ok my mom s b-friend drinks more than he should sometimes and the result is he is extremely mean to me and my sis.....what should i do (by the way ive asked my mom to dump em' )
2007-09-15 13:20:38 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
put your foot down, its not ur real dad so it should be easier. i grew up with my dad drinking and having a temper and beating us. i don't tolerate any of the stuff. your life is meant to be enjoyable don't let some drunkered ruin it, it will make you miserable in the end!
2007-09-15 13:25:11 · answer #1 · answered by blah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about it when he is sober, don't yell though even if he starts yelling. Try to have a mature conversation and sometimes people don't remember what they do when they are drunk so let him know that he is extremely mean, because if you don't it might turn into abuse. I'm sure he will be willing to fix this problem and drink less if he really loves your mom. I think it would be best if he started by narrowing down how many beers, if it's 20 then the next day only drink 18 and so on, it might take awhile but it will be worth it.
2007-09-15 13:26:02 · answer #2 · answered by SSS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm glad to hear you took the first step to tell your mother to dump her bf that drinks too much.
The other fact being that he is not nice to your sister or you during his drunken times seriously a problem. This could escalate into something further. By all means, do not confront him about his problem. That's the job of an adult.If your mother cares more for you both, then she should be the one that will let the boyfriend go and not have to think twice.
2007-09-15 13:29:25 · answer #3 · answered by Minxy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell your mother when her boyfriend is not around that you feel threatened by him. You must tell another trusting adult about the situation. Your mother will be held accountable by law should this man abuse you because she knew about it and allowed it to continue. If you are an adult, distance yourself from your mother and tell her that you cannot be around her while she is involved with this man and that you are concerned about her well being, but that she must make the choice to leave this abusive relationship. You must not take on her problem as your own. This is your mother's job, unless you live under her roof. Then notify a teacher or counselor at school at once for your safety and that of your mothers!
2007-09-15 13:28:09 · answer #4 · answered by lavenderbluelassie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having an unrelated male in the house can be dangerous anyway. Add the fact that he is drinking too much, and this is a tragedy waiting to happen. Please, go see your counsellor at school and ask for help. If they don't want to get involved, call your county's Children's Services Department and explain the situation. I know this is a scary thing for you to do; but, since your mom isn't being the adult here, you're going to have to step in to protect yourself and your sister.
Good luck!
2007-09-15 13:26:39 · answer #5 · answered by Terri J 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Has your mom addressed this with him? I certainly hope so... Your welfare and happiness should come before her need for a boyfriend!
Sit her down and let her know how you and your sister feel. Tell her that you want her to be happy but that her bf is very disrespectful to you when he drinks. Hopefully that will encourage her to talk to him.
If she doesn't believe you, next time it happens get out your cell phone and record they way he speaks to you. If she STILL won't talk to him about it after that, talk to your school counselor. You should come before her drunk boyfriend and if the authorities have to eventually step in then so-be-it.
2007-09-15 13:36:16 · answer #6 · answered by 1M9 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your mother some more about his behavior toward you and your sister when he's drunk...don't ask her to dump him (that's her choice) but let her know he's really mean and who knows, it could become abusive.
If Mom continues to do nothing, speak to your father or grandparents or someone who can maybe intervene on your behalf. If this guy is honestly mean to you, for no reason, then there's a problem...mom should be putting you first.
2007-09-15 13:23:49 · answer #7 · answered by . 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
protect you first.... stay away from him when you know or suspect he has been drinking. Next always remember to be respectful.... Respect him like you would a teacher or a store personal. and keep yourself busy and talking to your MOM!!!!!!!!!!! No matter who you are if you hear something long enough you WILL BELIEVE IT. Oh and one more suggestion: If you think he might have over done it go to a friends house to be out of harms way.
2007-09-15 13:33:00 · answer #8 · answered by broadrippian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What the heck!? You and your sister shouldn't have to put up with it.
Does your mom know that he hurts you two? If so than, unfortunately, she's not the answer to your problems. You really need to tell someone who can help you, sweetie. You're not doing anything wrong by telling on him; you're protecting you and your sister. And if you're okay with his meaness(which I'm sure you're not!) your sister isn't and is probably more scared than you are.
Tell an adult who can help you as soon as you can!
2007-09-15 13:32:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tori a,
Please stay clear of this person, keep your sis away too. I don't know your ages but that does not matter..........IF you two can, go to a family member/friend's home when he is there.
Maybe/hopefully 'Mom' has him under control.........
Eventually, your Mom will see the light and get passed this person. In the mean time......You two young ladies need to be careful not to be near/available if he gets mean.
2007-09-15 13:31:43 · answer #10 · answered by roprjp 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you talk to your mom or a close relative that can understand and listen to you maybe they can talk to him.Your mom should dump him ,but you know that you have no control over that, so talk to someone who has more authority that can get some real results.
2007-09-15 13:26:57 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋