Okay, I was//have been in a reationship with this person for about a year, but the year was not bliss at all. after about a month he goes 2 states away and i only get an occasional phone call every once and a while. i even started to question if we were still together or not. after about 2 months he came back, but my parents wouldn't let me see him because of the emotional pain he caused me. so me and him would sneak out and see eachother a lot including school nights for about 9 months. my parents never found out about it, but then he tells me hes going back to Indiana and i was scared. we stayed in touch a lot more then last time, but we would fight almost every phone call. now after all weve been through hes dateing a girl that he alredy dated, broken up with and apologized for. i love him but should i stay with him just because of that reason. he never even told me about the girl in the first place so im so confused
help please??
2007-09-16 01:21:20 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Absolutely not. He has inflicted enough pain on you as it is. Do not let him cause any more than he already has. Your parents were right to make you two stop seeing each other. Apparently he doesnt care about you enough to stop hurting you. If you stay with him, he will only hurt you more and more, and things will get worse and worse. Save yourself. Just bc you love him doesnt mean you should stay with him.
2007-09-16 02:42:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You ask if you are still together? Of course you aren't. He's two States away and by the sound of it, while you are pining at home like silly Annie, he's going out and trying to get a life for himself. However, it sounds like he's stuck in a bit of a rut if all he can do is re-kindle relationships with his two (or more??) ex girlfriends. Don't hang about. Find yourself another boyfriend who you aren't ashamed to take home to meet your mum. You'll get kissed every day - which is a much pleasanter prospect than wasting your time on painful telephone conversations. Face it - your parents were right about the first boy weren't they. I know you didn't think so at the time - sneaking off with him behind their backs wasn't too clever was it? But you've found out, through heartbreak, that he wasn't really worth the effort was he? Put it down to experience. Give him one last phonecall and say bye bye. Leave him to rot in Indiana while you get a new and exciting life.
2007-09-16 08:49:56 · answer #2 · answered by chris n 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Brace yourself...if he wasn't aching and wanting to call you, text or email you as much as you, then he wasn't feeling what you were. He moved away and is with someone else. He may want to keep you around as a "back up". You deserve not to play second fiddle to anyone! While you may not be able to see it, you have YEARS ahead of you, even if the school you were talking about is your 8th year in medical school. While it may hurt, it is better that you learn from this, and move on to someone who will treat you how you treat them. Despite your hormones telling you otherwise.
Try to trust in your parents, they sound as if they only want the best for you, and they can see the situation without yearnings clouding their view. Try to ask your self honestly what you would do if your daughter (or close friend) were in the same position. Good luck & be Happy!
2007-09-16 08:36:25 · answer #3 · answered by Bry 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, dump him...you might be "confused" but *I'm* sure not!! He wants a girl in the other state and you where you are, and that's just cheating, no matter HOW many states apart the distance is!
Your parents are right to try to shield you from that inconsiderate user! Stop letting him treat you like he does and find a guy who deserves you! HE sure doesn't!!!
2007-09-16 08:27:57 · answer #4 · answered by bitadkins 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know already that he caused you pain before and gave him another chance despite of everything, if I were you, I would move on. It is hard because you love him, but think of the hurt he caused you. Just move on.
There is plenty of fish in the sea.
2007-09-16 08:30:14 · answer #5 · answered by kat0217 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let me guess how old you guys are - 14 or 15? OK maybe you are a bit older than that but it sounds like little teeny angst.
Get over it - its not real.
2007-09-16 08:47:59 · answer #6 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
.dump him. he is using you. your parents are right for not letting you see him. they seen right through him. what more you don't love him. i can tell by the question you posted. that your inexperienced. the guys a cheat. you deserve better. good luck and god bless.
2007-09-16 08:33:27 · answer #7 · answered by willy wom bat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a total aresehole
get rid of him get rid of him get rid of him
go ask out that shy guy down the street
2007-09-16 08:26:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him why he would not tell you and if you didnt like goin out w/ him it would be ok wouldnt it?
2007-09-16 08:28:48 · answer #9 · answered by Kenley y 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a new guy
2007-09-16 08:31:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋