It doesn't make sense to me, b/c he's a total sexist perv at the same time. He has no respect for women at all, he even said that all my stepmom should do is cook & clean. And lose weight. Anyways, he would spy on me when I'm talking to people or on the phone and he just woudn't leave me alone.When we watched a movie, my dad would send me out of the room even if it's just a kissing scene, and I wasnt that young. My brother couldve seen it at a younger age. I had to put up with all of this my whole life, and he would treat my brother so much better. When my brother got me mad, my dad yelled at me or told my brother "dont worry, she'll get over it, shes just a girl." He would also treat me as if I'm an idiot and make fun of me and laughed when my brother did too. But now, I have to hide myself from him, because of the frustruation this has caused me. I dress like a boy around him and act as if I'm gay/transgendered. I don't think I could ever have a good relationship with him now.
2007-09-15 13:02:36 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
He probably did not have a good role model for a father, himself. I think he feels uncomfortable by sending you out of the room during a kissing, etc. scene. Men who are into pornography view women as sex objects and have little respect for women as individuals. They were very likely brought up to view them as their fathers and grandfather's did. You can't change him, but I think your intuition to keep your distance may, unfortunately, be wise. As you get older and out from under his domination, you can more easily discuss those matters that disturb you. I found that writing them in a letter avoided confrontation and yelling. It also made my points clear and no one took them out of context by saying things I did not say.
2007-09-15 13:17:34 · answer #1 · answered by lavenderbluelassie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's overprotective because in his
"sexist perv" world view, you need the
protection.
You might not like his attitude, but he cares.
That might be the basis for that future
relationship after you move out.
2007-09-15 14:03:41 · answer #2 · answered by Irv S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
BECAUSE THEY WANT TO PROTECT YOU FROM DANGER OR SOMETHING.ASK THEM YOU'RE SELF HOW EASY IS THAT
:-)
2007-09-15 13:10:11 · answer #3 · answered by kuky e 2 · 0⤊ 5⤋