's no
conning Him. Nobody gets away with anything in this life - its all being recorded
for "court". Whatever is truly in the heart will become evidence either for you or against you, and thats a real humbling thought, ya know?

I'm non-denominational Christian, and I became a Christian as a result of 11 close family members, all my closest friends, and my 3 pets all dying during a 9-day period of
time. I had so many funeral outfits that people thought I was "goth". I've come to
understand those people are not in some hole in the ground, but to be absent from the flesh is to be present with the Lord. That person's soul goes immediately back to He who owns it. All ya got in the ground is worm food, frankly. Moaning and crying over a dead corpse is silly; like Jesus said while carrying his cross:
"Don't cry for me, but cry for your children"

Answer 2

Are all of the rabbis in historical past that hunted, tortured and killed witches in hell? Well they felt like they have been killing within the title of God. But everyone knows now that witches aren't truly and that their "conflict on witches" used to be simply simple cruelty in each detail of the phrase. They hunted down, tortured, and ultimately murdered those "witches" for virtually three hundred years.... Are all the ones rabbis and orthodox jews who took facet, in hell now?..... They must be.

Answer 3

There is nothing wrong with people who mourn their loved ones who have passed. But I can understand your point when people put on an Oscar performance at the funeral home or gravesite. How about the people in the Middle East who actually hire professional mourners to attend the funeral services. This is their custom. I've seen this before, and they really do a good job of wailing and putting on a show. Best of luck to you.

Answer 4

I have seen this at almost every funeral I have ever been to. The most recent (my mother-in-law) had one woman practically laying across the coffin, screaming how unfair it was, when this woman NEVER came around, never called... was usually one of the people to talk bad about others behind their backs... She put on quite a show, but I noticed that the rest of the family really didn't believe she was that stressed over my MIL dying. It's annoying and only adds stress to those family members who DID care. I wanted to escort her out of the funeral home and put her in her car and tell her to get lost..... but I have more respect for my husband than to cause a scene like that. Heh, later I found out he wanted to do the same thing.

Answer 5

You seem very bitter about something. We witches see death as part of life. Without one we cannot know the other. This is the way of the natural world. Don't worry about what another says or does. Look into your own heart and be peaceful. )O(

Answer 6

Compassion for the deceased, its normal to feel sadness during periods of loss. You can never realize how much you love a person until they die.

Answer 7

I believe it's about being in the spotlight, about drama, and about conveying a public false impression about feelings for the deceased.

Answer 8

Not all people cry over the dead. Those who cry do because being at a funeral reminds them that they, too, will soon die. Those who do not cry either: a) do not fear death; b) they do not know whether or not they should fear death; c) they show their fear of death in some other way.

Answer 9

They are doing what their particular society and culture expect of them. Also, maybe they regret not parting peacefully with the deceased.

Answer 10

The CRYING... is Nothing MORE... than GULIT... Over NOT as YOU say.... " when in reality they never gave a damn about the deceased while he/she was still alive."

And... it is Also... because... They HAVE.... NO HOPE....!

(Hebrews 2:9) But we see Jesus, who was made a little lower than the angels for the suffering of death, crowned with glory and honor, that He by the grace of God should taste death for all.

(Heb 2:10) For it became Him, for whom are all things and by whom are all things, in bringing many sons into glory, to perfect the Captain of their salvation through sufferings.

(Heb 2:11) For both He who sanctifies and they who are sanctified are all of One, for which cause He is not ashamed to call them brothers,

(Heb 2:12) saying, "I will declare Your name to My brothers; in the midst of the assembly I will sing praise to You."

(Heb 2:13) And again, "I will put My trust in Him." And again, "Behold Me and the children whom God has given Me."

Thanks, RR