how do break a 4 year old girl from wetting the bed?

Question

she wears a pull-up at night. i dont know what to do.

Answer 1

she'll get out of it...don't try to break her of it....my daughter still at times needs to wear pull ups and she is almost 5 years old...remember no two children are alike and she could just have an underdeveloped bladder...or if there are changes or stress in your home, she could sense that and have bed wets...my daughter did earlier this year because we had a new baby girl in the family and here recently because of the stress that is going on....so don't try to force her to stop...she'll get it....but do try and see if you can get her to go to the potty (whether she thinks she needs to go or not) and tell her to try and go...don't let her drink anything about 2 hours before bedtime also..these are some things I've tried for my daughter and they seem to work..and for a while this year she had to go back to pull ups..and that was okay....every child is different

Answer 2

it isn't a big deal and is common for children especially that young to wet the bed. Just keep using the pullups or the ones made for nighttime bed wetting. Don't allow liquids for 2 hrs before bedtime and make sure she uses the potty before going to bed. She is most likely not waking when she has to pee and there really is nothing you can do about that. They dream they are in the bathroom so they potty without realizing they are still in bed. If she continues to have the problem as she gets older the Dr may want to run tests on her bladder to rule out any problems but usually bladder problems present during the day as well. Also some 4 year olds aren't even pottytrained, some take until 5 years old. Right now there isn't really anything you can do other than take away the bedtime water/liquid and make sure she uses the bathroom.

Answer 3

Have there been any changes (even subtle ones that you may not think she has noticed) in your household or lives? That could be a huge issue in her bedwetting. The best course of action is to take her off any caffinated beverages immediately and cut off her liquids three hours before bed with the exception of sips of water. You have to remember NOT to get frustrated and certainly not to punish her for it. You have to remember that she is ASLEEP and cannot control her actions. If the liquid rations and no caffiene don't work, you may just have to keep investing in pull ups and maybe a plastic mattress cover until she is older. Some children take longer to learn. Some children sleep harder than others and have a harder time waking up and are often not awakened by the sensation to go to the bathroom. You can remedy a lot of that by making sure she goes potty before she goes to bed and that she goes to bed BEFORE she is exhausted. If she isn't completely worn out, she won't sleep as hard and will therefore be more subseptible to feeling the sensations and waking up when she feels them. My four year old has been trained for almost two years and she still has occassional accidents, but nothing major. My sister, however, was eleven before she stopped wetting the bed. If you think its a big issue, see your pediatrician.

Answer 4

There is a problem as to why she is wetting the bed. But.
Use care in the breaking her from wetting the bed.

Here an example:

I came from a broken home where there was a lot of fighting.
At seven I still wet the bed. One Sunday afternoon in the dead of winter with the temperture an near zero and six inches of snow on the grown. I was taken out behind the barn and strip of all clothing and whipped for I don't how long. I passed out from the buckle tearing through my skin. The next day I had more than 100 tears in my skin. Several of the tears went through my belly and my insides were showing through and my privates had to be sewn in three different places.
I DIDN'T WET THE BED ANY MORE. I was broken

So please take care as to how and what you do to break you daughter of wetting the bed.

Answer 5

You can limit fluid intake for an hour before bedtime, make sure that she uses the toilet prior to bed and try waking her once or twice during the night to use the toilet.

However, please know that some children just can not control their bladders yet, especially at night when their bodies are fully relaxed. Do not scold or punish her, as this is perfectly normal for children her age (and even older).

Consult her pediatrician for more information as to what you might do, and what might be the cause of it. S/he is the best person to ask this question of.

My husband wet the bed until he was 11 or so years old. He was afraid of the dark.

Answer 6

My sister wet the bed until she was 8 years old. I remember many times she was unable to control her bladder when we would be out and about and she would have to run home and not make it. Some children are not aware of their bladder activity and when they do feel the 'urge' it is stronger than they knew it to be. First, I would have her checked out with her PED. Make sure there is nothing physically wrong. Then monitor her liquid intake and exercise a cut off time at least an hour prior to her bedtime. Make sure that her bedding has an appropriate waterproof mat so that her urine will not soak completely through to the mattress. Whatever you do, don't embarrass her, but be gentle with her and talk to her about her feelings. Let her know that you want to help her through this. I know many kids whose self-esteem was shot to hell because of this challenge. Good luck to you and I hope the ideas and suggestions you receive will help.

Answer 7

She doesn't have the bladder control yet, and there is nothing much you can do.

This is more common than you think.

Buy a better matress pad and it will be less stressful.

If you punish or talk much about it, you will only turn a physical reality into a source of stress and a power struggle.

Honestly. If the full bladder doesn't wake her, there's nothing you can do to change that. Think about it. You are asking her to change a behavior she only has when unconcious. That isn't very fair.

Answer 8

At 4 years old it isn't something you need to "break". Some children literally are so out of it while asleep that they cannot wake up enough to feel the urge to go potty. It depends on your family history as well. Best thing to do is restrict her fluids a few hours before bedtime. Also consider waking her up and placing her on the potty right before you go to bed and encourage her to go pee. It isn't something she is doing out of choice.

Answer 9

You don't. It is perfectly normal for kids to have night time accidents until they are around 7yrs old. Keep the pull ups on, don't make a big deal out of it and in time she will gain better control of her bladder at night. Until then, don't give her anything to drink right before bedtime and have her use the potty before you tuck her in!

Answer 10

I recommend taking an approach where you do everything you can to minimize the chance of this happening. Start with:

1. Reducing fluids before bed and have her pee right before bedtime.
2. Wake her up to use the toilet before you yourself go to bed.
3. Use a monitor to listen for any noise. My son would wimper in his sleep before he had an accident.
4. Give her the ability to go on her own. I used the Potty Stool so my kids developed the habit of going when they had to without me having to remind them. This stool made all the difference for my kids. http://www.thepottystool.com

Hope this helps.