My 5 yr. old grandson won't even stay in a room by himself for more than a minute. He wants someone with him all the time, even when he's watching cartoons or playing. Is that anything to worry about?
2007-09-15 12:19:14 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
No they can go through those phases (even at an older age) - if possible indulge it though *NOT* as regards bedtimes (my opinion).
I had four so they always shared but I had two brothers and I was on my own from about eight onwards and that *could* be scary.
Anyway - in the normal run of things it should be alright.*I* am afraid to be here on my own sometimes being used to a busy house and I am 51 so maybe we never get over it!!
EDIT - for God's sake! I have just read through some other answers and Lord help us.The boy is FIVE year's of age in the name of God - it is *NORMAL* for some to want to be with others and talk of "therapists" and so on at this stage is absolute *NONENSE* - repeat *NONSENSE*.Let children be children while they can in the name of the Lord and develop at their own pace.
2007-09-15 12:36:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Something or someone has frightened him.
I would try and spend some time with him asking him questisons about what his fears are. You may learn a lot. If you mention something personal, he may clam up and if that is the case, please seek a therapist for him. This can be normal or abnormal. Either way, the fact that you are concerned would indicate there may be an underlying problem.
On the other hand, he just could be very spoiled, especially if he is an only child. I would be a bit concerned if I were in your shoes. Talk to his parents and ask if he has certain fears. Tell them your concerns. They may open up to you and share some events with you. Above all, don't jump to any conclusions.
You are a wonderful grandparent to be concerned. Don't be afraid to have this looked into. Being a mother of three boys, I had one child who was very fearful of being alone. He finally got over this but it took therapy and a lot of patience.
2007-09-15 12:33:50 · answer #2 · answered by makeitright 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There isn't anything to worry about. Most children at that age or earlier go through separation anxiety. They feel comforted when they have someone with them. If they are used to having someone with them all of the time they have grown attached to having someone there and fear the separation. Most children grow out of this stage. Maybe try to ween him from acting this way by playing hide and seek. That might put fun into him realizing that he is alright alone. Make it easy for him to find you at first then gradually make the search a little longer.
2007-09-15 12:36:36 · answer #3 · answered by Jen S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing to worry about, normal for young children,,,this usually changes as kids get a little older and feel more secure. i would try to assure him that all is ok, and i would set up some things he can do in his room, and some projects you can do, and take a couple breaks, telling him you are going to the bathroom and will be right back, come back and show him that he is ok for a while alone, gradually add more time each time you do it, or bring a timer in and set it for 5 mins or more and tell him that you will be back before the timer goes off. this will take some time for him to adjust.to but is a doable situation. once he gets more comfortable with himself, his fear will fade. try patience, nurturing and understanding and i am sure this issue will go away...
2007-09-15 12:32:16 · answer #4 · answered by walterknowsall 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to look at life through his eyes. 5 year olds are still real needy. He is accostomed to being the center of attention. Maybe he was over indulged a little. He will grow out of most everything. Children today are in a much different society than we grew up in. There is so much more for them to learn in the same time frame. Their minds are faster.
Be patient.
2007-09-15 12:32:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not normal. He may just be an overly clingy child but kids much earlier learn to play alone and also learn that when mom leaves a room she will come back. But he's not a year old anymore, so he shouldn't be this anxious. I would find out why he is.
2007-09-15 13:05:30 · answer #6 · answered by paperpenandtea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him and try to find out what he's afraid of. Most likely, he'll grow out of it. I used to be that way when I was about 8 because I had watched a horror movie (Nightmare on Elm Street) and for the next year, I was terrified of being alone, etc. I'd try to find out why he's afraid and go from there. Something could have happened to him while he was alone and that's why he's afraid. He may need to see a child psychologist.
2007-09-15 12:28:05 · answer #7 · answered by First Lady 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that's normal... I have a five year old and she plays/watches TV by herself... you grandson might have some problems due to previous experiences. I would recommend a visit to a psychologist.
2007-09-15 12:30:04 · answer #8 · answered by ♪♥bored♣♫ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
that might be a problem,when I was his age I always wanted to be left alone and I grew up,bought a leather jacket,a "Hog" and a pair of engineer boots.So life is like a box of chocolates!
2007-09-15 13:21:34 · answer #9 · answered by new haven chuck 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not to the point of obsession. He could have been abused by someone at some point. Perhaps you should have him see a professional family counselor specializing in children.
2007-09-15 12:29:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋