My son is 14 months old and I feel torn on when my husband and I should have another. He said he is ready anytime but wants me to be ready before we try. I want my kids to be close in age so they can grow up together. I also want about 4 kids and I dont want to be an older mom. I am 25 now. But, will it be too hard having 2 kids 2-3 years apart? My hubby and I are really happy together and we love our son. What do you think?
2007-09-15 17:39:21 · 8 answers · asked by ? 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Trust your instincts. Wait till you feel you really want it. We have three and our oldest is three. So yes, it's hard. Is it worth it? Yes. Take your time deciding, your heart will let you know when you're ready. Don't make a decision like this based on mathematics.
2007-09-15 17:50:19 · answer #1 · answered by average_american_superhero 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have two children and they are about 3 years apart. Both are boys, I wouldn't want them any closer than that since they're a handful right now as it is. One's 6 the other 3. They get along and play together fairly well, but I think if they were further apart it would be harder. We plan to have one more only, (I had 2 previous c-sections so the next will probably be a planned c-section and they advise only three) but because of money we're forced to wait. I'm 27, if I were you, I'd wait until your son is at least two before having another. Of course, it's all up to you and when you feel ready. I'm worn out running after a three year old and a six year old in school all day. I'm waiting until my three year old is in kindergarten before having our last one. Good luck.
2007-09-15 17:47:32 · answer #2 · answered by katesolo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
15 months apart is what I recommend. My daughter had 3; the first 2 are about 2 years apart and she just had her son, he is about 2 years difference as well. I won't pretend she isn't having an easy time about it but she loves her kids and because of the time in between, they start things about a year or so apart. It is always easier to have your kids when you are younger; your body is in better shape to recover from it and you are at a nice age when they become young adults so you can have fun with them still. Hope this helps and Good Luck!!!!
2007-09-15 17:50:34 · answer #3 · answered by roritr2005 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ideally, you should wait at least two years between kids to give your body a chance to heal from pregnancy and nursing. I got pregnant with my second when my first was 22 months, so mine are 2 1/2 years apart. It's hard sometimes, but they are close and enjoy each others company, so I am happy with the spacing. I think between 2 - 4 years apart is perfect.
2007-09-15 17:49:20 · answer #4 · answered by bayshorebabydoll 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my kids are 12, 10, 8, and 4 1/2. yeah its hard but its well worth it. and i am 31 so i started a little earlier than you. you wont be old either.
2007-09-15 17:47:32 · answer #5 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think 3 years is the perfect amount of time between each child.
2007-09-15 17:45:36 · answer #6 · answered by I Heart LA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait another year. Believe me, you kids will get along fine and your first baby will be big enought to be a little "mommy's helper". Plus he will be potty trained and out of the baby carseat, and you will not have to get a double stroller.
2007-09-15 17:46:31 · answer #7 · answered by parental unit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyday...ur hubby can find someone else and so can u so u can have twice as more kids!!
2007-09-15 18:00:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋