My sis ndI got into a huge fight last nite.Shes the type of person that will come forward and say sorry first, but ive found that her apologies mean nothing. she says a lot of hurtful things repeatedly and she never learns anything from her mistakes(she'll never admit that she's wrong)Anyways a lot of the things she was sayin to me was about guys/relationships and how i am completely selfish/don't listen to her problems, and i always talk abotu myself. i know i dont', becuz i try to lisen to a lot of what she says..and all i do is giv her advice nd try to relate, isn't that was most normal people do? i giv her real advice, but i know she just wants me to act a punchin bag she can vent to but that gets overwhelming and annoying sometimes cuz i have my own problems to deal with if she can't take critism, y does she ask? now, i don't noe wut 2 do because i don't want her to depreciate me lik that if she at least cant apreciate me. i dont want her 2vent on me anymore, but sheIS my sis.
2007-09-15 14:57:10 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Okay, heres what you do. Next time she comes to vent to you... Say, okay look.. This is just going to end up in a huge fight. You're going to say that I'm selfish because all I talk about is me and I'm going to get me and wont understand that I've sat here and listened to you for god knows how long. So, why don't we not waste each other time and just leave each other alone this time. Maybe, next time you'll appreciate me listening to you and realize that I am trying to help you!
2007-09-15 15:08:48 · answer #1 · answered by Heather! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to your sister and explain that you don't want to hear her problems, because they are the same problems you hear all the time, and you have already given her your thoughts, and she doesn't take your advice, so from now on you don't want to discuss it. If you must get up and walk away, while changing the subject. You are the only person that can stop someone abusing you. If you won't then you are to blame.
2007-09-15 22:09:10 · answer #2 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she has her problems, there is nobody else she can talk to. You are OK, if you were not there and she had a dog, she would tell her problems to the dog, or her favourite doll or whatever. It's not personal.
2007-09-15 22:08:42 · answer #3 · answered by XT rider 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop allowing her to use you. Next time walk away and tell her you don't want to get involved.
If you live in separate places, don't answer her calls.
2007-09-15 22:06:10 · answer #4 · answered by Pantherempress 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her to leve me alone if she dose not them do not talk to that is a good think becase she will stop because she just want to hear your so do not talk to her if she keeps doing that!
2007-09-15 22:04:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you love her, but if she can't talk nice and respectful to you, that you don't want to talk to her.
2007-09-15 22:11:54 · answer #6 · answered by Kazama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
older siblings r like that, just ignore her
2007-09-15 22:05:31 · answer #7 · answered by alloutfallout 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
punch her in the face until she stops
2007-09-15 22:03:21 · answer #8 · answered by mstrbow 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hurt her Back !?!?!? =D
2007-09-15 22:04:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋