Tonight my mom didn't follow through on promising to pay our loan for two months while my husband is in between jobs. She never said she'd pay the whole loan, but she never said she wouldn't pay any of it either. She left us under the impression that she'd pay the $167 for 2 months. Now we're screwed. But to make matters worse, my father in law was the one who got it for us under the condition that my mom would pay it for those two months. My husband is livid and I'm stuck in the middle. My mom thinks he's using me to abuse her emotionally because he said he's no longer going to help her out with anything, and he basically feels burned. I am stuck choosing my loyalty to either her or him and I just want to curl up in a ball and escape from this hell.
So, is he abusing her/me? Is she using us? Or is it just an unfortunate situation leaving everyone hurt and "wronged"?
2007-09-15 17:48:13 · 2 answers · asked by rhiamon 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Did she at any time specifically state she would pay the loan as you have described? Your father in law got you the loan?
Okay, you are stuck in the middle and need to get the facts straight. If she said she would and can't, then I can see being angry but understanding of her predicament. After all, you can't pay the loan either!
Your husband not being as helpful may be a reaction to his anger at the situation. Let him cool off. And tell him to get his butt working! And your father in law should stay out of the way. If you can't secure a loan on your own then you shouldn't have one. If he got the loan for you, then he needs to be prepared to pay it.
2007-09-15 19:33:21 · answer #1 · answered by dizzkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your mom sounds like a control freak.....your husband should come first....can't you get a job and help?
2007-09-15 17:58:42 · answer #2 · answered by sayasyoulike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋