My son goes to a county licensed in home daycare provider he has been going there for over a year now. Lately I been a little concerned about her care of him however he seemed very happy there ect. Well on Friday I went to pick him up and the lady was waiting outside. She was like I have something bad to tell you we were playing a game trying to get one of the other kids 2 eat. hitting kids on the backside with spoons. She claims it was a game and she didn't realize how heavy handed she is and didn't mean to hurt my son. But he got 3-5 bruises on his backside from this apparent "GAME" what would you do? My mom, and 2 of my aunts, & brother is very upset about it and wants him out, my dad is like well she told you so just take him back Monday like nothing happened.
2007-09-15 14:32:29 · 27 answers · asked by Brooklyn Baller 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Do NOT bring him back....she admitting hitting kids with a spoon hard enough to leave a bruise??? and she was hitting kids with a utensil as part of a "game" to get someone to eat?
Think about how much it hurts to get a bruise on your bottom---its fleshy, not like a knee or a shin. He MUST have been crying after being hit that hard---and she continued to hit him???
So she was hitting a bunch of little kids on the butt hard enough to leave bruises and it was a game?
I wonder if after the first bruise if any of the kids tried to get away from her little game??? did she hold them down or hold them still so she could whack them?
This is making me sick---your poor baby!
So she told you about it----so what? Does that make it better that she hit your child (probably while he was crying) repeatedly while playing a "game"?
That isn't a game, that is abuse. Even if you decided it wasn't malicious and she would never hit your son again, do you think you can trust someone with such poor judgement? Does your dad think someone with such poor judgement should be taking care of a 2.5 year old?
What other thing will she decide is "okay" for the kids to do that is unsafe?
Report her, photograph the bruises NOW and take him to the doctor's office to get him checked out to document what happened---otherwise what would you do if someone thought YOU were bruising his butt like that.
This is just so wrong it breaks my heart. That woman is supposed to be providing a safe, happy environment for your baby, NOT tormenting kids to get one to eat.
She should lose her license before someone gets really hurt.
Best wishes and hang in there during these diffcult times.
2007-09-15 15:10:48 · answer #1 · answered by bookmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do state licensed in home daycare and it sounds like she is way over her boundaries. In my opinion, there is no game for a 2.5 year old that involves hitting anyone else. (You want to teach them not to hit and that would do the opposite.) I would report it to her licensing agency so that they can look into it. They often show up unannounced to check things out and would make special apperences if they think something is up. If she went through the proper trainings then she would realise when an adult hits a child, it doesn't take much force for it to bruise.
If it were me, I would spend the rest of the weekend trying to find another provider for your son. I would not take him back there. First thing Monday morning, you should contact the welfare agency and have them check into the situation also. It doesn't really sound like any kind of game to me.
2007-09-15 21:57:30 · answer #2 · answered by chris l 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Report it to the police, this doesn't sound at ALL like a game. it sounds like she made up an excuse because she marked your child. Make sure to document the bruises with pictures, and possible take him to the doctor to make sure they are just superficial bruies and not something more serious. Bruises on the bum can take a while to heal because all it is is fatty tissue back there. If the woman that played this so called "game" was the person that owns/runs the day care, I would immediately remove him from their care. If she's not I would meet with the owner/person that runs it and notify them of the situation and tell them that you aren't going to have your child come home hurt from a place that is supposed to take care of him.
You have every right to be angry about this.
2007-09-15 21:39:51 · answer #3 · answered by Zyggy 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i work at a daycare and kids get hurt all the time but we never cause it i don't think hitting kids with a spoon is a game have you talked to other parents about it? if your son likes going there it probally was just an accident he would let you know if something was wrong i would look into it and let her know you don't want her hitting your kid in any kind of way!! but if i were you i would find another daycare
2007-09-15 22:53:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like another person said, take pictures and date them. Do not take your son back, if it comes down to it take the day off till you find someone. It sounds like this lady get frustrated with and lost her temper and use a very weak excuse to cover it up. And, even if she is being honest do you really want your son being showed bad behavior like that? I can't even imagine my 17 month old being exposed to that. Follow your gut, what would be her next "game" call the police, and report her... she is unfit to be a provider, I've been in the field 7 years.... NEVER EVER do you lay a hand on a child in such matter.
2007-09-15 21:47:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Omg, are you serious? Besides never sending your child there ever again, call the police. What sicko "plays" a game hitting children with a wooden spoon. If that was my daughter, I would of lost it and knocked that lady out. That is total abuse, your son was left in her care, he is a baby no reason or explanation for him having bruises. Call the police and file a report, so no other parent or child has to go threw that again.
2007-09-15 21:38:02 · answer #6 · answered by American Women 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hitting kids, even if it is a game is not okay! I would take him out immediately. I am a daycare provider, I have owned my own in home daycare and am currently working at a private daycare...it is NOT okay to hit a child! You have to hit a kid pretty hard to leave a bruise on his back, that's one sign they look for when looking into child abuse allegations.
I would NOT, under any circumstances, take my child back to her!
2007-09-15 21:41:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO day care facility should allow hitting a child for any reason even if it is hidden in the guise of a "game". I would pull my child out immediately and report this day care to the county, this place does not deserve a license!
2007-09-15 22:17:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
im sorry but if that was me i would pull him out of there as thats classed as abuse,there is no way she should be hiting them on the bottom with a spoon,im sorry but i would report it to the authorities even just as a game she has no rights to use a spoon,my daughter works in child care and even she said that shouldnt be happening,all the kids there will now think its ok to go around hitting people with spoons,thats not on,this woman shouldnt be working there,you only have her word for it that it was a game,
2007-09-15 21:47:07 · answer #9 · answered by bugwales 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your child OUT of that daycare, call all the other mothers to inform them of what's going on(if you know them) and then call the police! This is not OK nor is it the proper way to run a daycare. She should AT LEAST be investigated and possibly have her license revoked!
2007-09-15 21:41:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋