im in high school and im confused. is performing oral sex a sin for christians?

Question

i am a christian and i have been looking through the Bible. i know that having sex before marriage is a sin for sure but i cant seem to find anything about oral sex. the thing is, im in high school and there are so many pressures. i want a boyfriend badly but the things that come along with it worry me. im defiently not going to have sex before marriage but im not sure about oral sex. someone please help and it would be nice if you included some reference from the Bible. THANK YOU

Answer 1

Oral sex is still sex. Why else would it be called oral SEX?

"Oral sex is still a form of sexual expression that involves a physical and emotional interchange that is reserved for the covenant of marriage. So don’t think you can get away with oral sex outside of the marriage covenant and think you’re still right with God. In God’s eyes you’re a registered sex offender in heaven. God calls you a fornicator and all fornicators will go to hell."

I also want to add that you should value your beliefs when it comes to this topic. If and when you have a boyfriend, he too should respect your beliefs. Don't let him pressure you. I understand the pressures that come with high school, but you gotta stay strong and avoid it. Focus on your beliefs. That is what is important. People should like you for who you are, not for what they think you should be.

Answer 2

i think that u should have a boyfriend only because u feel comfortable with him and not because u want to please him. it is absurd. honestly, i think u should get over this pressure thing... i am a high school teacher and see hormones flying all over the building... all young men are interested in is sex, which is really bad...any form of it, at this age... why let these pressures come over u?... u should just try to detach urself from them and be proud that u're different , that u;re clean and pure...u;re purity is a virtue, and once gone it wont come back.
If u want a boyfriend that badly, it mean that probably u didnt have any...i assume u didnt, and in this case, why waste ur first love on someone who would want just sex..?...oral or not, one thing will lead to the other, trust me. first u start with touching, then oral and then, what do u know, u did the full thing, and i can guarantee that u;ll be all miserable and unhappy because (assuming ur bf pressured u in this) ur bf is the type that will run off with the next best thing he will find, and leave u.
My advice? ... forget the sex at ur age(oral or any kind), and save it for when u feel ready, with someone u love who loves u back. if u find a bf and he;ll stay with u just for sex, then he deffinetly doesnt love u...
Take care, and take the right decissions

Answer 3

God, be with this girl and let her stay chaste on fire for pleasing and serving You. Let her know that she can never go wrong by waiting for any type of sexual activity. Amen.

Oral sex is still sex. Actually it is discussed in the Bible though not directly such as " You must not have oral sex." What it does discuss is the difference between satisfying the body through lustful encounters and glorifying God through the intimacy enjoyed with marriage. Making love is suppose to be a union where both partners enjoy the closeness and unity of each other.

The Bible also makes it VERY clear that intercourse should ALWAYS be correlated with love. Not just puppy love, mind you, but true, passionate, life-long lasting love for one another.

I have found something in life that has guided me well. That is this principle, " Nothing of true value will go away by waiting." Especially with God. Afterall Jesus said, "Love is PATIENT...." My final word is this, challenge the boy to find out where his real heart lies. Challenge him to wait. If he waits, especially years, for you two to marry than he was the right one. If he pressures you he isn't. God will provide you with the boy of your dreams when the time is right.

Also remember this, a person can catch a sexually transmitted disease from oral sex just as well as from vaginal sex. Also, never believe when someone has told you they haven't had sex before. Most who want to get it will say anything and you will not only be exposed to them but anyone they have ever been exposed to and then anyone those people have been exposed to.

Good luck and God bless and keep you safe.

Answer 4

Yes it is a sin. Unfortunately sex is considered a hush hush topic [absurdly so to me] and is not really addressed very often as far as i'm aware. so, many are not aware of what is permissible and not permissible before marriage. If you're looking for a guideline i'm not sure i have it but, i guess any activity you feel would lead you to performing a sexual act is not permissible because it's a temptation to lead further. some say kissing isn't allowed and blah blah blah but i think it's more a personal standard. those who practice any kind of sexual activity before marriage are sinning. stay away from acts that would lead you into the bedroom [or wherever else] to have sexual relations [oral, anal, mutual masturbation, whatever].

Answer 5

Why don't you get a good book on the subject? There is a lot to know about the subject of sex (including oral sex) for the Christian. I would recommend you to read a book from Josh McDowell on the subject. For instance:
"Why True Love Waits: A Definitive Book on How to Help Your Youth Resist Sexual Pressure"

Hope this help.

Answer 6

Jesus tells us that to look upon another who is not our spouse with lust in the heart is sinful. If a look that leads to lustful feelings can be sinful, there is no doubt that oral sex which will also create lustful feelings is sinful if it does not occur in the marriage bed.

*With some of the answers I feel compelled to say more. God views sexual relations between a husband and wife as a beautiful reflection of love. He uses marriage and the love within as a metaphor for the relationship of the church(Bride) and Christ(Groom). When you fall in love, respect yourself and the person you love enough to make decisions that will benefit you both. Sex outside of marriage for teens can create issues that are not just moral issues. If your bf cannot wait until marriage, what other problems might he cause with his lack of willpower? What other things might he pressure you to do to make him happy while you compromise? It is an excellant test of whether he will be an acceptable mate. When you are married, sex will be a beautiful wonderful and blessed expression of your love for your spouse and you will have the pleasure of knowing that you saved yourself for the person you hold dear more than anyone else. I hope this helps.

Answer 7

Greetings,
1 Corinthians 6:12-20.
You are being tempted very badly.You are not supposed to worry about all this things.Leave your whole self to God.Pray to him to deliver you from the pressures of this world.

God created man in His image and likeness (perfect and complete). Man shattered this image by disobeying God's command. God loved His creation so much He gave him everything and also command and authority over all, He also gave man free will to choose. But, man surrendered to a lie from Satan and wanted to be independent of God judging good and evil. Satan (Lucifer) fell from heaven because he willed to dominate God. Thus, man acquired bondage through violation of God's command and this bondage was passed on to all mankind as an inheritance and mankind still continues to acquire more.

When we will to be independent of God and dominate our fellow beings for our vested interests, we knowingly or unknowingly fall victim to Satan's lie resulting in bondage. When you choose to believe a lie, you will live a lie.

Temptation (Lie) --> Decide to give in / Opens doorway to Evil (Free will) --> Sin (Spiritual Death) --> Repeated sins (Habit) --> Bondage (Spiritual Blindness).

List of Sexual Sins

Common study verses
Heb 13:4
Ex 20:14
Gen 19:5 & Gen 18:20
Lev 18: 6-24
Lev 20:10 -21
Rev 21:8
Act 15:29
1Thes 4:3
Col 3:5
Eph 5:3 & 5,6
Gal 5:19-21
2Cor 7:1
1Cor 10:8
1Cor 6:18-20
Rom 13:13
Mt 5: 27.28
Mk. 7:20-23
Rom 1:24-28
Pro 5,6:20-347
a. Masturbation - Self Sex
b. Homosexuality & Lesbianism - Same Sex
c. Adultery
d. Fornication - Premarital Sex
e. Incest - Sex within prohibited relationships
f. Bigamy , Polygamy
g. Bestiality - Sex with animals
h. Oral and Anal Sex
i. Incubi & saccubi -
j. Sadomasochism, flagellation
j. Sadomasochism, flagellation
k. Fantasy
l. Wedding to Satan
m. Pornography - Print and visual
(i) Live sex shows
(ii) Stripe tease


will pollute the body, mind, spirit and eventually the fruits - children. Therefore God strictly all kinds of sexual sin.


Leave all in the hands of God and always pray that God may give you strength in times of temptation.
Peace Be With you.

Answer 8

If you want a boyfriend badly, but are worried by the things that "come along" with it, then what do you want a boyfriend for? We all want to be loved by someone, but what will end up happening is you will fall madly in love with someone and think you will be with him forever, then you will break up. In a few weeks you will meet a new person and you will sort of start as just friends but soon you will realize that you have never loved anyone like you do this new guy, that the first one was just a mistake. But this relationship will come to an end too. And this process will continue and continue for a long time. You will not get perpetual happiness from these relationships, you have to find something else that makes you happy and stick to it.

My very first relationship lasted about six months, my girlfriend ended up dying suddenly and it crushed me. Two months later I just needed someone to fill that hole in my heart so I got another gf, but it only lasted three days. A week later I got another girlfriend, it lasted about a month. I met a new girl and went out with her for about two months. We broke up cuz I found out I didn't even really like anything about her, and then a month later I got a new gf which lasted for about another month. We broke up because her dad and I got in a fight over religion. In a few weeks I got a new gf which lasted only about two weeks. Then I met another girl and we dated for about six months but she broke up with me because I was suicidal and couldn't get over my first girlfriend. I became tired of these love relationships because everytime it turned out there was no enduring love between us, so I pretty much just started getting girlfriends because they were attractive or whatever.My next relationship lasted about two weeks. Then I had another relationship that lasted two weekends. Then I took about a year off from dating cuz all the breakups were just tiring. So a year later I was asked to be someone's bf and although I didn't really want a gf at the time I accepted, and that relationship lasted about a month, then fresh from that relationship I had another that lasted about two weeks. I took about another year or almost two off from dating, and then finally began dating someone again and tried to take it very slow, just holding hands and hugging, but we too broke up.

I don't want you to go through the same process. Its best to find something that will not leave you, and stay with it. Because boyfriends may be fun and it may be great to be in someone's arms, but eventually they will let you go and it will hurt. So find something that will not let you go................. because you cannot trust a boyfriend to always be there for you, no matter how much your heart thinks you found the one, that you will never break up, you will be disappointed greatly.

And so a boyfriend will come your way and you will think, "I know people will say it will never last, but I can tell that this one will be the exception, this one will last". A few months later you will realize that person was your least best boyfriend. Your greatest hopes will become your greatest failures.

Answer 9

According to christians, BIG TIME!
Even if you're married, you shouldn't perform oral sex as it is sinful.
Pretty much everything related to sex is sinful, except when it is done for procreation.
(and oral sex doesn't result in children, right?)

Answer 10

Oral sex, also known as “cunnilingus” when performed on females and “fellatio” when performed on males, is not mentioned in the Bible. There are two primary questions that are asked in regards to oral sex: (1) “is oral sex a sin if done before marriage?” and (2) “is oral sex a sin if done within a marriage?” While the Bible does not specifically address either question, there are definitely biblical principles that apply.

Is oral sex a sin if done before or outside of marriage?
This question is becoming increasingly common as young people are told that “oral sex is not really sex,” and as oral sex is promoted as a safer (no risk of pregnancy, less risk of sexually transmitted diseases*) alternative to sexual intercourse. What does the Bible say? Ephesians 5:3 declares, “But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity...because these are improper for God's holy people.” The biblical definition of “immorality” is “any form of sexual contact outside of marriage” (1 Corinthians 7:2). According to Hebrews 13:4, only the “marriage bed” is pure and undefiled. According to the Bible, sex is to be reserved for marriage. Period. So, yes, oral sex is a sin if done before or outside of marriage.

Is oral sex a sin if done within a marriage?
Many, perhaps most, Christian married couples have had this question. What makes it difficult is the fact that the Bible nowhere says what is allowed or disallowed sexually between a husband and wife, other than, of course, any sexual activity that involves another person (swapping, threesomes, etc.) or that involves lusting after another person (pornography). Outside of these two restrictions, the principle of “mutual consent” would seem to apply (1 Corinthians 7:5). While this text specifically deals with abstaining from sex/frequency of sex, “mutual consent” is a good concept to apply universally in regards to sex within marriage. Whatever is done, it should be fully agreed on between the husband and his wife. Neither spouse should be forced or coerced into doing something he/she is not completely comfortable with. If oral sex is done within the confines of marriage and in the spirit of mutual consent, there is not a biblical case for declaring it to be a sin.

In summary, oral sex before marriage is absolutely a sin. It is immoral. It is in no sense a biblically acceptable alternative to sexual intercourse for unmarried couples. Within the confines of marriage, oral sex is free from sin as long as there is mutual consent.

*While oral sex is safer than sexual intercourse in regards to sexually transmitted diseases, it is definitely not safe. Chlamydia, gonorrhea, herpes, HIV/AIDS, and other STDs can be transmitted through oral sex.

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