long distance relationship?

Question

i've been with this boy for almost a year now....and he's really nice, sweet, caring, cute, amazing, and madly in love with me. Only we live about an hour apart and neither of us drive yet (we're both going on 18) He keeps talking about forever and i'm not sure i'm ready for that commitment. I mean i barely see him...how do i know i'll be able to live with him? I don't have the heart to tell him this....what should i do?

Answer 1

You should be honest to him.

Answer 2

Well I'm 17 and I've been in a long distance relationship for a year and 5 months now (going on 6 months the 21st ^_^), and we've been doing great! I don't get to see him as often as I would like because we're in high school, but he takes like 4 trains to my house and back 2 his every weekend so we can see each other {That's 1 way you guys can see each other} because we live like 30-45 minutes away from each other. And you need to tell him how you feel because it's important for you guys 2 be on the "same level". If you don't feel that you're as ready for forever with him then you have to let him know because it's unfair 2 both of you. It's not fair to him because he's having all those dreams and illusions in his mind while you're thinking "Uh .. forever?!" and it's not fair 2 you because you shouldn't feel pressured 2 be in that type of commitment just because you feel bad telling him how you feel. The best thing you can do is to just sit down with him and talk everything out with him and whatever happens, happens. Hope I helped at least a little. =)

Answer 3

Well I used to be in a long distance Relationship, And I was 18 yrs old at the time, and I moved to her. I moved around 140 miles to a new place, Didnt know anyone just her.
Our relationship lasted 3 years before ending badly. But then again, We did move too fast.
Long Distance can work, Its just that fear and doubt of the trustworthyness of another makes it harder.

Just remember Forever is a lot longer than the word means. But it never truly holds you. As long as you dont get married or Engaged. If he proposes to you Very soon, its a warning sign. Ask questions that would find deep down emotional feeling on trust. Dont live together right away. He can quite easily rent a bedsit, or a flat on his own. I managed.
Then you can get to know him better. Because until you live with someone you dont know anything about them.
At first they may smell good, dress nice.... But when you see them pick their toenails in the livingroom...... Thats when you really start asking questions!!
Dont jump right in.... Take it from someone who has been there....
1 step at a time hun!

Answer 4

Don't rush into anything. Take things slow. Get to know this person better as well as going out to discover what the world has got to offer. You've got a long way. There are many things right now in your future: college and then getting a stable career going. Don't let some boy's "profession of love" make you forget that you need to be serious about right now: finding yourself. Once you've been exposed to what the world has to offer, done with college, and established a career, it's still not to late to take this person's profession of love seriously -- that is, if he still "talking about forever" then too. Good luck!

Answer 5

First of all... long distance relationships rarely work out.
You are too young to make this sort of commitment, and certainly don't have enough of a history with this guy to do so. You know very little about him or his upbringing or home environment. You also don't know what he is up to the rest of the time while he is not talking or e-mailing you.

I would suggest that if you cannot find some common ground and common time together, that you forestall making any commitments. You have enough on your plates just getting through your education and starting your careers.

Answer 6

I was 14 when I started talking to a boy from Arizona.
I was from Texas.
& We were madly in love!
I know I did this the wrong way but I ran away with him
Well now it happens to be we are one happy married couple.
2 years of being married.
I mean it all depends on how you both feel sweetie.
Dont do nothing that you dont feel is right.
Good Luck!

Answer 7

Talk to him about it... I know it will be hard but try. I'm actually going out with someone who lives a hour and 30 minutes away from me, I see him every weekend... I have been dating him for a few months now, It's hard.. But I love him & willing to try to work it out.. which its going great so far. But every person is different. If you feel the need that you should end it, & it makes you happy then I guess thats a reason why you should. But if you really love him, then you should really keep trying.

Answer 8

Tell him. You're both too young to be deciding about "forever". You will both change your minds about a lot of things in the next 7 years or so. Telling him directly is the healthy thing to do.

Answer 9

Tell him how you feel, be honest. I'm a guy and I was in the same situation when I was 18, and she lied about things. It turned into a big mess. If you do not feel the same way he does just tell him. it's hard but trust me a lot better in the long run.

Answer 10

in the end hes going to find out how you feel so you may as well spill the beans now because the longer you wait the more infatuated he is going to be with you. Give it to him staight up and he will appreciate you doing it in the end. You just have to tell him how you feel and see what happens..good luck

Answer 11

forever is not a realistic thing for either of you yet. Why doesn't either of you drive. Wait until you can see more of ea other. tell him you are not ready for a lifelong commitment yet until you are able to see ea other at will.