My 7 yr old son has a temper and won't listen to me and his dad what should I do?

Question

When my 7 yr. old is told to do his homework or his chores around the house he will scream, yell, stomp his feet, or just sit there looking at me like if he didn't hear me. Has anyone been through this and what did you do?

Answer 1

You need to implement a system of rewards and consequences. The consequences are easy... explain the rules and that if he breaks the rules he has to go to the "time out corner" for 7 minutes (his age). Get an egg timer and keep it with you so he can hear the bell. Try to remain calm and very matter of fact about the time-out corner. But make sure you explain exactly what he did to be put there.

The rewards can be managed by making a chart that you keep on the wall. Everytime he follows directions or does his homwork without throwing a fit you can give him a gold star (or other sticker) on the chart. Decide on a pre-arragned reward... when he gets a certain amount.. maybe 30 stars. It'll be worth whatever money you spend and eventually his good behavior will become a habit.

Answer 2

and when you give in he wins.
yup been there, done that. mines now 27
the key with him was find what to take away as in punishment, it had to be something he really liked
at 7 it was his video games, 10 4-wheeler, 12 phone privileges, 14- g/f coming over, 16- driving the car, i think you get the point.
he was the type of kid all the yelling in the world got you no where, spank him on the bottom he'd laugh at you, time out more laughing but take away something he really liked and you though his world had ended.
and if he wanted to yell and scream so be it, i just close his door and tell him for ever 15 mins he did this, that was 15 mins of lost privileges. learn to toon him out, DO NOT GIVE IN

Answer 3

Oh yessssssss indeed. I swear it's the terrible seven's. (like the two's but older of course). Ok do you have some sort of 'reward' system in place for him...this actually makes them to 'want' to do their chores, homework, etc. Have a look here:
http://www.chartjungle.com/behavior/behaviorchart.html Note: I actually changed this chart a bit to 1-happy face 2-so-so face and 3-sad face. Now you have to have a goal. For every smiley he receives he gets a behavior buck: found here: http://www.chartjungle.com/behavior/behaviorbucks.html and when he reaches like 10 then he actually earns one dollar of REAL money. The only thing about this is that you actually start off really LOW for the goal to get the child to understand that with effort he CAN do this. Like every 2-3 weeks you need to up the expectations (the goal). If you don't understand this or need more help please feel free to email me. G'luck.

Answer 4

i would put money on it that your son plays playstation or xbox or nintendo ds or psp! Or some sort of computer game!
Right, this is what you do,
1. you talk to him and explain there are going to be some long term new rules!
2. any Screen time, is limited, say 1 hr per night on any of the above and 1 hr of tv after school!
3.get board games out and start playing, get him to get a hobby.
4. if he still plays up then you take away his privilidges, like his controller for his ps2 for say a week or 3 days you chose! You tell him the punishment when the new rules start and you stick to it!
Good luck
I know from my 2nd son agression comes from too much computer games! Trust me it works!

Answer 5

i go through this with my 6year old and two 3year old daughters on almost a daily basis.
things that work for me...
1. taking toys, games, and movies away and give them back when they decide to behave and listen.
2. time-out ( they HATE it more than anything.)
3. if they ask for a treat like ice cream or candy, say no because they're not behaving.
4. as a last resort, a firm spank on the butt gets their attention and lets them know that you mean business. DON'T beat the kid senseless, but show them that you're the boss.

Answer 6

I have 7 y.o. too. Our solution was found through his passion - football. I find that sports give lots of discipline for the boys. Besides, the coach really helped stating to all the boys (without pointing out) that noone will be allowed to train unless they have no "debts" with homework.

Answer 7

Sounds like a bit of re-conditioning might be in order. Set the rules and stick with them. Speak to him on his own level and explain why you need him to do the things you ask. Explain in simple terms what you require of him and why. Give him rewards for good behavior. Set up a sticker system for each good thing he does, rewarding him positively for good behavior. It takes a strong parent to apply these rules of parenting but the long term outcome is worth it.

Answer 8

im afraid youll have to punish him there are many ways of going about punishment no dinner, no desert, going to bed early, spanking, no tv, no friends, in general limiting what he can do, eventually he'll fall in line, harshness varies for waht he does, for you i would start off with trying something not so bad like sit in a corner or going to bed early but if that doesnt work your going to have to move to harsher methods in short term he'll hate you for taking away his toys, or turing off the tv, or spanking him and hell say it and yell about it but once you enforce your rules hell elarn to be good and in later years he wont remember that phase of meanness and he will love you so DO NOT get discouraged if he says he hates you because i know that can break a mothers heart hearing that,

Answer 9

I agree with time outs, and
taking things away as a form
of punishment, but
A big " NO " to spankings.

Answer 10

leave him sitting in a chair or in his bed until ho does what hes told. even if it takes hours or days. i mean, feed him of course, but dont let him do a single thing other than that until he does what he need to.