two of my friends are my coworkers but in a different department. They had an argument and the one who's been my friend longer than the other (before i joined this company) asked me not to talk to or be polite to the other friend who had got him the job in the first place and helped me also to get there. I tried to convince my friend to be professional and objective and not to pull me into this. I can't afford to be rude to anyone and this is their private matter, he got upset and said i've never asked you for for anything before and I'll never ask you again and he's not asnswering my calls. what should I do?
2007-09-15 18:14:06 · 11 answers · asked by why 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Time to get more mature friends. Seriously, that is really childish. Stay out of it and don't be dragged into the middle.
2007-09-15 18:22:17 · answer #1 · answered by ivy9toes 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
While I don't know your friend, it sounds a bit, no a lot, selfish of him to ask that of you. You are correct, their argument should have been kept a private matter between the both of them. It is a difficult thing when a friend puts you in the middle of an argument that it sounds like you had no part of. I was unfortunate enough to have a similar experience and chose to take the side of one. It cost me the other's friendship and didn't help much with the one in the long run. A part of me felt resentful that the one friend put me in that no win situation. I should've stayed out of it.
If he is a true friend, he should respect your wish to keep neutral, IMO.
2007-09-15 18:37:49 · answer #2 · answered by Isaura 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend is putting you in a very awkward position by asking you this. It is not something a genuine friend would ask of you. Although your friend refuses to be professional and objective, that does not mean that you have to cease being so. Stand your ground on this one. It is not for you to buy into these petty squabbles. Your friend is, as Tina says, being extremely immature about this.
2007-09-15 19:41:13 · answer #3 · answered by Bethany 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forget him. He is not a true friend if he is going to act like this. He is being petty and acting like a child. I would not turn my back on him, and I would also alert the higher-ups as to the problem just in case he tries to make trouble for you.
2007-09-15 20:47:05 · answer #4 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I ask my friends to pick sides whenever I am in a situation such as your co-worker's. However, I do not ask them to be rude to the person that I'm in a conflict with, I just tell them to treat him distantly. I personally think that you should stick with the one that has been your friend for the longest time.
2007-09-15 23:43:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You made the right decision. It is between the two of them. You do not want to get in the middle of it. What should you do? Stick to your decision of staying out of it.
2007-09-15 18:56:07 · answer #6 · answered by Caitlyn 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No they can't. He has no right to tell you how to act towards someone else. Stop calling him. Most of the above answers look good.
2007-09-15 18:28:14 · answer #7 · answered by Luken 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you did the mature thing by lettin your friend know that you don't wanna be involved in his personal matters.
2007-09-16 00:38:05 · answer #8 · answered by chichibaby 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, yes, they are allowed to ask you to do that, however, to be polite, you should wait until you hear both sides, and make your own judgements. Don't be a sheep.
2007-09-15 18:20:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yea Tina's right. Thats real immature and dont get involved in their crap.
2007-09-15 18:25:24 · answer #10 · answered by Wise Guy 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋