How can I become less shy?

Question

I am even worried to talk to my own brother. It's really stressful to even meet one person. Also the smallest word can hurt me please help.

Answer 1

meet ppl

Answer 2

Shyness is something that we choose to behave when a situation calls for it. You are limiting yourself from something that you would like to do. But there are ways to overcome such behavior like being with others doing fun activities, and never limit yourself to share your opinions with others, meaning you have to explore the endless possibilities that you can become or you can achieve in life. Never be afraid to take risk of whatever you want to say or do. AFRAID that is the word that leads us to becoming shy, it is not easy to live without taking any consequence for every actions that we tend show or say. What matter most it help us become what we are now. The idea is to be BRAVE.

I am quite a shy guy before, but I eventually made myself better than the usual me by becoming busy, meeting other people and talking with people due to my job as a call center agent in a call center. At first, I thought I can never be a successful agent, to talk with other people over the phone because I am shy, but since, the job calls for it to talk and interact with them, offer something and get acquainted with my co-employees, go out and have fun during team building, that shyness became something that I am in the past. I hope this advice can help you, overcome or even totally eradicate in your life.

Answer 3

Force yourself to talk when around other people. Say anything, even if it's pointless.

Call stores on the phone and ask if they have certain products, or for price information. That may sound silly, but you're talking to a person at that point, just not face-to-face.

If you force yourself to talk you'll be extremely embarrased the first bunch of times, but eventually you'll stop caring. You'll find yourself having something to say more often.

Answer 4

I'm not sure if I'm much help because I'm extremely shy myself. but - I've been reading a book called "Goodbye to Shy" by liel lowndes or something like that - and it is helpful.
but not that much. I still have a lot of trouble. I think the only thing that can help us get past this is to keep trying and the more we try the more confidence we get. What's helped me is to not assume everyone doesn't like us just because of one person. I was withdrawing from everyone because of what one person said and now I realize that just wasn't fair to the others. It's very hard. I can help you once I figure out how to help myself. take advice you get from people who have not been there with a grain of salt. Some people never have trouble with this and they don't understand. Part of it is your personality, how you were made. I think what we do is we assume people don't like us when everything is going fine. Maybe things aren't going to our expectations,but they aren't aware of anything wrong at all. I think we tend to think way too much about it, and I notice other people don't think much at all most of the time. Hopefully you can find other people who have been very shy and who can help you. I am not claiming to be of any help because I"m still very shy but I'm doing radically better. I have had a lifetime of bad social experiences, I'm still not really doing that well. I keep falling on my face. But remember it isn't how many times you get knocked down - it's how many times you GET BACK UP that counts. Fake it till youmake it - keep trying the more you try and the most successful you are the more confidence you'll have. I don't feel very qualified to help you - but I hope I did. take care.

Jack Benny was extremely shy (comedian) and performing helped him to overcome his shyness apparently. According to his biography by his daughter. That's why he carried his violin everywhere, it was like a security blanket or something. But he certainly wasn't shy when he died, so he must have learned something along the way.

learning comedy has been the most helpful thing for me, it really does help break the ice with new people, and when you start out with an appropriate joke - it breaks the tension and everyone is more at ease if they like the joke..
that is. It's been the #1 thing I know of that's helped me - my dad does that too and he's a huge introvert. He has all these jokes he uses with new people. They laugh and they are more at ease. but you have to use appropriate jokes.. I don't use canned jokes, I come up with them on the fly - from what I learned from comedy writing books. I bought several - the comedy bible, the comedy toolbox, etc.

But, if youa re a child you should be asking your parents this question.

Answer 5

I'm also shy, but lately I've become quite annoyed by it and started to tell myself "Just do it! Other's do it, it can't be that bad!" Also, go to the gym or some place else where you meet lots of foreign people (it's inevitable)... you'll get used to them. Or get the groceries more often.

Answer 6

See shyness, and social anxiety, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris on page 9, and practise daily, one of the relaxation techniques on pages 2, 11, or 2C. Build your self esteem/confidence, (page 38) as well, then such words will have less of an effect on you (they are just vibrations in the air: you choose to upset yourself over them: you have the power not to!).

Answer 7

Well, theres not a lot you can do, you can't see your doctor because your shy, you cant see a physciatrist because your shy and with the highest level of courage you can possibly bottle up,

, youve managed to ask a load of people online who probaby aren't trained in medicine. Do what you will, theres not much but it might not be worth the bother.

Answer 8

There are lots of shy people on http://www.ofear.com that have found chatting to other helps them very much. They are among people that understand what they are going through and what they feel so maybe you could try chatting with people there as a start.

Answer 9

A long while ago I had a problem and was given this advice by a therapist.
When you are cleaning your teeth look in the mirror and just say to yourself "I am okay" - oddly it slowly helped to build self confidence and once I felt more comfortable with myself I was more comfortable with other people.

Good Luck!

Answer 10

I know how you feel. I was pretty shy too, but shedding off quite a bit of it. What you do is socialise more, go out more often, and encouragement from peers or those older can help. It was mostly thanks to my teachers I could overcome my shyness.

Good luck! That's important too!

Answer 11

Try going out with your close friends and meet their friends too. Cooperate with them with their activities and possibly volunteer on some of the tasks.