im a worthless piece of crrap...i feel lonely , i have a lot of friends and they always introduce me girls, but im a **** shy and always ruin it. im 17 and havent even kissed a girl . i CANT do anything right , im a clown. also, i cant have sex! i have phimosis,cant retract my foreskin. IM DOOMED. there is no remedy in my life.
2007-09-15 17:32:38 · 23 answers · asked by moimaesrase34 m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no you're not. i had many of the same problems at your age, and now i've turned it round. didn't kiss a girl til i was 18, now i'm 24 and i have a gorgeous girlfriend. be more positive around them, and start to be more positive about yourself. in fact "Snap out of it". Wallowing in self-pity isn't going to help and won't make you attractive. Grab life by the balls. Next time you see a girl you like, ask her out. I did this and my confidence changed so much. From that point on, anytime I saw a hot girl I've thought "well, i now know that i have the confidence to ask her out if i want".
do yourself a favour, start focusing on the positive aspects of your life, it's very easy to get depressed in this big bad world of ours sometimes. but being moody / depressed won't help.
good luck to you!
2007-09-15 17:40:11 · answer #1 · answered by the_chosen_one 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Despite what you may think there are plenty of guys that are 17 and haven't kissed a girl.
2. Phimosis, from what I read, doesn't stop you from having sex but if you are uncomfortable then talk to a doctor about treatment options. Girls aren't as obsessed over a guys penis as a guy is.. trust me.
3. You aren't a clown. Clown's are funny. AND you can work on the shy part by practicing.
4. You are going through the typical teenage thing.. it will get better. Before you know it you will have a woman around and you will be sending her on a trip just to get rid of her. Enjoy yourself while you can.
2007-09-16 00:45:29 · answer #2 · answered by mosaic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Psh, 17 and never kissed a girl? You're not the only one... I had a boyfriend who was 19 when he first kissed a girl. Don't worry... everyone goes at their own pace and it doesn't make you a loser. I do think that there's someone out there for everyone. When you get to college, you'll find a group of people that you fit in with.
Ummm... could you be circumcised? Would that fix the problem? If you really feel like you're doomed, talk to your doctor to see what you can do?
2007-09-16 00:39:02 · answer #3 · answered by bored. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, I met a 45 year old guy who has not budged from this attitude.
He is exasperating for me and for family. What will help you most? Join Eagle Scouts and learn to give back to other people. We are not all here for you to take advantage of to get out of your negative self image. Why am I being so cruel? Because this guy is still living off his father, step father, and any woman of any age who will feed him.
My dad told me at 17 that he was done raising his kids when they turned 18, and that was not the norm for families, but it was the best he could do. I've educated myself; I've financed my own homes and cars and I've joined groups whereby I have social skills,
If you have an anatomical problem, ask a doctor in family practice for a referral. If you have a shyness issue, get a job or join a social organization: even soup kitchens give you exposure to a broad spectrum of life situations, We are all in this together, you've been dealt a set of talents that can be leveraged to win. Remember that some are worse off, and others are worse for their attitudes.
Do the best to nurture your attitude...nobody else can.
Best of luck. And don't call yourself a loser. God didn't make mistakes. You have the ability to grow.
2007-09-16 00:42:18 · answer #4 · answered by Yenelli 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel that way, go out and LIVE YOUR LIFE!!! Don't be so scared and don't have that feeling about yourself or your screwed anyways! The next time someone suggests a girl for you, take the offer. being a virgin at 17 ain't that bad man.. I have hard people going a lot longer than that! I don't know what to say about your foreskin... I won't comment there.. The remedy is LIVE YOUR LIFE TO IT'S FULLEST.
2007-09-16 00:37:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be so hard on yourself. You're not a piece of c*rap and you know it. When you're around girls, you just need to be yourself and relax. Don't tense up! Just because you can't have phimosis, it doesn't mean that you're doomed for the rest of your life. Look on the bright side, you can still be in a relationship. All you need to do is get to know a girl. Just be yourself and talk to one. A girl will naturally come to you. Don't think you're a loser. You're not.
2007-09-16 00:37:56 · answer #6 · answered by chocolateluver60351~~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am almost like u but i never call my self a loser cause am not and u r not either. People have their way of living, Like i have a friend who can't live without kissing a girl for one day, but i don't want that i never kissed a girl before and i am kindda proud of that cause i can do it anytime, let me give u this advice : u don't have to do a thing just because u can do it. Give yourself time and concentrate on your studies and u will be happy when u find someone u really love.
2007-09-16 00:38:20 · answer #7 · answered by Sheva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I knew a sweet guy who was 33 before he kissed a girl. There is nothing wrong with being shy! It's a bunch of BS when you get the impression that being bold and having girls is the way to be. Just be yourself. There are many women who love shy guys. You think we all want suave and experienced? No way ~ women are turned on by virgins too!
2007-09-16 00:45:08 · answer #8 · answered by kdbee40 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh yes! Dude, that's awesome. Your shy that is a highly admirable thing in a guy for me. Sex is over-rated anyway. Sure it feels good but its not going to ruin your life. I haven't had sex in 2 years and that's my choice and I've been dating the same guy for 3.5 years. We respect each other enough not to have sex as a base of our relationship. (and no people he isn't getting it from somewhere else) Just invest your time into a hobby. Become really good at something.
2007-09-16 00:41:05 · answer #9 · answered by StaRs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG stop that! There is nothing wrong with you, you have talked yourself into a dark place! YOu just haven't met the right girl or partner yet. The doc can help you with the other stuff! I don't see anything that can't be fixed. Just go do it & stop wallowing it self pity. If you continue doing talking & thinking like that you will never be happy........
2007-09-16 00:34:19 · answer #10 · answered by char__c is a good cooker 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋