Just hypothetically of course, what would be a good way for an American man to ask a Turkish woman to marry him? Let's assume, just for the question, that she and her family are open-minded enough to allow it. Would the traditional American act of getting on one knee and putting a ring on the left ring finger be appropriate? Is there a good Turkish custom to follow? Let's also assume that the woman is in her late 20's and has been married before, if that makes any difference... hypothetically.
2007-09-15 13:21:28 · 9 answers · asked by The Babe is Armed! 6 in Travel ➔ Europe (Continental) ➔ Turkey
The question is just "How do I ask?" I'm not even thinking of how to do the wedding yet. One thing at a time.
Ipek - Should I ask the family first or her first? I don't want to offend her parents.
Also, I don't remember saying what religion either of us is. We'll work that out between us, probably not on Yahoo! Answers. :)
2007-09-15 14:44:50 · update #1
Yeah, I totally screwed up the hands. Good thing I asked this question! :)
2007-09-15 14:46:12 · update #2
'bogazi, I didn't know if it made any difference if she'd been married before. I guess it does not. Thanks.
2007-09-15 14:47:18 · update #3
I think it's really sweet of you to go down on bended knee. That would sweep me off my feet. Family comes last most of the time, although it would be galant, you owe it to your girl to know of your proposal first hand. It also applies even if she's been married before.
Between the two of you, there isn't a custom when two people are in love. Propose first then talk about customs later. I'm sure she knows best since she is Turkish and she knows her family too.
PS: It's sweet that you asked here first too.
2007-09-16 04:15:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. It doesnt make any difference married before or not.
2. You should first offer to her, if she accepts then you should go her family with chocolate and flowers (according to turkish custom during this visit your parents should accompany you, and request should be done by them).
3. When offering to her, act as you know. Its not matter to follow American way, all Turkish lady knows it.
2007-09-16 15:59:22 · answer #2 · answered by Mehmet K 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh that's romantic. just get on one knee and ask her" daling will you marry me" that is really wonderful.
Well i didn't understand why you mentioned she married before.
But you don't put the ring on the left ring finger you put it on right finger. Right is for fiancée. Left is for marriage.
Redcandy:
lol i am not good at these things either but recently a friend got married now i know lol lol
right is for fiancée left is for marriage:)
Edit: It depends if the family is traditional or not. One of my friends got engaged and then announced that to the family.
One of them made an engagement party with the family and friends.
But normally there is a tradition that parents invite you to talk to you.
But if you go out for a long time the parents already know you so you can announce that you would like to get engaged and make an engagement party. (like politely so we love eachother and we want to get married....)
Generally families like to be considered you know because we are very close to our families.
That guy over there who speaks of religion don't care abouthim he is just a troll. no worries.
2007-09-15 20:45:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
I really don't think a girl would care, just as long as she's marrying an awesome guy.
Istanbul- right hand? I always thought it was left for both occasions...oops!
Edit- I was curious, so I looked it up:
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AtvqJtCrTu5rpg7I4k6Ih30jzKIX;_ylv=3?qid=20070309041420AAfgfzE
it says left.
2007-09-15 20:46:44 · answer #4 · answered by Qu'est ce que tu penses? 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Be creative. You can ask her in every romantic way :>
I don't think you can offend her parents because after she accepts your offer, you'll go and ask her parents for her hand just as a formality.
2007-09-16 03:21:18 · answer #5 · answered by Earthling 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dear El Tee,
When I read your messages, I remembered how did I ask ...
Nice Restaurant in Beylerbeyi (Seaside Town) and asked 'will you marry me' ...
And then we met her family and my father asked her father
In Turkiye, Right for Fiancee and Left for Marriage
But, I noticed, when I was in Germany, Right for Marriage and Left for Fiancee ...
Cheers
2007-09-16 03:20:42 · answer #6 · answered by Tanju 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Americans are crazy people..If she likes adventure too, how about asking for marrying in a hot balloon? =)
Or in a classic way: At a romantic dinner.
2007-09-16 04:36:51 · answer #7 · answered by Irmak 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Ask her first, then you must ask her family hand of marriage. Ring comes after that.
2007-09-15 21:05:21 · answer #8 · answered by mujde 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
for el tero : this one help you!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oBosdYbTC8c
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for Ä°stanbul and candy :
"kızlar, bırakın saÄı solu , önemli olan kalbinizde yaÅattıÄınızdır."
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2007-09-16 02:07:08 · answer #9 · answered by O.CETIN BAYRAMOGLU 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋