Headstart is for lower income people. The only reason we got our son in was because my husband was in Iraq last year and most of his income was not taxable. They go by your taxable income. I like the headstart because it is so close to our house. I drive a nice car and dress my kids in nice clothes for school. (casual, jeans, tshirt, etc.) But my son came home yesterday and said a boy named Tanner said "your mommy is spoiled and so are you". I don't think kids think that way on their own, I believe he has heard his mommy say that. Should I say anything or just let it go? I thought I was doing the right thing by getting my son new school clothes. Was I wrong? My son is a very kind person. He is never mean to anyone, and gets along with others well. Why should he be made fun of because he has nice things? We don't flaunt anything. It's not like we are rich.
2007-09-15 11:28:22 · 14 answers · asked by honeybear 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
OK Mom, take a breath here. Kids DO say that stuff, and tons more, to each other! The kid probably envies your kids nice clothes and so made fun of them. And of course you are not flaunting anything by dressing your child well and caring for him well - may you and your kind fill the classrooms!! May the other Mom's watch what you do for your child and emulate it for their own! Hurray for you getting your son into this great program because it benefits him! He deserves itI You go, girl!! I always dressed my daughter really nicely and never did understand the other Mom's that did not bother. I always bothered, down to every detail. Heck I used to iron the child's t-shirts if you can believe that!! LOL! I don't recommend going that far, but still dressing them nice is not the issue here.
Please let this roll off of you. Kids say rediculous things to each other and it starts as soon as they can speak, trust me! I've worked in preschools all the way up to high schools and they never stop.
The thing to do is to teach your son to let it roll off of him. If he see's you over-reacting then he will too -- and then the other child will be able to use it to get him upset and deflect attention off his own misbehaviors, which you do not want happening. Instead, teach your son isn't it interesting how other people have such different ideas about some things than we do, oh well, and just let it go. Tell him to focus on his friends in class that say nice things to him and to play with them the most.
If it continues to eat at you, talk to the teacher, not the children about it.
2007-09-15 11:43:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Kids like that are going to have a real hard time adjusting to the real world unless they continue to live with mommy and daddy and they take care of them at the age of 30! They have no sense of what responsibility is. I have encountered several people like that and have found that they will go to extremes to get what they want, when they want it, and they want it NOW. It will hurt them in many, many respects. Employment, socially, emotionally, etc. And I can't imagine those kind of kids actually finding a significant other that will be able to put up with their behavior. Yes, they bother me. They have an attitude and think they are above and better than all others. (most of them, anyway) They don't have respect for other people or others property, either. Life is going to bite them in the butt eventually and they will find out that money won't be able to buy them out of everything. The time will come when life slaps them in the face and they aren't going to have a clue on how to handle it. It's going to be a long and brutal fall back to reality!
2016-05-20 05:44:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it bothering you because, maybe, perhaps, you feel out of place? And I honestly do not mean to bash you at all.
I'm familair with Headstart, and while your child is eligible due to the military situation, you may not be living below poverty level. A majority of the kids really are living in pretty crummy conditions and parents struggle financially. Those are the kids that are living in poverty. So perception is reality to Tanner. He perceives you to be rich because of your car and nice clothing.
Maybe acquaint yourself with Tanner's mom and invite the boy over for a playdate. It might expose Tanner to the real you & your son.
2007-09-15 12:06:40 · answer #3 · answered by Sharon F 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I would bring this to the attention of the office or principal and tl thm you do not appreciate your son coming home saying such things. If you want to dress your son nice and not unmatched and dirty like some headstart children I have seen- that is your choice.
I hate people that talk bad about other people. If it continues I would then request a meeting with that parent, you and the principal to put a stop to all the nonsense. Good luck!
2007-09-15 12:33:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
This child possibly over heard his mom or someone else saying these things. He sounds a tad young to draw to this conclusion all on his own. It's possible that his mother is bitter and says that about others and he's just mimicking it. I wouldn't worry about the impression you're giving. He's a child and has no idea what he's talking about. Just tell your son that you're/he's not spoiled.
2007-09-15 13:09:55 · answer #5 · answered by paperpenandtea 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
let it go. there will be petty people al throughout your life, why involve you son in this now. Let him know that you are not spoiled, but you may be better off than others, and that its nothing to be ashamed of OR to flaunt. Just tell him to be himself and not worry about kids who say mean things. If it becomes a real habit, and he feels bad about it, then it may be time to intervene.
2007-09-15 11:32:41 · answer #6 · answered by parental unit 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you children don't learn those things on their own, however I don't believe that you should confront the parent either, maybe just explain to your son that sometimes people become jealous of things they don't have, and they say things that hurt, because maybe are sad that they don't have those things..... Honestly I think it as an open door for you to teach your son and extremely important lesson he will need in life.
2007-09-15 11:38:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
when i was in third grade my mom taught at a school with a lot of very low income kids. And i was made fun of by lots of kids. i hated that year. so if it bothers your son get him out. otherwise just explain that alot of those kids may not have nice things and he is very lucky. and he needs to just be nice back. :) hope that helps.
2007-09-15 12:12:49 · answer #8 · answered by callie j 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Compared to Tanner's family, you might BE rich.
I agree, Tanner's mommy has been drinking the Haterade and she shouldn't be vindictive in her child's presence. Kids parrot that stuff.
You take care of your kid the best you can...that's all anyone can ask.
2007-09-15 11:32:03 · answer #9 · answered by Bill 6 · 8⤊ 0⤋
You should let it go. There are always going to be people that are jealous. If you say anything it is going to start a whole lot of trouble over something small.
2007-09-15 11:38:00 · answer #10 · answered by Destiny 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋