It's been almost 2 years since I left my cheating ex. Now I'm thankful to be happily engaged to the most wonderful man. But ever once in a while, a thought pops up and makes me wonder why did he do it?
To spare you with the detailed story, here's the specifics:
- we're both between 24-27 yrs old
- I helped him financially while he before and after he went out of the country to teach English. He ran into some trouble overseas, and I was up 24/7 supporting him, helping him.
- I later found out he had been cheating on me in the US and Asia. I told the girls here, so he still blames me for ruining their friendship.
- I questioned him, he denied everything. I never told his family members what happened.
He's tried to contact me to see if I was still angry with him. I never responded. I felt so betrayed & minipulated-
How do I heal this pain? should I confront him again? I really just want to move on with life, but am having such a hard time -
2007-09-15 09:32:32 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Time heals all wounds....conversely, time wounds all heels...which is what this guy sounds like. So dear...forget him...move on
2007-09-15 09:38:31 · answer #1 · answered by ozimandius009 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Geez it's been two years and although it most certainly would hurt (and probably will till you get planted) it's time to move on. You are engaged to another man at present so why allow this old wound to have any bearing on your happiness now. Face the fact that you may have been used by your ex. financially, emotionally and put it to bed. Get on with your life and if you never find out for certain why he cheated it shouldn't matter now as you have a new life. Best of luck and if you need help with this then see a counsellor or someone but don't bother to confront ex as he's most likely going to embellish his story anyway.
2007-09-15 09:41:03 · answer #2 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he wants to say he is sorry , let him , forgive him and don't make such a big deal outta someone else making a mistake . nobody is perfect , yes i understand you supported him emotionally and spiritually with all your heart . but the lesson for you is that now you have a man who you trust who also trust you right ? be thankful for what you have and remember this guy has to live with losing you because of what he did , he is only being honest with himself and you , he doesn't want to be who he was . he is matureing into a real man and wants you to know he thinks enough of you to respect your feelings , if not then he does now . he has grown to be a better man and has you on the list of people to be thankful for it . people chang , some for the better and some for the worst , it sounds like you loved him enough to help him change for the better . if he had to do it over again he wouldn't and that should mean alot to you .
2007-09-15 09:45:35 · answer #3 · answered by david m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Once a cheater, always a cheater"
It's time that you should forget about him because he's just a cheater. He's always going to cheat, anyways. There's no point in helping him. He blames you for no good reason, forget this jerk
2007-09-15 09:40:15 · answer #4 · answered by Thao Kun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over it.
2007-09-15 09:39:51 · answer #5 · answered by ra.osiris 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋