Lately he started calling me mean names. He tells me to shutup and basically take all his insults. He knows he hurts me but he does it on purpose. I just dont know why he hates me so much. He called me ugly and stupid. He tells me that I am nothing! and to get a life ... I got to work crying and at the same time i was emabrassed because everybody at the office saw my eyes full of tears.Naw I've been ignoring and avoiding seeing my brother for 2 days. We live in the same apartament. What should I do ? move out? kill myself ?
I know I shouldnt feen this way , but if somebody from your own family would make fun of you and try to bring you down.. how would you feel?
2007-09-15 15:12:08 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
LOL , sorry for the misspelled words.
2007-09-15 15:13:08 · update #1
He is the one with issues, not you, but I do strongly suggest moving out and staying away from him, you certainly don't need him in your life. He is insecure himself and unhappy and he takes out his misery on you. Don't give him your permission to hurt you...move out and discontinue any relationship with him.
2007-09-15 15:49:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Compose an emotional letter and quietly sit it on his bed. In your letter let him know how much you love him as a brother. Explain to him how much his words affects your heart, and it makes you cry. Question him if he wants the apartment to himself? If so, he could of just say so instead of insulting you..
When he finish reading the letter it's very important that you talk to him even if you request to have your parents there with you. It might be he is under a lot of pressure about something and he don't know how to handle it. It's important for you to do this, but write the letter first...God bless
2007-09-15 22:37:10 · answer #2 · answered by tony 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay one thing don't try to kill yourself!!!
But I do know how you fell. Me and my older brother always got along and now we hardly speak. Ever since he started to date this one girl we don't see eye to eye no more. He started to believe her sister about sh*t I never did nor said. Me and him go into a fight one night and he told me to get a life and all that to and I was being a little kid about things. Well 1. I wasn't being a little kid and 2. If you believe your gf sister instead of your own you have problems. But when we got into it that night he told me he HATED ME! That was one the worse things he had ever said to me. We still don't get along and hes been dating her for 3yrs now.
Try to talk to him, now as you see with me and my brother we cant because all we do is fight. But try and ask him why he is the way he is. Give it some time and if you don't fell conferable then yeah you should move out but DON'T KILL YOURSELF!!!!!!!!
2007-09-16 10:47:18 · answer #3 · answered by savanna o 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have two thoughts, your brother has some issues that he needs to sort out, and he is a bully. You HAVE to stand up for yourself, that doesn't mean punching his lights out, but ot may mean that you have to find someplace else to live to give him some space and for you to repair the damage he has done to your self esteem. It doesn't matter if you don't talk to him for years. get on with your life and do not let anyone make you feel that way, you have every right to be on this planet, make a good life for yourself and most of all to be happy!!
2007-09-16 10:45:54 · answer #4 · answered by al b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he probably has his own problems. me and my sister are the saaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaame way... i am you in this situation... my sister calls me ugly and stupid and tells me im nothing and to get a life... and i cry too... i'm in 9th grade... so its kinda different, the important thing is to not let other people know [other than ur bff or other family member] know that something is wrong... cuz then people will think they can walk all over you. =]. and as to ur bro, i dont think he'll stop anytime soon... but killing urself or abondoning ur family members won't make a difference, u're just gonna hurt him... worse than he's hurting you... just avoid ur bro before you go to work.... so you dont cry before going to work... wash ur face after you cry and redo ur makeup.
2007-09-15 23:35:23 · answer #5 · answered by momo. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is this fairly new behavior on his part? Did you guys have a close relatioship prior to this behavior? Have you tried to tell him how you feel? You need to find out whats going on with him before you make any major descisions like moving out.
2007-09-15 22:44:37 · answer #6 · answered by Kerry B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What a cruddy relationship with your brother. And, why would you kill yourself for someone who acts like a jerk? Move out. You don't want to be near someone who is poison and is attitude is poison. Take care of yourself.
2007-09-15 22:18:02 · answer #7 · answered by Simmi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you live in the same apt? Can you move, or boot him out?
2007-09-15 22:39:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know deep down that you are better then that. and you know deep down he doesnt really mean it. hes unhappy with himself and your the one he lashes out at. if you can afford to move out then do so. then you wont have to be his outlet for his anger.
2007-09-15 22:25:42 · answer #9 · answered by marilynfsmgm 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why are you staying. Just leave him and go your separate ways.
2007-09-15 22:16:14 · answer #10 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋