Someone just insulted me online and I'm *really* mad right now, I'm kind of over it, but really hurt. Can I look at things from a more positive view?
especially since my mom just pointed to a Post-It on my computer saying "Don't worry what people think; They don't do it very often."
2007-09-15 17:00:18 · 16 answers · asked by whatevbookwrm687 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
i guess we've all been insulted some way or another online. it just happened, ur mad and its normal. a few days ago, this person answered 2 of my qns and was quite a jerk about my situation. (go check it out if u want) at first i was anxious to give him a piece of my mind, and after which i did, i felt better. so screw these big Aholes. give a few days time, perhaps time will make u feel better.
2007-09-15 18:37:10 · answer #1 · answered by miss understand 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You have the choice and the power to CHOOSE what you will allow to affect you.
I would suggest that you disregard or ignore bullying or insults via the internet.
The comments (or insults) made via internet are made by people that DO NOT know you personally. Therefore, there is NO WAY that you can give too much substance that is
said about you (good or bad!) via the internet!
Also, I would suggest that you learn to distinguish the difference between someone "attacking" you personally; and someone "attacking" or disagreeing with your ideas or your
opinions.
No one in the world is going to agree with you all the time.
(Not even those that know, love, and care about you) Decide
right now ... that YOU are the only person that can accurately
know what type of person you are. If I called you a "bookcase" does that mean that you REALLY are one???
No it does not! If I say that your opinions are stupid ... Does
that mean that YOU are stupid??? No ... it just means that I
have said that I think your opinions are stupid.
Again ... Don't give strangers .... Or anybody else for that matter the power to irritate you .... Or the power to make you
question your self-worth.
And if you are looking for .... or expecting that EVERYONE
will like you and agree with you ALL the time .... Then you are
being unrealistic and your expectations are too high!
You have GOT to like who YOU are NO MATTER what anyone else thinks.
Now if we were talking about physical bullying .... that would
be a different story!!!
2007-09-20 09:44:10 · answer #2 · answered by kjh 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Being hurt and angry right now is perfectly normal..
Let me ask you though..
If you're feeling hurt and angry over what this person said to you.. it has to be one of two reasons why you feel that way..
1) You care about what that person thinks about you.
or
2) The person is a dork you dont' care about, but in general they hurt your pride.
If your anger and hurt stem from the person hurting your pride... (#2).. then simply block the person, realize their an idiot who doesn't even know you.. and move on.
If your anger and hurt stem from issue #1... where you care about what that person thinks about you.. then you need to realize that your selfworth.. the value of what you think of yourself shouldn't be based on what some one else said to you..
Finally.. figure this.. have you met this person in person before?? Chances are you haven't.. and so you really don't know this person.. they could be a miserable unhappy person jealous of you.. and insulting you to make you miserable like them.
Most of the time people insult .. it often comes from jealousy, or feelings of insecurity... so in a way, their insult is kind of a form of flattery if you look at it that way.
Anyway.. forgive the person, or block the person .. that's up to you.. but life is too short to waste with idiots.. and if you do choose to forgive the person.. then if they insult you again.. you need to block them just for your own self respect.
Good luck.
P.S. Listen to your mom.. she's right on.
2007-09-22 19:16:59 · answer #3 · answered by Chris 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is right, some people take pleasure in being mean.
I have some add'l inspiration to add to what your mother said, a guy had it on his t-shirt by the artist de la vega, it said: Don't let ignorant people ruin your day.
When someone's nastiness has a lenthy effect on my I remember that being happy is a choice and that I shouldn't allow my mind to dwell on the negative, you'll miss out on the positive things in life if you do & those are the things we should allow to permeate our minds. Not someone else's mean spiritedness.
2007-09-23 11:02:48 · answer #4 · answered by BklynNative 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you get over a bullying incident?
Depends how severe it was.
If serious enough, it can give you post-traumatic stress syndrome. If it is just an insult from someone who doesn't know better, ride above it, tell yourself you ARE worthy and take your Mom's advice to heart.
Sorry this had to happen to you.
2007-09-21 23:08:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. You always feel like you want to get revenge. But you're the better person for allowing yourself to ignore the bully. Realize that bullies must put other people down because they lack so much in themselves. Don't allow what other people say to mesh into your spirit. Keep yourself separate from the hurt. Smile and keep moving forward. There is a quote that I learned from somewhere and I love it -
"Never argue with an idiot....he'll drag you down to his level and then beat you with experience.".
2007-09-15 17:13:08 · answer #6 · answered by THE SINGER 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Shrug it off. I always tell my kids not to let someone else bring them down. I know it hurts as I have been on the receiving end of that myself, but you are the bigger person. Bullies have no real friends, and few who will even pretend to be friends. Read and obey your own POST-IT! Sounds like you have a smart MOM>
2007-09-15 17:06:45 · answer #7 · answered by p h 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The only way to get over something that happens is to realize that what ever the person said is not true so dont stress it. Bullies are people who have no self esteem and they find theirs by making fun of others.
2007-09-15 17:05:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You were probably insulted by a 10 year old pretending that he doesn't wet the bed any more(but does) and has no friends or life. Don't let ignorant people get you down. Smile, life is short. Besides, God loves you, and thats all that matters.
2007-09-15 17:07:27 · answer #9 · answered by Pete 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Oh boy, ESPECIALLY since it was someone online, think of how pathetic they truly are to hide behind their computer in their aggression. This person probably deserves your pity!! lol. Don't waste a minute more thinking about it. (easier said than done, i know.)
2007-09-15 17:22:39 · answer #10 · answered by Katie G 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋