How can I stop this from happening?

Question

I know I posted this already, but I need more answers then what I'm getting - and not so many answers about seeking professional help, but more answers from people who have gone through the same thing, and can tell me how to deal with it. ok....so I have this HUGE problem with anxiety. I can't even go and order something from a fast food place or anything like that, and I am too afraid to apply for a job because I'm terrified of making a mistake in front of everyone. And when I walk in public, my anxiety gets so bad that I find it hard to even walk. I get dizzy when I walk in public, and it's like my legs want to freeze up or something. I feel almost paralyzed when that happens, and I seem to walk really tense from what my dad says. Does anyone else know where I'm coming from, or know a friend/family member with the same problem? If so, could you please give me some advice?! I would love to talk to someone who is/has gone through what I am going through - [e-mail]

I really don't know what I'm gonna do when my parents force me to move out. I can't even leave the house alone anymore I'm so terrified of everything. It gets even worse when my parents say some comment like - stop with the anxiety Bulls***, we know it's just something you do for attention. It's not, they don't seem to understand what I'm going through

I want to talk to a doctor about it, and I have, but I can't explain the full extend of my problem because of this one little problem - my parents. I'm afraid of explaining the full extent on what is going on in front of them. My parents will get mad at me. They always say "it's just a thing for attention" or yell at me. Or worse - they force me to do the things that I'm most afraid of. When that happens, I usually come home, go to my room, and just cry for hours. :(

I have had problems with anxiety as long as I can remember. I'm almost 15, and It just keeps on getting worse and worse. :(

Answer 1

And it will keep getting worse and worse until you get professional help. Been there, done that. Please don't keep asking people to help you, when you are not willing to help yourself. It gets you nowhere. Stand up for yourself and talk to a counselor at school, or the nurse. If you keep doing what you're doing, you'll keep getting what you're getting. You deserve to be able to leave your house without fear. Good luck.

Answer 2

Awww I'm so sorry for what you're going through. I think you need to take some friends with you when you go out in public and see how it feels. Or, try walking early in the day time around your neighborhood when there aren't so many people around and have someone with you to talk to while you're walking. Maybe once you start engaging in a conversation, it will keep your mind off of the anxiety. It's worth a shot. Anytime you start feeling tense, take a deep breath and keep going.

As far as your parents are concerned, I think they may be saying those things to you because they're just frustrated with whatever you're going through and don't understand the whole story. You should try to sit down and talk to them thoroughly and tell them in depth what this anxiety is doing to you psychologically and how it makes you cry, especially when they don't believe you. I'm sure there are group therapies or sessions you can attend with a therapist that can help you. They are your parents and guardians afterall and I'm sure they mean well for you but you just need to talk things through with them. I also wouldn't be surprised if they were in a little bit of denial because maybe they are afraid of accepting the fact that their daughter may actually have an anxiety disorder. In any event, talking is key here and they need to hear it from YOU...they are your caretakers and can help you once you can admit to them the seriousness of your anxiety.

In the meantime, you should visit websites online for anxieties. There are millions of people all over the world who suffer from all types of anxieties so don't feel alone...because you're not. There is help out there and I know you can overcome this!

I wish you well.

I can't say it's easy or that it will happen at all 100% (as anxiety is different for everyone who has it) but I know you can get better over time.
~*Good luck and God Bless*~

Answer 3

Please don't be too hard on your parents. As the mother of 4, ages 19 - 27, I can tell you that it's not always easy determining when a child, especially a teen, is blowing a situation out of proportion.

Plus, many people, possibly your parents included, don't understand panic attacks and anxiety disorders so they don't know how to deal with it.

I have suffered from panic attacks and anxiety, too, so I know what you're going through. The first thing I did was see my doctor for some medication, which worked wonders.

But I didn't want to be on medication all the time so I started reading information on panic attacks and anxiety disorders to learn what causes them and how to stop them. I've been panic free for awhile now, just from knowing how to stop the panic attack when it begins.

You can read up on panic attacks at the link below. Let your parents read it, too, so they can understand better what's going on and get you the help that you need.

Answer 4

I am 23 years old and I have gone through a similar thing but instead I have panic and anxiety disorders.When I am in the public, people gives me strange looks as my head will tremble or shake like the person who posted above me and I am very depressed and angry what people are thinking, judging and even laugh at me in the public. I don't have much friends because most people in the public as well as most of my university classmates isolate me when they see that I have this anxiety and I don't think I will recover or put an end to this anxiety-head tremor or can live as a general people in the society after that. And I know it is difficult to get rid of those negative thoughts or fears from your mind by your own without external help. I am currently taking medicines such as zoloft and risperdal but I don't think both medicines seems work on me. Hope that helps. You can email me by clicking on my yahoo user name if you want to talk to me...

Answer 5

There is medication you can take for anxiety. I take it myself and it has worked wonders. No one knows what you are going through unless they have been through it themselves. If you don't feel like you can talk to your parents talk to your school nurse. People post a lot of really rude answers when people are seeking help. You are not going to get better on your own so you do need to see a doctor. You are not the only person to go through something like this and don't be afraid to get the professional help you need. The only way you can get better is with some help.

Answer 6

I absolutely know where you are coming from. I lived in total panic for 13 years. For nearly a year in that time I couldn't even leave my house.

Although there may be various obvious reasons for it starting, I have really looked into why it persists and what can be done to get over it. I am panic free now. I have no further episodes and live a happy life.

I believe we get stuck in panic and anxiety because we lose ourselves. By that I mean when we pay more attention to being what we think we are supposed to be instead of understanding who we really are.

So often teenagers follow their peers or their idols (tv stars, singers etc) in dress and behaviour. It is really easy to ignore what the "inner self" thinks and feels and end up doing what is popular and desirable by everyone else.

My advice to help you get through this is to start paying attention to the quiet voice of wisdom that lives inside you. Don't neglect the real you. Start to listen to yourself and your needs. Become more genuine about finding your way to "be" instead of being like everybody else.

I don't mean this to be harsh. It is very easy to get swept up in the cloning of youth where it seems that everybody else knows the answers except us, so we just follow along and do what is "expected" of us.

There is so much emphasis today on what we should look like, how we should dress, what is fashionable, what is acceptable. None of it is REAL. WE are real. We don't fit a box and we shouldn't try.

Let your clothing reflect YOUR style. Let your choices and decisions about what you do and where you go and who you spend your time with, reflect YOU. Create a way to show the world your uniqueness and hang on to it.

Then, you will lose the panic and anxiety and find happiness through your special path in life.

Answer 7

First thing...take a deep breath.

I would recommend seeing someone to help, but if that's not an option then try one thing at a time.
Don't worry about everything at once. Start maybe by going into a fast food restaurant with a family member and not saying anything to the cashier.

Then maybe tell then your order, then increase to ordering the whole thing.

Also you need to figure out why you don't like doing these things. Is it because you're afraid you're going to make a mistake? Why are you so afraid you're going to make a mistake?

I would also recommend talking to your parents about everything because they need to know. Also if they know what's going on they're not going to make you move out and that's one less thing to worry about.

I'm not a mental health professional. But I"m trying to help.

Answer 8

I have also had horrible anxiety and I know what your going through. I used to get so anxious I would faint or start to shake. The best advice I can give is to keep your head up high and face it straight on. The worst thing you can do is ignore it, run away from it or hope it goes away. Keep taking it one step at a time and you will be alright in the end.

Another thing that helped was my meds I have taken Rhisperdol, Prozac etc. and I saw a phsyciatrist. It really helped and even though I still struggle once and awhile. I can still continue on with my life.

Hope this helps.
Keep calm.
Loggz

Answer 9

I've had problems similar to yours, although my anxiety tends to come and go while other issues (depression, desire for isolation) tend to remain most of the time. I have been seeing a psychiatrist and taking medication for quite a while now and the medication they give you really does help. I used to have lots of panic attacks and I used to really fear going in public but I am a lot better about things now. If you want to talk about things you can IM me, XtheXlanternX

Answer 10

Sounds like Anxiety and Panic Attacks these books contain information that helped me tremendously. They may be able to help you articulate what you need to say to your mom & dad.