Is it possible to teach a child about safe sex when they haven't learned to carry out the trash?

Question

Our jails are full of young people who are minus the basic elements of life, because parents don't have the time to teach their children right from wrong.
I am a jail minister.Parents you should hear what your children are saying about you behind bars.When are you going to take the time to start doing your job as a parent.Parents are expecting the schools to teach their children things that only a parent should teach.
Please don't let the word minister warp your thinking. My Wife and I teach are children about sex. Its a God given desire and there is nothing wrong with it.
Gen 1:28 And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth,
Gen 9:1 And God blessed Noah and his sons, and said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth.
Parents be the stewards that God has called you to be.You brought them into the world now be respossible. There is so many things they need to know,stop expecting others to do your job.

Answer 1

When addressing teens who are considering sex I often ask this question:


Do you realize that you aren't able to legally drive a car, vote, take prescription medicine with out parental consent, live on your own, have a job or doing ANYTHING else an adult can do?

They honestly have NO IDEA what a sexual relationship has to do with. So many of these children haven't been taught the basics of life.

I had a friend whose teenage daughter was pregnant and needed baby clothes. I was going to have a garage sale as I had twins who had outgrown a lot of their baby clothes and baby items. I told her I would let her work for me and whatever she earned she could apply to purchasing anything from my sale she wanted at half price.

During the day with me she didn't know any of the following:
How to use a potato peeler to peel potatoes for dinner.
How to use an electric can opener.
How to cut or prepare ANY raw food.
How to sort or run a load of laundry.
When I asked her to wipe off the kitchen table she just stared at me--she honestly did NOT know what that would include. (Clearing the dishes in a stack at the sink, getting a clean rag that is wet then wringing it to get off the excess water, wiping off the table with the crumbs caught in your hand, wiping off the chairs and then washing your hands)

She had NO IDEA how to plan a day for a family around the basics of cleaning, cooking and family activities.

This girl had basically been hand fed by her mother--her meals, laundry and cleaning had always been done for her and she didn't know the basics of ANYTHING.

I can not imagine how much this has handicapped this girl--all she knows how to do is watch TV and make babies which the tax payers are supporting.

I asked her mother what she did know how to cook. She said she could heat up instant soup, make a sandwich and pour a bowl of cereal for herself.

Unbelievable.

Answer 2

I agree that there certainly needs to be more responsible parents in the world. But the truth is, there are some parents who don't care enough to take the time to explain things to their kids ... whether its because they feel they are too busy, or they're too caught up in sex themselves, or drugs, or alcohol. Maybe THEIR parents didn't teach them what they needed to know, so they made a stupid mistake and had a child when they weren't ready to ...

That being said, a person can't be held accountable for how well their parents raise them. There are kids out there that are doomed to continue repeating this viscious cycle because they aren't going to be taught any better. That's why I'm for sex education being available in public schools.

Sure, maybe its the parents' job ... maybe sex ed belongs in the home ... but there are parents out there who just aren't going to take the time to do it! And its their kids that are going to suffer. Their kids are going to be the ones who don't properly protect themselves and end up pregnant while in high school, or end up contracting a disease that either kills them or scars them, physically and mentally, for life. Yeah, it pisses me off that some parents are that irresponsible ... but refusing to offer public sex education doesn't punish the parent. It doesn't make the parent do their job any better. It just sends the child out into a world full of vultures, not having a clue about anything. Its the kids that suffer for it, and they shouldn't have to.

Answer 3

Parents need to teach their children about everything they need to succeed in later life, and that includes doing household chores and learning about safe sex. Too many parents today relegate the job of being a parent to teachers and then they blame the teachers for their child's failings...the parents are failing their children by refusing to take responsibility for their own.

Answer 4

IMHO, the smart purposes of a martial paintings can discover ways to little ones - on condition that this is in a small classification, the place the instructor/instructor grants close, own interest to each and each baby, so he/she might adjust what's being taught in accordance to how the each and each baby develops an expertise on the fact of violence, use of rigidity, and the prospect of tangible harm. In a extensive, commercial classification, coaching the easily self-protection components of a martial paintings is an exceptionally, quite undesirable theory. it quite is, lower back IMO, an extremely delicate undertaking - given how the perception of violence among young little ones have replaced lots, exceedingly through popular media. So, individualized interest ought to - to a definite degree - enable coaching of self protection to little ones. something under that, and gaining expertise of application could be postponed until adulthood.

Answer 5

I agree,we as parents need to teach & train our children up In the ways of the Lord. But Only If they're old enough to comprehend the concept of sex. Just because they will eventually drive a car one day,doesn't mean that you would give them the keys to your car at 6 or 7 years old. They would wreck It would be just as disasterous by teaching them such things at an age when they've just barely been potty trained...

Answer 6

I hear what you're saying and I agree. To answer your question I would say yes dealing with most youth of today. If you can save him/her from the touchdown of getting AIDS talk about sex, build the strength to take out the trash later.

Answer 7

allow a child to say no ( not to everything) to other
people. if a child doesn't want to touch or kiss some one
else, don't make them. one Can protect the innocent
by watching over them. Do Not allow them to play
"doctor" It Is Not normal. watch for those whom have a
stalking attitude toward your child (overly complimenting!)
supervise your child at gatherings. they don't have much
need for lots of free time (conception to 5yrs.). allow
yourself discernment, if a person "feels" creepy they
usually are. start praying with them at Birth!

i hope this helps a little. your own gut feeling on this is
what is important. sadly sexual abuse starts before 1
month. my son was sodomized at 6 weeks. hell starts early.

Answer 8

Kids don't need to know about sex.
How will they use the knowledge.
Parents need to teach kids responsibility (not sex).
What happens when young girls and young women have sex outside of marrige?

Answer 9

well i know you can teach them common sense at a very young age, as long as you do as you say it may stick, you have to be the mirror image of your own words and prove to them the value safe sex included.

Answer 10

Yes, I'm all for responsible parenting. If you become a parent you should focus on it properly. Not so keen on the Biblical quotes though.