my mother is phsycologicly messed up on tons of pills, my brother (a god to her) is stealing them, smoking pot in the house, drinking nearly everyday, and for the past 2 yrs his friend has been living here and doing the same, only he back talks my father, me and my boyfriend. my boyfriend was tired of being nice to such a punk and kicked his butt and then my family agreed to kick him out. well the next day while i was at work he came by with a pitty story and they took him back in. only been 3 days and they've already back talked my father again and brought over a bunch of people and are partying. i've planned to move out by next month with my boyfriend. the thing is, is that my mother lets the kid talk to my father like that, she thinks he's a god too. why would my mom like these pot smoking, drunk, pill popping brats more than me? i've been threatend to be kicked out 3 times if i didn't get a job, which i've been working since 16, and my brother's 18 and hasn't done anything.never, not once, did she encourage him to do anything, he doesn't even know how to drive. he even dropped out of school. i tried to help him find a job and get back to school, but him and his friend got in my face and told me to go f^&% myself. i've tried helping all of them, but i feel bad leaving the situation. my poor father is such a good man, he does all he can but my mother just yells at him to shut up if he says he doesn't like them smoking pot or drinking or partying. should i just leave it as is? should i contact someone about the drug use? i don't want my father in trouble, he tries hard to not allow it, it's all my mother.
2007-09-15 19:05:44 · 8 answers · asked by Bitterly Sweet 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
There's not much you can do about what everyone else is doing. You don't want your boyfriend doing anything that he could get in trouble for (beating someone up) it's not worth it. The best thing for you, is for you and your boyfriend to get out of there asap. Ask your dad if he wants to come with you if he does then I'm sure your mom will get the hint. If your dad doesn't want to leave with you then it's his choice he's choosing to live like that and you have to do what's best for you and your boyfriend. Good Luck
2007-09-15 19:23:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you and your dad need to move out. Either that your dad needs to inlist your mother in rehab and your brother in rehab. You are on the right track though. It's hard growing up with a lot of family problems, trust me my mom is crazy and has been since I can remember. I would seek help for them, the thing is you can't make a person change unless the ywant to change themselves. Once you move out things will be easier for you. Your dad is the one I feel sorry for, he is stuck with them after you move out. But, it's the only way for you to leave a normal life, if you stay you end up putting yourself at risk. Plus, it sounds like they could get violent. Be safe and just see if you and your father would consider getting your own place or something. Good Luck.
2007-09-16 02:19:43 · answer #2 · answered by Lilly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your brother is the oldest .... that explains everything. I think there is always something between a mother and her first kid. My brother is the oldest and I lived with the same thing all growing up. He never lifted a finger for anyone and he was always causing trouble. I always tried to do the right thing an help my mom around the house and yet she has always favored him and believed or fell for everything that he said. It sucks but you will make it through:)
2007-09-16 02:24:38 · answer #3 · answered by daisies 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think you should report it but try and get your father to get out of the house i think you have done a wonderful job by trying to help your brother get a job and go back to school but he has made some poor choices not to follow through at least you tried you father doesn't deserve to be talked to by anyone very cruel in his own home
2007-09-16 02:24:11 · answer #4 · answered by rayray17 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They probably support your moms pill popping. If she is under the influence of drugs she is not thinking clearly. You can and should report the drug use to the police. Actually, your father should. The illegal stuff your brother and his friends are doing will not stop until the police intervene or they are dead.
You and your dad should both move out!
2007-09-16 02:18:43 · answer #5 · answered by dizzkat 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Rather than moving in with ur b/f on the rebound..
why not talk to ur dad.. and u and him get a place and leave the pot heads..???
ur b/f could visit...
then u need to report it to the authorities.. and let the cards fall where they may.. they both need help...
u can do no more to help them.. it is up to them... to help them self..
that is on them not u.
good luck...
2007-09-16 03:39:52 · answer #6 · answered by ♥ Blondie ♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just reading the title gave me lots of ideas about your life. You should try God. Do Yoga, pray, dance, make new friends. God knows what pain we have because he feels it too.
God Bless
You know where I hang!!
2007-09-16 03:22:36 · answer #7 · answered by pinkeee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you and your dad should leave,but your mom may have a brain tumor or something
2007-09-16 02:39:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋