Isn't it ideal for the people in the Catholic or Christian religion to stay a virgin before they're married?

Question

I thought it was, but it seems like most don't that...
Isn't the white dress suppose to symbolize purity?
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I'm an Atheist, and I think that sex AFTER marriage makes more sense..

Answer 1

Actually, it's the ideal FOR ALL people to remain virgins until marriage....the Bible even says that fornicators will not enter Heaven.

The color of the wedding dress is meaningless. In Asian countries, white is the color for MOURNING ;-)

Answer 2

Makes sense? Is that why people have sex, so they can make sense?
ince you are not Christian, then think about ancient times, before DNA testing, where inheritance was very important, people needed to know who the children's parents where so they would know who to pass on their estates on to. Assuring the girl's virginity became part of that tradition. Virginity meant many different things depending on the culture. Some early people defined it as not having a child yet.
It also is tied in with who would support the child. If she was pregnant when the marriage occured, purely economical in most cultures, then she might be carrying some other man's child. For some reason.. that was never very popular........
So if people do not get married by arranged marriages, don't really want kids then there is no point of "saving one's self" is there.

Answer 3

Congratulations on your vote for virginity. I, too, think it's better for anyone--Christian or not, male or female--to remain virgins until marriage. Why? Because uniting yourself with one person then tearing away, then another person then tearing away, then another person then tearing away, weakens your fabric.

However, many people find it too hard not to give in to their natural sexual desires--matter over mind, if you will.

The white dress used to symbolize virginity or purity. However, nowadays it symbolizes first wedding or even just wedding. Don't get hung up on the symbolism. It's what's in the heart, and the amount of love, wisdom, maturity, and commitment that one brings into a marriage, that counts.

And I reiterate, this is for both men and women. I wish men would wear white at weddings, too. I know some do.

Answer 4

According to the bible it is but people decide for themselves how to walk in their faith. I think it's good to remain a virgin 'til after marriage because sex before marriage can complicate a relationship, for instance is the couple together because they share certain qualities & beliefs or are they together because of the sex; in this way sex can cloud a relationship; Also I know from personal experience when I was sexually active--men don't want to let go when they've had a physical relationship w/ a woman even though they know there is no relationship or that it isn't working, some men feel entitled to have sex w/ a woman after she or he has ended the relationship.
My life is 100% better now that I do not engage in premarital sex for the last 5 yrs. and I don't miss it; I wish (w/out regret) that I had waited that's what my orig. plan was when I was a teenager. My choice keeps a distance between me & men who I know wouldn't fit in my life, I see it as a useful deterrent to undesirable men.
I'm a spiritual person myself, however I was raised as a muslim by my father and had a stint as a christian for awhile but my spiritual beliefs in Jesus Christ help to sustain my decision to abstain from sex.

Answer 5

That's what the Bible says, but who follows the teachings of the Bible these days? The idea is the same, as in Islam and the Jewish faith. Before you get to be with her, put the ring on her finger. If other words get married first. All three Abrianic faiths view fornacation (illegal sex or sex before marriage) the same - a sin. Islam teaches women to be covered and to dress modest in public so that only her husband can enjoy her beauty, men also should dress modest and not wear silk. With all the perverts in this world I don't see why people make such a big deal about covered women, didn't Mary mother of Jesus cover?

Answer 6

Absolutely. I just received a certification in CPR Saturday and got a thorough education is sexuality and the diseases that can be spread from it. Before sex education, before science or any of that, abstinence has always been the best answer and always will be. Its so simple it sometimes flies right over people's heads: if you don't have sex, you are 100% guaranteed NOT to contract STDs or get pregenant (or get someone pregenant). Imagine that - nothing complicated. Just wait till you're married and you keep your health and your sanity. Why is it so hard for people to get this?

Answer 7

Yes so many are not, and those who did make it follow a great women that was pure and the mother of Jesus. He came from human being so he was a human being also. A man nothing less or more other than he was given a title that he told you all about.

And he did say he had to leave or the final one would not come and he is the final one no others will come to you in messengers and prophets. Muhammed SAW was the very last one and all that is left is you and the spirits look left!

Answer 8

God most certainly does not condone adultery, or fornication. It does not matter what religion, or to what denomination a person belongs. Sex before marriage is most certainly a sin in the eyes of God. I hate to hear that you are an atheist, because many people who truly believe in God, do not even see any wrong or sin committed by having sex before marriage. If you truly have this conviction in your heart, does that not give you some idea that God is truly real and alive. For if He is not, who do you think is giving you the conviction of the wrong in having sex before marriage? If you truly do not believe in God, I do not see how you could see any wrong in doing anything; regardless of what it may be. Who do you think a person who has sex before marriage is going to have to answer to, for the wrong that they have done? I don't see how you could be an atheist, and even give a thought to what is right or wrong. It sounds to me like someone deep down in your heart, is trying to show you, or help you to realize that God truly is real and alive.

Answer 9

Your very right. Sex after marriage is right in terms of The Bible. Most people say that they have spirituality but live in a way that doesn't represent their faith. Just think of all the advantages. 1) If your married and get pregnant without planning to, your married to the person you love already and it makes it special and not a concern if you weren't married. You already know you want to spend the rest of your life with that person. 2) STD's little man whores and gross ladies out there. 3) There is a chemical located in the female brain (where main endorphins are stored) that releases when a girl loses her virginity that makes them attached forever to the person who took it. Lose it to your husband and the forever attachment would actually help the marriage.

Answer 10

you're right, as Christians we are to keep our marriage beds pure. Sex after marriage makes a load of more sense. You don't take all of that baggage into your marriage, all of the ties you've made with those other people.