Scared to get catholic annulment.......anyone been there?

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I am considering applying for an annulment through the catholic church. I haev been divorced for 5 yrs. My husband divorced me because he decided he did not want any children and was having an affiar the last year of our marriage. He ended up marrying that woman 2 yrs ago. He was a non-catholic. I am not dating anyone, but am considering an annulment in case I do meet someone and want to re-marry. Has anyone been thru one? I am not looking for definitions or criticism, just want to know who has been through it and if you would recommend it. I can't imagine spending my life alone and want to make god a part of it if i remarry.

Answer 1

My mom does the annulments for her church. Basically you are assigned an advocate who guides you through the process. This much I know, they question your childhood, adultry, everything that has to do with your old marriage You I can tell will qualify pretty easily with the adultry in there (Im sorry!) The one weird part is they contact him and give him the opportunity to give his .02 about your marriage, so he will know when you are doing this. It costs money (dont get me started though (im exCatholic) I think it runs about 200-300

Answer 2

First off, you have my sympathies for suffering through such a terrible experience with your ex-husband.

Now regarding the annulment...as a Catholic, you are already aware of the fact that if you should ever wish to marry again, you'll need to have your first marriage declared null. IMHO, it's much better to have that annulment process finished (or at least already started) before you get into another relationship, because it can take some time. Regardless, though, I highly recommend it, as you can't picture yourself remaining single, and it is your only recourse for remarriage in the future.

Your first step ought to be a private consultation with your parish priest, who can give you a better idea as to whether or not it will be possible for you to get a decree of nullity for your first marriage.

I'm afraid annulments are not as cut-and-dried as the folks commenting above have made it seem. Adultery is not automatic grounds for declaring the marriage dull; rather, it will have to be proven that your ex had no intention of upholding his fidelity to the marriage *at the time of your wedding vows.* Likewise, if he didn't intend to have kids at the time of your marriage, that would be grounds, but if he thought kids were a good idea back then and changed his mind later, it's doubtful.

I do recommend you go through the process sooner, rather than later -- it will provide a great sense of clarity and peace for your situation, no matter what the outcome.

Answer 3

I have been through it. I went to my priest, who asked me to obtain copies of my baptismal, communion and confirmation records, as well as my marriage certificate and divorce decree.

I had to answer a questionnare, and give the name of a witness who was mailed a short form to answer regarding my marriage and divorce.

The whole thing took about 6 weeks and cost me 25.00, because I had not been married in the Catholic Church.

Answer 4

well from the bible and what Jesus said you are free as he was unfaithful to you. I imagine you want the annulment so you can marry again in the church. but you should think of God above the church you are certainly free to marry again should the right man come along.
I will not go into all my past but I was married to a catholic in a baptist church. he has died but I am not married to an exmuslim in pakistan.

Answer 5

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RE :Scared to get catholic annulment.......anyone been there?
I am considering applying for an annulment through the catholic church. I haev been divorced for 5 yrs. My husband divorced me because he decided he did not want any children and was having an affiar the last year of our marriage. He ended up marrying that woman 2 yrs ago. He was a non-catholic. I am not dating anyone, but am considering an annulment in case I do meet someone and want to re-marry. Has anyone been thru one? I am not looking for definitions or criticism, just want to know who has been through it and if you would recommend it. I can't imagine spending my life alone and want to make god a part of it if i remarry.
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