I am 28 years old and yes, I have never had a girlfriend and I do not believe in sex before marriage so I am also a virgin. Also, I have not even experienced my first kiss. I just haven't had the opportunity yet with the right person. I have had chances to "fool around", God I hate that term, but I turned them down because it didn't feel right, plus a part of me wants to see how long I can keep up my uber-vigin streak! Lol, it's kind of funny I think. But my friends and even some people in my family are starting to suggest that I should start dating. I have gone on maybe 3 in my life and I hated them, they were so awkward. My family members suggest only dating, but my friends go even further, telling me to think about the future. I don't think I want to get married or have kids. The friends say I will die a lonely old man. I am not married or in a relationship now an
2007-09-15 16:56:21 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I also live at home (rent free of course!) and those close to me say this is a turnoff to women? Why? Because I make good decisions with my money and love living with my family? I have no valid reason or need to move out just yet. I am working on a graduate degree and work full time close to home. I am not going to move out just to prove a silly little point. I am completely independent aside from the fact that I have housing provided for me. I am beginning to think that those that suggest that I change my lifestyle are simply jealous of me. Jealous that I am single, free and have made wise decisions in life. What do you think?
2007-09-15 16:56:40 · update #1
Do what you want to do not what other people want you to do. Dating can be awkward especially first dates - it gets more comfortable as you get to know someone. There are lots of women around that would like a relationship but don't want to have sex. You should try kissing and you might like it but it should feel comfortable to be with someone first. If you are happy living at home I don't think it is a problem with women. Just enjoy your life and maybe you will meet someone to have a relationship with. not everyone wants to get married.
2007-09-15 17:12:24 · answer #1 · answered by Spark 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is anything wrong with the way you are living your life. Why? Because it makes you happy. Not everyone fits into the same mold. I do think you should try to stop worrying about what everyone else thinks about how you live your life. There are plenty of people in long term relationships and marriages who are very lonely and unhappy. Maybe someday you'll find someone and maybe you won't. Remember that the important thing is to live your life the way you want to. As far as living with your parents, that is a very smart decision. You're in school, which is expensive. you're saving lots of money not having to pay rent. You have a great opportunity to build a nest egg when you get your own place. I will suggest that once you graduate and have a job, find a place of your own and really establish more independece.
2016-05-20 22:35:21 · answer #2 · answered by sallie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am absolutley sure that those people are not jealous of you. you really do need to move out and think about what you want to do with the rest of your life. maybe this is why those dates never worked out, you tell them you still live with mum and dad and it doesn't seem like you have a good career or anything. women want a man with independence and living at home is a major turn off for women. as for the sex thing, well you say you never want to get married, every woman wants sex just as much as men do and if you don't want to provide it then they wont stick around. seriously, you seem very boring, you don't have a very positive view on those other dates. are you just going to leave at three dates and date again because they didn't work out? thats dumb, your not experiencing life and everything it has to offer. move out of your parents, get a job and then maybe a decent woman might just hang around if you have something to offer.
2007-09-15 17:13:12 · answer #3 · answered by steven n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 26 and in the same situation, apart from the fact that I have never been on a date. The reason being because I am social phobic.
2007-09-18 07:58:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋