I started potty training her when she was 2 1/2, and it was almost a battle at first. She showed all the signs of being ready, and about 3 months later she seemed to get it and was doing great! We did the stickers, gave her books to read, and even resorted to candy at times. It got to the point where she would either tell us she had to go potty or got up herself and ran into the bathroom.
Recently (past week or so) she had totally regressed and I find her wet a few times a day. She is perfectly potty trained at day care, but once the weekend hits and she's at home, she pees (and even pooped) in her underwear. I am at my wits end! I hate to put her in Pull-ups or back in diapers again, but I am so frustrated. She will be 3 later this week. What am I doing wrong??
2007-09-15 09:50:08 · 11 answers · asked by Nicole W 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I do not think you are doing anything wrong!
I agree with not putting her back in a Pull-up or diaper. Those of us who have put our children in diaper (I did with my first and found EC, eliminiation communication, with my 2nd - not even 1 and he pees and poops in the toilet for me) and have to do traditional PTing, where there is usually a power struggle, have trained them to use their diaper as the toilet. So if you put a Pull-up or diaper back on her then she will probably not even care.
Give her some nakey butt time! I have been PTing DS1 for some time now and him going nakey butt is the only really good way I have found to work. Putting anything (undies, shorts, pants) around him that even feels like a diaper then he just uses it as a diaper.
If you do not want her running around totally nakey butt sure a skirt would work to cover her up.
2007-09-15 10:07:53 · answer #1 · answered by suncb22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's what I did with my now 3 - year - old son:
First, throw out the disposable diapers/pull - ups. They just reinfore the fact that they can go in their pants. Instead, get cloth training pants (and plenty of them!) Try letting your daughter pick out designs she likes so she'll want to keep them dry. Then, set aside a few days when you can really work with her. Have her sit on the potty every half hour (even if she says she doesn't have to go), and do pants checks every 15 minutes. If she does have an accident, don't yell or scold. Instead, have her feel her pants so she knows they're wet. Have her go to the potty and go through the motions - pulling down her pants, sitting down, etc. Have her pull her wet pants back up, and return to the spot where she had the accident. Remind her again (again, no yelling, but make sure she knows you mean business!) that she needs to not go there, but instead use the potty. Once again, return immediately to the potty, have her go through the motions, but this time give her a clean pair of pants. Make sure to involve her in any cleaning that her accident requires. This isn't a punishment, but will rather make her more aware of her toilet needs and will reinforce that she's a big girl who can do it herself. Using this method, with plenty of praise (My son loved it when I sang the "We Did It" song from Dora), my little guy was a potty pro in less than a week. It's a process, so try to be patient. Good luck!
2007-09-15 13:47:28 · answer #2 · answered by SoBox 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, and I'm afraid that you as a parent shouldn't be bothered about doing this for YOUR child, that's what parenting entails. You got pregnant, you had your child, so YOU take the hard work that comes with it. Why complain about something so minor? How do you think every other parent with a potty trained child copes? You actually want your child in discomfort when she fills her nappies just so you get it easy? As a parent NOTHING should be too much trouble where your kids are concerned, you come across as very young and a very immature mother. People have babies that are ill 24/7 and never complain about tending to their every need and never having a minutes rest, you're very lucky your not that parent. You wouldn't cope, what would you do? Try and give her to the hospital till she's better? Stop being lazy and moaning about every little thing, you won't get sympathy here.
2016-05-20 04:57:24 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me on this subject. You can't rush or push any child to be potty trained. It will happen eventually. I was being pressured by my mother in law and I was stressing out thinking that it was something that I was doing wrong. Finally I realized that he will do it when he is ready. Obviously he was seeing my frustration in the whole experience. Not even a week later he started on his own and never had an accident and he is 9 now. Give her some space. She has the concept of what she needs to do because she has learned it already. It will happen in due time.
2007-09-15 12:42:28 · answer #4 · answered by Jen S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go check out her potty at preschool. She may like it better. Did the sticker and candy stop? She'll get it.
I have 3. 1 more to get out of diapers, the oldest....took 1 week. No lying! The middle one.......MONTHS! One day at 31/4 she just...decided to go in the potty. I did nothing diffrent bettween the two girls, they are just diffrent.
We do own the book, "Everybody poops" LOL!
2007-09-15 10:04:07 · answer #5 · answered by Kristi B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have there been any changes at your home? New baby, divorce, fighting, new home, etc. Think of everything because what you might think is a minor change can be major to a toddler and cause regression to babyish behavior. Also, instead of pull-up (Overrated and expensive) get cloth training pants and put an extra liner in it. It helps them feel the wet better instead of absorbing.
2007-09-15 09:58:34 · answer #6 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My daughter really wanted to be independent when it came to potty training. She did not want to use a floor potty and she did not want to be lifted to the toilet. Kids have to relax and feel comfortable to have a bowel movement. The Potty Stool worked great for my kids. http://www.thepottystool.com This stool is well made and it makes every toilet kid-sized. It really helped my daughter to have a safe and sturdy way for her to get to the toilet on her own. To help with pooping, put toilet paper over the water so that there is no splash. I hope this helps you.
2007-09-15 17:47:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
whatever you do, DO NOT PUT HER IN DIAPERS OR PULL UPS. this would confuse her, and cause her to become lazy about it...
if you give in like that, she will always expect it... if you think it is hard now, imagine putting up with a 5 year old in diapers!
shes probably just doing this for attention... dont give it to her! if she says she wet herself, say "ok" and ignore her. once she figures out that she wont get a reaction, she will probably quit. Maybe get her a toddler potty wih her favorite character on it? maybe that would motivate her.
2007-09-15 09:56:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids often regress when they have been "trained" It's always better to leave it to the child as it will come to them naturally. It's a bit unusual tho if she toilets at day care. Maybe she's getting back at you for sending her?
2007-09-15 13:10:59 · answer #9 · answered by geni 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son use to do the same thing when he was having fun or playing outside with friends. He was just having so much fun he didn't want to stop and take the time to pee. You may want to call the doctor and make sure she doesn't have an infection. I hope this helps
2007-09-15 11:27:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋