what's ur opinion?

Question

according to some films that lovers after they broke up, became friends instead. but my own experience, i was friend with my ex at the first place, we just broke up, but until now,i still cant accept that we return to be friends, i mean we broke up because of long distance, nothing special, definitely no cheating.i feel terrible losing him thou i was person wanted to break up with him. i wanted to keep a great relationship with him like a normal friend, cause he seems like a part of my life and i really want him to enjoy every single there. but i dont know, when the real moments come, i cant even talk to him, all our old memories just keep rushing back..what do you think? do u still keep a close relationship with ur ex?

Answer 1

You can!!! It actually extremely natural, the problem happens thou that our culture doesn't leave room for it. Which basically means YOU have to understand how unconditional love is and YOU have to use it for YOUR relationship as YOU see fit. No looking to society for the easy answers, no going to day-time tv to see how everyone else is doing it, because in order for a relaitoship like that to work you have to look outside the box, you have to let go of alot of things other people just don't want to. See its common for people to get aaallll insecure as soon as someone they love sleeps with someone else, the truth is thats not unconditional love, thats conditional love, which most of our relationships are based on. So you hunnie are actually stepping outside the normal route for relationships, what does that make you? AWSOME!!! TO THE MAX! Really! I wish I could give you thumbs up for even being emotional attune enough to even THINK about trying this!! But that aside it isn't easy unless your COMPLETELY honest which I think you've got, but you've got to keep that up! Its not easy because you have to be HONEST about the BS this society shovels down our throats. I mean shoot even the exsistence of a relationship like that is beyond most people mentailites, get? So by going thru with it, don't let societies norms destroy it. Its not easy, but if you guys conitune to keep that relationship, and it continues to grow, you'll be stronger because of it! And the person who comes by to rewin that heart, has to be the same, or better of a person to win you over, so it works to save our hearts! On top of forces us to grow as individuals! So with that said heres the answer to those naggin questions

1. My opionin is that if you can keep this up, you'll be stronger for it!

2. Yes the old memories will flood bake like no other, but you NEED to communicate them to him, the ones your sure about and the ones your not, just relate that heart! Thats part of being in a "relate"ionship! So talk to him about it!

3. And Yes I do, funny thou it doesn't work for everyone, you BOTH have to be willing to make the relationship build, to help the bond grow stronger, and theres ALOT to tear it apart.

I wish the best for you two, just realize that THATS the way it should be, and the way we do it now, well doesn't do anyone any good and only helps to propetiate the overwelming insecurites we all feel.... sad, but true.....

Of course this is all my opionin.....