Why don't alot of white ppl dicipline their kids?

Question

most of my white friends curse and smoke in front of their moms and when i see white ppl on tv, like dr. phil and maury, they cant controll their kids or teens and they don't woop them.
I'm 18 and I stay out of trouble even to this day because of my moms dicipline as a child and I love and respect her more than anything. Why do most white ppl let their teenage or even adult children curse in front of them and say what they want with little respect without kicking their a*ses?

Answer 1

This is an idea from asian ppl.
When we watch the us cenima or television, I feel black ppl brough up their children better than white. The relationship between parent and kids was more closer like asian ppl. That is the important thing to be family not you and me. White son and duaghter will not look after their parent leave their parent alone till die. It's so sad and never happen in asian which we will take care of them first. Everything in your country is so modern and civilize but the mind for care ppl was broken. Try to pay attention to this case , more happiness become your family.

Answer 2

I am a white person who teaches preschool in a predominately black area (there's 2 white kids, about 10 Puerto Ricans or Dominicans in my school of 110 kids.) And there is a general cultural difference in the way our kids are raised. But I see it a bit differently than you. My son respects me, and pretty much listens to me. But he's not scared of me. A lot of my preschoolers are scared of their parents, and for good reason. Once a parent (or grandparent, or aunt) hears their child acted up, they take their kids in the bathroom and spank them right there (another difference, white people say spank, not beat. The first time I heard a child tell me they got a beating, I about fell over.) Or they take their shoe off and whack 'em right there. The only person to spank my child (if need be) is me.

And once my son gets old enough, I don't care if he curses in front of me.

It used to really bother me; I guess now I just see that even though we're all Americans, different cultures raise their children very differently and have different expectations. A quick example-- every predominately white school I taught at, kids tied their shoes at 4 or 5. Now I have a lot of three-year-olds who tie. Different expectations. But at the white schools I've been at, the kids spelled their name at 3 and knew the alphabet at 2 or 3, much earlier than the school I'm at now.

I think it's all relative. You say white kids have no respect, I say black kids get knocked around too much. Who's to say who's right?

Answer 3

not all white ppl are that way also i see kids of all races running around screaming at their parents and tearing through stores like little hellions all the time, im 25 and i still wouldnt dare say anything stupid or disrespectful to my mom cuz i know it dont matter if im 50 shes still gonna whoop my butt if i do i also respect my elders even if their a holes well hell their old they can be *** grouchy as they wanna be i guess anyways ya children raised with respect is a rarity these days

Answer 4

I can say after seeing the way children act that I wonder why most all parents do not discipline their children. These days about the only kids I see that behave and act somewhat respectful are Asian children. I have seen a lot of black, white, and Hispanic kids acting like little devils. If I had acted that way my mother would have busted my butt, then when my dad got home it would have been even worse!

Answer 5

Depends how you are raised, the schools teach our children to call child abuse, if the parents spank them, so naturally parents are afraid to touch them and get put in jail. The courts can't control them or the schools or the police, so then guess who's in trouble, as a parent of six, my daughter did come home and tell me that and I told her, if I go to jail it's going to be for a reason, and that ended that! I read a poem one day about child abuse where the boy came home and told the mom that she can't make him clean his room or do chores,she can't make him do anything he don't want or he'll call d.c.f.s. so ok she can't make him do anything, the law states a roof over his head,food,clothes,doesn't mention what kind of food as long as its healthy, clothes from thrift store are just as good as old navy, no tv's, gameboy, or name brand shoes as long as he's taken care of, then the mom got an apology because the system didn't tell him that part of it! The law doesn't understand I'd rather give my child a spank when he is smaller,than have him shot to death or kill someone when he is older. One little spank isn't going to hurt and I don't mean until you bruise a child, it hurts their feelings more than the spank.

Answer 6

I don't agree that white people or black people or any other people with whatever color discipline their children according to their race. You may have been around people that happen to be white that don't train their kids up correctly but it isn't because they're white.

Answer 7

An even better question is why is this posted under environment? Didn't your mother tell you it's rude to interupt a conversation to bring up a different topic?

Answer 8

It's probably because the kids were smacked that they misbehave. Oh sure those who haven't been smacked misbehave too but not to the degree that those who were smacked do.

Those who are disciplined without being smacked tend to be less likely to get into trouble than those who have been smacked.

A lot of kooks ignore this and continue abusing their children but the evidence is very clear on the matter, smacking doesn't work and harms children.

Answer 9

Maybe you just happen to know a bad crowd. My mom would KILL me if she even heard I was cursing or smoking, and if she sees some little snot ball swearing at his parents she really gives it to him.
She's a tough lady though. Some parents just aren't cut out for it.

Answer 10

who says it's just a white persons problem. I've seen it in all races and backgrounds.

We're just dumb enough to do it on TV