This is for emotional abuse. Ok. well it used to be physical abuse until my mom and i left my step-dad. but then she let him move back. now he emotionally abuses me. My mom and i don't know where to move because we don't have a lot of money. We cant move back with my aunt because we already lived there the first time we left my step-dad. What are we to do?
2007-09-15 11:31:45 · 20 answers · asked by Bowchickawowwoww 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Like today he yelled like crazy at me and my mom and he called me the devil and told me i wasn't a Christian. But i know I am.. I feel so empty and drained and I hate my life.
2007-09-15 11:33:40 · update #1
There are shelters you can go to if you have no where else to turn. Sometimes they get a bad rap but they're mostly there to help. theres is a scripture in ecclessiasties 3:3 that says
a time to heal; a time to break down and a time to build; and a nother that says We know we originate with God, but the whole world is lying in the [power of the] wicked one. so if you need to blame someone blame satan not god. “Child abuse itself is seldom the result of even a dislike of children, much less hatred. Experts, with few exceptions, agree that the battering parent loves the child he batters. If not that particular child, then other children. There is ample evidence that the child abuser wants to act differently, and in the vast majority of cases it is the abuser who brings his actions to the attention of the appropriate authorities, apparently in the hopes of protecting the child from his [the parent’s] illness. And illness it is. Child abuse has been described as a chronic illness with acute traumatic recurrent episodes.” i m so so sorry that this kind of stuff is happening to you but try to stay strong, there is plenty of people suportting you and you dont even know it.
2007-09-15 11:49:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like you and your mom need to be in a shelter until you can get enough money together to have a place of your own.
Your dad is not going to change and the longer you stay the worse you and your mom will suffer.
You could check around your city for some help. And tell your mom what you find. Don't be afraid or ashamed to ask others for help. I'm concerned that your step-dad will escalate things into more physical abuse.
HUGS from Minnesota
2007-09-15 18:40:34 · answer #2 · answered by Alterfemego 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry to hear that...i went thru alot in my life too and i was abused also all i can say is sit down with ur mom and maybe talk to her about u getting a job and saving ur money up or if ur not 18 u can talk to her about getting emancipated but shes ur mom so im pretty sure she will want the best for u so try to sit down and talk to her and tell her how u feel about this man...as for the moving part and having no where to go... look in the front of ur phone book and there should be stuff about battered and abused wemon and children look at them all call them all and see what they have to say there are people that care out there.good luck sweetie and try to keep ur head up.
2007-09-15 18:41:09 · answer #3 · answered by -->NiKKi<-- 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And you're not abusing him?
I know a lot of women/girls aren't going to like me writing this, but you and your mom are just staying in this situation only because you can't financially afford to make it on your own. So you really don't care about him except for what you can get from him until you can otherwise establish yourselves. Whether you care to admit it, you and your mom are simply using him, and your intent in being with him is to use him. And maybe part of his anger stems from him being aware that this is the case. He may be guilty of emotionally abusing you, but you and your mom are abusing him as well.
2007-09-15 18:44:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a a friend you and your mom can stay with, a cousin, grad parents etc? Sorry I'm not really sure what you mean my emotionally abuses yo. If he like hits you, or does other inappropriate stuff, it needs to be turned over to the police.
2007-09-15 20:10:15 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try another family member or stay at a cheap apartment and get a job. there are also some shelters, but those aren't exactly always a good idea. you could also take out a loan. Ur step-dad sounds like an asshole don't let him get to you or try to change your thinking. once you let him get to you he'll b able to control you. I hope you stay strong and get him away from yall bc he can change his mind any second and start to be physical again. good-luck
2007-09-15 18:41:50 · answer #6 · answered by Monica B 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There are shelters out there for abused and battered women and children. They help with finding safe places for you to live and help you get back on your own. Have your Mom check into it or you can yourself
2007-09-15 18:39:15 · answer #7 · answered by kc_1968 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give up!! Go to a church, ask a preacher for help. Don't make your step-dad mad, then he will get worse. You need to get out!! You mom can't help the mistake but needs to fix that mistake. Call a women's shelter for help. They are free. Leave after he goes to sleep.
2007-09-15 18:40:01 · answer #8 · answered by tesbrown 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your mom should move to south padre island it is a cheap place to live and he will never find you their or live somewhere far away then where you are Good Luck and dont let your mom take this anymore take up for her you guys don't deserve this
2007-09-15 18:37:08 · answer #9 · answered by ***Lovin*** 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alright..there are two distinct things screaming out for attention within the confines of your letter. First, the practical matter of physical safety. You need to have a candid talk with your mother to express to her how you're feeling, and to have her address to your satisfaction you very real concern about the safety of your present living arrangement now that "dad" is back in the house. (Find out if she has a contigency plan in case some of his old behaviors should resurface and if there are safe places you both could go in case you needed to leave quickly). Next, I'll address the spiritual aspects of what's been said to you: No one, no matter how religious, and no matter how old or experienced they may think they are, can reasonably question your relationship with God....by this, I mean they don't have the authority to do this, but they will do it anyway. You will recall that Jesus himself was wrongly scrutinized, gossipped about, tempted, accused of blasphemy, wrongly convicted, beaten and ultimately executed because something wonderful was developing and elements of evil panicked and set out to stop it. In your case too something wonderful is developing....a young believer is just developing her spiritual muscles. Elements of evil are again alarmed, and they're trying in desperation to derail your progress, cast doubt in your mind, and throw you off track. But Jesus has already won this battle for us, all we have to do is continue to believe. This you can do. Good luck to you, and God bless.
2007-09-15 19:03:10 · answer #10 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋