The past 2 weeks he's been breaking stuff like crazy!!! The doors off a solid wood coffee table, the bedroom door, the roof of a barbie house, barbie heads, cutting his clothes and toys..... He's normally really shy, quiet & very good natured. He's been in public school for only 1 week part time. (I homeschool part time.) And his dad has been working LOTS of hours overnight. Could these things be causing him to act like this? He's also been meaner to his sister & not playing with her as much (nothing major) and sassing back to me a little bit. I feel like I'm about to lose my mind!!! He was learning so many things this year (reading, writting, ridding his bike w/o training wheels, swimming, flag football & made many new friends...) and things were going so good!! Why the attitude & destructive behavior?
2007-09-15 18:02:56 · 6 answers · asked by ♥bigmamma♥ 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I remember a previous question you asked about your son and Public School--about his medical condition. It could be that he has been teased for this condition at school and it is causing his destructive behavior. He also could just be reacting to the many changes in his life recently. He could be picking up bad habits from kids at school... many different things "could" be going on. You should watch carefully to see if he has more behavior issues at certain times, (like right after school, or when his dad leaves for work), you should also try to talk to him at a time when he isn't upset and see if you can find out what is bothering him. I have met many homeschoolers who put their kids in school and immediately see a negative change in their behavior, but I have also known many homeschoolers who put their kids in school and see positive changes-- it just depends on the child and the school. Has he had issues with his medical condition while at school? If so that could be a part of it.
I think you should try to find out whats wrong on your own first, but if you cant get him to talk to you, then you might consider counseling. Especially if this continues past a few weeks of adjustment time.
2007-09-16 04:47:53 · answer #1 · answered by Thrice Blessed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has he had any "incidents" at school or maybe near misses that caused the other kids to tease him? If that is the only thing that has really changed in his routine then something there has him frustrated and he is not sure how to express the frustration that he feels. He is comfortable at home and so is taking out his frustration there. Talk to his teachers and make sure that none of them mentioned that he has any issues that could separate him from the rest of the class. Other than that it is just the adjustment period and him showing that he is not comfortable with the change in going to school. It will get better as long as the other kids are not teasing him.
2007-09-16 02:56:22 · answer #2 · answered by firemouse23 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You might want to speak to his teachers at school. If he's only there parttime it's possible he could be being bullied for being "different", ie homeschooled. Kids can be horrible to each other for being what they perceive as different. If he is being bullied or picked on then he's more than likely venting his frustrations at home.
Take care and good luck.
2007-09-15 20:51:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
BigM,
sorry to hear of this. Can you sit down with him in a non-emotional state and just have a "Mom-to-son" conversation first without distractions of TV, Computers, Radios, Games, etc? See what he tells you first.
Best to you!
Gerry :)
2007-09-16 00:21:08 · answer #4 · answered by Gerry 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He wants attention.
2007-09-15 18:12:22 · answer #5 · answered by Steven C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
rebelling, thats the only way he knows you'll pay attention to him.
2007-09-15 18:20:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋